Dear Seoul search, your very admirable,
I like the way you wrote, admitting our fears is half the battle, then praying one for another; having admitted we receive motivation to turn to the Lord for help in prayer. As for your concerns: as we live in the sight of God, "Forgetting what lies behind to go on" to know the Lord, "There is no fear in Love, but perfect Love delivers us from fear." Life does not happen the way we fear, God is Graceful and delivers us from our fears. God bless you and give you the desire of your heart.
I became emotionally involved with 2 women here, both from the Philippines, both stopped coming to the site when we became involved. I was the one who approached the first and had the greater interest, she was also recovering from heart break... Eventually from experience, if interest subsides I end up in agreement. The second woman approached me, as I intended to approach her, her interest is stronger than mine and more patient, we compliment each other well with differences. it's learning perseverance and to see the Lord in our situation. The First relationship, I did not have peace, when we got emotionally involved. The Lord has been helping us in this relationship. At the beginning He said: wait and regain confidence. Yes waiting for Him so that we don't lose sight of Him and fall apart.
Be blessed and refreshed.