If you’re planning to go on a date with someone special, who should pay for it?

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Who should pay for the date?

  • The woman should pay.

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Mikhal

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I MUST Pay, It just wouldn't feel right otherwise.
 

JesusLives

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Unless of course you don't live near the ocean and it is winter..
Most people aren't homeless....so in winter you can go to each other's place and watch a movie and make popcorn. Finding ways to be with the one you want to be with isn't hard. Just takes a little imagination and planning. It doesn't take a lot of money either....
 

Lanolin

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Build a snowman or make an ice sculpture. Or go sledding. I would definitely be into that. Then have hot chocolate and marshmallows after.
 

laughingheart

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I think it is a lovely gesture when the gentleman offers to pay. In my last relationship he would take us out to dinner and in turn I would invite him over for home cooked meals. I would enjoy a chance to dress up and look my best and he would enjoy walking into my home and smelling meatloaf, cheese biscuits, and apple pie. We both contributed in our own way. Neither of us felt taken for granted. It was rather nice.
 

1christian1

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Most people aren't homeless....so in winter you can go to each other's place and watch a movie and make popcorn. Finding ways to be with the one you want to be with isn't hard. Just takes a little imagination and planning. It doesn't take a lot of money either....
Yeah, That's what I have done in my past. What this person said was very specific. LOL.. Just making light of things...
 

Desdichado

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And maybe another one who has a face that says "I'll hack off your arm and make it our meal."

Perhaps the Lord will send someone with “dog like ears” and senses to help you prepare the meat.
 

MegMarch

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And maybe another one who has a face that says "I'll hack off your arm and make it our meal."
Only those who are truly blessed. And possibly one who will lead you into the royal courts to share your meal.
 

BlessedByGod

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For me, it's not more "Im a guy, therefore I SHOULD pay", rather this: Hey. I'm intrested in going out, finding out more about you and having some good clean fun together. If you want to go Dutch, ok I can do that. But, I would rather pay for it. I want you to not have a worry about taking care of a thing for the date, just enjoying yourself and allowing me the opportunity to share in your company for a while.
 

Butterflyyy

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For me, if you want to make a good impression please pay for our date :D it is not because I can't pay for myself or for both of us...but because it is a gentleman's act. It is a biggest turn off for me if the man will ask me to split the bill...for sure I will share or even pay for the meal but sorry there will be no next time.




When me and my ex travelled we shared... He told me that he will goin to pay and didn't want me to share. He paid for the plane tickets,and accommodations...but I paid for our food and other expenses like travel guides,bus,boats etc) but most of the time he ended up paying for our meals :D He insisted always. I reciprocated his chivalry by giving him things like souvenirs etc. and taking care of his things :) For me it is not about money...not about how much money you are willing to spend...Our dates doesn't have to be expensive (you can take me out to eat street food I would love it yayy 😍 ) ...but how you made me feel special :)
This is exactly how I feel.... however, if it was a first date and I knew I did not intend to go on a second date with this person then I would insist on going halves then he wouldn't feel used and I wouldn't feel uncomfortable being perceived as using him.
But absolutely if a guy I liked was not generous and caring it would've very off-putting ugh.
 

1christian1

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I think it is a lovely gesture when the gentleman offers to pay. In my last relationship he would take us out to dinner and in turn I would invite him over for home cooked meals. I would enjoy a chance to dress up and look my best and he would enjoy walking into my home and smelling meatloaf, cheese biscuits, and apple pie. We both contributed in our own way. Neither of us felt taken for granted. It was rather nice.
Perfect!!!