If you would like to marry soon...….?

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Hungry

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I haven’t formed an opinion of anyone. I’m glimpsing a sliver of your countenance in sound bytes here and there. I am more inclined to observe how the person conducts themselves in their interactions. Courtesy and kindness are attributes I value in my discourse.

Having a laundry list of qualities is pointless and detailing every aspect to the letter is unwise. There will always be attributes you didn’t anticipate and others that arrive in a measure you weren’t expecting. You need to know the why behind your choice. When you substantiate a desire with concrete truths it pulls it from the clouds, grounds it, and makes it real.

Oftentimes the result of the exercise is streamlining and that’s a must. We have a bad habit of equating ideals with facts. When you unpack the reasons you’re forced to consider the why and frequency of its presence.

The person who must have a movie lover as a partner will have evidence of the same in themselves or another connection. One of the ways to gauge your seriousness is to analyze the common denominators in your relations. Both intimate and platonic. What keeps cropping up? What rarely appears? How many items on your list did you find within them each?

That is the difference between what we believe and what we do. And my response is the latter. It is a summation of fit not preference. That is my approach with everyone in my circle.

Your desire to deduce an outcome is the antithesis of my mindset. Placing others in a box prohibits us from appreciating differences and developing tolerance.

I don’t want someone who thinks, feels, or communicates as I do. I don’t need them to draw the same conclusions or share my insight to understand. I want them to walk in the fullness of their divine makeup. Not the limited being others promote.

God’s will shall be accomplished. That’s a fact.
Perhaps it’s just bad information, but I have heard most people take just a few seconds to form an opinion of you. Then every encounter is tainted by preconceptions. First impressions maybe the hardest impressions to change. Although I revere you welcoming the individuality of a potential suitor, compatibility has time and again been the characteristic of lasting relationships. Especially when making important decisions, having a partner that thinks like you breeds trust. As well someone who shares passion for things you like, brings couples closer together. As stated God’s will shall be done, whether it is immediately sacking Jericho or being led in the wilderness for forty years, and then sacking Jericho, I chose the former.
 
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To be like Jesus? I dont know havent really thought about it. Can we just say to be more like Jesus and if they are going to be a dad, someone who, like our heavenly father would never leave nor forsake us. Someone who stays faithful no matter what.

I dont know about what you mean about 'sometime soon' especially if nobody you know is even like that. Most of the men who want to talk to me arent interested in the things of God and they dont seem to have a clue about it! They all about the flesh and chasing women for what they look like and their self image. When they say things about how nice you look, I think well I now I look like this you dont have to tell me...have you got anything deeper to say? The next day I may change my clothes and wear something different Lol the last three men that were calling me were like that and I was like why God? Send them away please.

I think Im not going to be married anytime soon so you probably asking the wrong person.
I find the same with women, cleavage on display, nothing but a facade. They lack any substance beneath there looks. Also find a lot of narcissists and aspirational thinkers. As soon as I behave in the truth and them I am on welfare and effectively retired, they run away. I despair
 

Princesse

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Perhaps it’s just bad information, but I have heard most people take just a few seconds to form an opinion of you. Then every encounter is tainted by preconceptions. First impressions maybe the hardest impressions to change. Although I revere you welcoming the individuality of a potential suitor, compatibility has time and again been the characteristic of lasting relationships. Especially when making important decisions, having a partner that thinks like you breeds trust. As well someone who shares passion for things you like, brings couples closer together. As stated God’s will shall be done, whether it is immediately sacking Jericho or being led in the wilderness for forty years, and then sacking Jericho, I chose the former.
I am most concerned with the opinions of those I’m invested in who are equally committed to my betterment. I don’t worry about those outside that circle. I’ll put my best foot forward. But they don’t know my bones. And it’s unprofitable to tie myself in knots over their opinions. Every one has them. But not all voices have the same weight and effectiveness. And I draw from those who’ve proven their mettle and trustworthiness. Not the crowd.

When I speak of fit, I’m articulating the constancy of compatibility in all my connections. We fit one another and value its presence. That isn’t limited to the opposite sex. But we’re not identical. I look for people who excel where I struggle and they do the same. There’s some overlap. But the differences are important. They bring perspective and freshness.

Most goal-driven people are the same. We’re results- oriented and intentional. We always have the bottom line or end in sight. And it informs our actions, mindset and relationships.

Thus, I’m unlikely to scrutinize a stranger or concern myself with their affairs without a valid reason. The payoff would fuel the inquiries and observation. First impressions can be wrong and jumping the gun necessitates revision. It’s best to take your time and unwrap them. That’s more interesting.