If Jesus is all I need, then why I do I feel like I need to belong to a group of people?

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Lanolin

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the caretaker at my school had a part time gardener working with him but she left..retired I think also, thy used to argue a lot lol

now he is on his own, but hes outgoing and does the road patrol and scares the children with the leaf blower
I ask him for advice on fixing things, like the other day he gave me some kerosene for my gummy scissors
they were sticking and not cutting...I didnt want to have to fork over money for new scissors!

he works during school hours AND comes in during school breaks. I dont know about the cleaners tho whether they work in teams after school or by themselves. I dont see them
 
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well
if nobody is making the effort maybe you need to start something
what happens with my librarians group is one librarian calls a meeting once a term and different librarians host it in their library and we meet after school

or sometimes meet just meet one on one for visits to different libraries

it isnt just social its practical for example if Ive got too many duplicate books and another librarian is missing some from her library we arrange a swap to save money
This has been going on for a while. As in several years, at least.... But my anger over this, really got a hold of me, this year! At least I really started to FEEL the anger in more intensity then in the past. I started noticing that when it came to outreaching. I was the one trying to do it in as nice as possible way and I could, and yet it appeared that I was getting rejected by nearly everyone! In my opinion, our current librarian is a total hypocrite. Or she's really dumb. I'm not sure which. She was a former teacher too. Last year she retired and then decided to come back, and work as a librarian.

I do little things to try and maintain any little social thing that I can... I took just a little bit of time off of doing my job to show her some pictures of my model airplanes. She says, I don't have time for that. But you can show the lady who is sitting next to me. So I start showing the lady next to her. The lady next to her says, "Hey these are pretty good!" Then the librarian, says, "Hey give me that!" Looks at them, and then hands them back to me. The she starts lecturing me how I should join a model airplane club. So, I'm like "Ok". And walked away.

Like several weeks or a month or two, I forget really. A long time later. lol She finds me in the hallway, and says "Hey you never talk to me anymore". I responded. "Because every time I try to talk to you, your always too busy". She responds "Well that's true because I'm a librarian now."

Here is the thing, my story just sounds like this was just a one time thing. But this story is just one example of many other times with her. And believe me, even when she was a teacher, she acted like this... Several times when she was a teacher, she commented that she never sees me anymore. I responded, it's because you've been leaving the school before i had a chance to get to your room. She responded. "Yeah that is probably true." Then there were the few times when she just wanted to give me a hard time. She would try saying some meaningless thing to me in the hallway. The problem is, I had head phones on, and I was pushing my trash carts over the tile floor. Making it nearly impossible to hear anything. So I would stop, take off my head phones, and try to find out what it was she was muttering to me. It turned out to be something really dumb.

AND SHE'S ALMOST THE ONLY PERSON THAT ACTUALLY TRIES TALKING TO ME! Seems like she's backed away from it. Reduced it down to "hi". Which, when it comes to her, I'm fine with it.

I got lots of stories I could tell you to make my point. But I want to stop here for now.
 

soberxp

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If Jesus is all I need, then why I do I feel like I need to belong to a group of people?
God said to have many children, so some people sing, some write books, some make movies, some make games, and then you join them to enjoy these things that belong to group of life.
 
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If Jesus is all I need, then why I do I feel like I need to belong to a group of people?
In order to fulfill what the church is called to do. 1 Thessalonians 5:11, ""Therefore encourage one another and build each other up, just as in fact you are doing." If you don't get yourself with other believers, you are missing out on being encouraged and building each other up.

If I stopped going to church due to recent circumstances that have occurred in my life, I wouldn't have experienced being supported during my time of losing my job and losing my car all in the matter of two weeks. I wouldn't have been prayed for, I wouldn't have been given money during my time of need, I wouldn't have had people reaching out to me and asking how I am.

Sure, it's not a requirement to get to heaven - but Jesus indeed calls us to be in fellowship with other believers. It's all throughout the Word :)
 
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In order to fulfill what the church is called to do. 1 Thessalonians 5:11, ""Therefore encourage one another and build each other up, just as in fact you are doing." If you don't get yourself with other believers, you are missing out on being encouraged and building each other up.

If I stopped going to church due to recent circumstances that have occurred in my life, I wouldn't have experienced being supported during my time of losing my job and losing my car all in the matter of two weeks. I wouldn't have been prayed for, I wouldn't have been given money during my time of need, I wouldn't have had people reaching out to me and asking how I am.

Sure, it's not a requirement to get to heaven - but Jesus indeed calls us to be in fellowship with other believers. It's all throughout the Word :)
Also, after reading some of your comments - I was ALSO forgotten about Christians. You just have to find the right kinds of Christians who will love you no matter what.
 
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Also, after reading some of your comments - I was ALSO forgotten about Christians. You just have to find the right kinds of Christians who will love you no matter what.
I grew up in the Church. I asked Christ into my heart at the age of 6 in 1986! I went to various Churches my entire life. There was only a very short 3 year period in my life where other Christians supported me. That Church broke up, and I lost all contact with those people. So for almost my entire life, I have had to live with no Christians supporting me. Even when I reach out to other Christians they just blow me off.
 

Lanolin

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your teacher turned librarian sounds a bit odd
but then all the other teachers dont make the effort so... that is cos they claim are so busy...

I wouldnt worry bout it
if they want to talk they they will but I had given up on teachers organising stuff myself as something is always coming up for them

my focus is more on the children getting to know them

if someone showed me a model they had made I would be interested, (in the model) seems a bit far out to brush you off like that, for all she knows you could already be in a model club ?!

esp if she could use the model for a display in the library. Cos I would.
 

Lanolin

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ok before you get too down on yourself you are here NOW on CC with bunch of christians who can pray for you and listen

we not going away. Dont let whatever it is in the past get in the way of what is happening now.

online, even though we not face to face, we are still gathered in His name.
 
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If Jesus is all I need, then why I do I feel like I need to belong to a group of people?
Jesus is all you need for the salvation of your soul.

You’re a human, though, and you have other needs like food, clothing, shelter, and companionship. God said it’s not good for man to be alone in Genesis. That means God wants you to not be along, ipso facto God wants you to belong to a group of people like friends and family.

If you need help finding friends, you can try going to volunteer activities. You should be able to search out something online for your home town or city. Also you can always just chat with me if you want. God bless.
 
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your teacher turned librarian sounds a bit odd
but then all the other teachers dont make the effort so... that is cos they claim are so busy...

I wouldnt worry bout it
if they want to talk they they will but I had given up on teachers organising stuff myself as something is always coming up for them

my focus is more on the children getting to know them

if someone showed me a model they had made I would be interested, (in the model) seems a bit far out to brush you off like that, for all she knows you could already be in a model club ?!

esp if she could use the model for a display in the library. Cos I would.
It's funny you called her odd. Yeah I've been calling her odd for most my life! Just not to her face. LOL It was just pictures of the models. Like on a small book of paper, that I printed.
 
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Jesus is all you need for the salvation of your soul.

You’re a human, though, and you have other needs like food, clothing, shelter, and companionship. God said it’s not good for man to be alone in Genesis. That means God wants you to not be along, ipso facto God wants you to belong to a group of people like friends and family.

If you need help finding friends, you can try going to volunteer activities. You should be able to search out something online for your home town or city. Also you can always just chat with me if you want. God bless.
I've tried searching online and couldn't find anything fitting for me.
 

Lanolin

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persistence

some people just give up after the first few tries and expect someone or something to fall in their lap
also it depends on what search terms or keywords you use and which search engine

Obviously if you type in garbage into google you will get garbage, and it will give you millions of hits

If you are looking for a needle in a haystack, you need to specify and recognie its hard and made of metal, while sifting through a lot of hay

But obviously its better to look for needles in a pin cushion or sewing kit, or maybe a knitting bag. Cos thats where they all are..!
 
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persistence

some people just give up after the first few tries and expect someone or something to fall in their lap
also it depends on what search terms or keywords you use and which search engine

Obviously if you type in garbage into google you will get garbage, and it will give you millions of hits

If you are looking for a needle in a haystack, you need to specify and recognie its hard and made of metal, while sifting through a lot of hay

But obviously its better to look for needles in a pin cushion or sewing kit, or maybe a knitting bag. Cos thats where they all are..!
I tried multiple times over the course of several years. When do you recommend someone gives up! I know what I'm looking for. Something close to where I live. And I found nothing.
 

Lanolin

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if you live way out far away from everyone there might be nothing, sadly

the cities are usually where people go to find more people. If you want to do something to attract more people to your area you need to put on an event or festival or something, to bring in visitors.

Or...convert your home into a b&b or homestay and offer a spare room to someone, maybe they can do some work in your area or help out around the home.

You can put an online listing up (NOT a personal ad) and then screen people that way. Just a suggestion if you havent thought of it before

I dont know how long you been looking for friends but dont stop till you tried everything, including praying, You can pray for ideas to put into action, its not all God can someone just show up at my door because that may not happen lol. or its someone like the avon lady or jehovahs witness.
 

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Not everyone wants to hang out with work mates. Many just want to work and go home and are not interested in anything but that professional relationship. It is normal. Nothing wrong with you. Accept that.

As far as church one should expect to find a real family who is interested in you and cares about you. Keep visiting other churches if that is not happening. Don't give up. Google "Assemblies of God near me" and go check it out this Sunday, Pentecost Sunday.

Also, be aware of social skills. People can have poor social skills all their lives not because they don't care about others but because they have not trained themselves to adapt better social skills. They keep doing what comes naturally and often it is not conveying the correct message to others.

Read the classic "How to win friends and influence People" and learn about what it means to show sincere interest in others. Don't think you already know how to do these things because most people don't do them naturally.

And don't misjudge the book by it's title. It has nothing to do with manipulating people. It teaches real and sincere methods for caring about people and listening to them and encouraging them. It will help you overcome your whining habits, and negative complaining habits that are deeply rooted in most people until they train themselves to communicate differently.

Don't think that the number of years you have dealt with an issue means that you are going to have a hard time changing it. By taking the practical steps to train yourself to communicate differently and be a good listener you can radically change your life.

One of the best tips you will learn is that you have control over how you let negative responses effect you. As simple as that sounds it is a life changer when you finally learn how it works.
 

Lanolin

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haha whining habits

sooo many people whine and complain about their situation then expect others to empathise with them
thats not the way to make friends

I went to church this Sunday, pentecost
I may only see some people at church and nowhere else because its hard to meet up outside of it
but thats ok, it was nice to see them anyway

I usually find a friend to go with or offer a ride to someone going and that is also a way to make friends.

some people are awkward though, they may ask weird questions like one lady, bless her kept asking are you married are your siblings married, when her own children arent married like all she could think of was marriage and I was like. Ok whatever but you get that

its kind of inane some of the small talk like are you still working cos they cant think of anything else to say

whereas if it was a child it would be like look at that rainbow or whatever. WHo cares if you working (its sunday who wants to talk about work?) or married. (if married youd be with your spouse would you not) Its not important. what matters is you alive breathing. present and youve got the Holy Spirit and praising God!