Do you tell everyone this when you are not happy?!
I have noticed my boss and some people will do this, like they want you to know right away. Is this good or bad? I supoose its honest and direct.
Whereas, if I am not happy I dont really tell everyone, I just kind of go to my room and cry.
Or maybe put on a rage song and yell at the top of my lungs (grunge music was good for this)
I think its because I dont really want to hurt anyone with my being unhappy, or make people think its all their fault. Then my unhappiness doesnt last for too long (after praying) cos being a misery guts isnt that fun to be around
Of course, one cant be happy ALL the time and you cant please everyone. Some people cope by drinking ('happy hour') but I never did that. Children just get happy meals from McDonalds. You can also go to a 'happy place' either in your mind or create one, and if Im not happy I kind of tend to change things around till I am happy. But I dont really tell other people that Im not happy cos what can they really do?
Doctors now can say 'take a chill pill' and actually prescribe anti-depressants. Or are their benefits to comiseration...like if someone tells you they are unhappy do you chime in and say yep life is pretty awful..!
I don't think I tell many people how I actually feel when they ask... Not even those close to me. I will tell my husband when my pain levels are living hell .. but I generalize depending on how close someone is to me.
The "I'm in living hell" I might tell my husband or son will be "healing slowly or moving slowly" to someone who is not so close with a positive close like "but I'm on an upward trajectory".. (positivity matters)
I don't generally outright lie, but I only let people so close.
My main problem for me though is that I'm disabled, and usually people are automatically asking after my health when they ask how I am. You do have to be a pretty far distance for me to say "doing fine", like a cashier at a grocery store kind of close.
But it's not dishonest, since the cashier is asking for a polite generalization and not to be your friend or confident.
I do think I have a tendency to look my emotions though, you'd have to not know me not to be able to decipher how much pain I'm in, and when my daughter died even the grocery store cashier asked out of real concern.
So I think my face is an open book.