Is marriage worth it?

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ShemYoshi

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JohnDB said:
My wife is my best friend and confidant. We work together in all sorts of ways on all sorts of projects outside of just having a home.
Sure, the "lone wolf" on a mission sounds romantic....but being part of a tribe or family group that is focused on accomplishing God's goals and desires sounds so much more like fun.

And a marriage that joins two families together to accomplish even more together is even better.

Sex? Physical intimacy? The tail that wags the dog? Uhhhh....you have been brainwashed by marketing. It's not the end all be all of a relationship. You and a woman together creating a tribe of little people to bring out your unique relationship with God is the object of the exercise.

Being old and alone is not exactly the best life goal to work towards.
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I'll share this verse again. The object of life is not to get married. It might be a normal thing to do, but if that was the objective of life, God would have no saving power for anyone outside of marriage.

1 Corinthians 7:32-34 Amplified Bible (AMP)But I want you to be free from concern. The unmarried man is concerned about the things of the Lord, how he may please the Lord; but the married man is concerned about worldly things, how he may please his wife, and his interests are divided.
 
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ShemYoshi

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Personally I think the objective of life is to be myself. Uniquely, fearfully and wonderfully made. And people who try to influence me, as if there life is better off because of marriage can kick rocks.

First thing first. Am I not perfect the way I am? I seek nothing else.
 
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ShemYoshi

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seoulsearch said:
I just wanted to ask, what is it that women say is shameful about your male anatomy? And who are these women? Family? Friends? Church members?

I'm just curious as to how this happened. For instance, did you have women in your family constantly telling you that there was something wrong with the male anatomy while you were growing up?

I'm asking because you seem to be saying that the reason you call women's periods gross is because it's your retaliation for women calling something about men's bodies shameful, and I'm wondering what the process was that made such a deep impression on you.

I do understand that there are people (women included!) who find a woman's monthly cycle to be rather... unpleasant.

But one thing I can say about your post -- it made me all the more grateful for the dad and male friends I've had who see it as a regular part of life, and offer compassion and help, rather than disgust.

To all the guys who understand this is something we ladies have to go through and aren't particularly happy about either, thank you.
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Ya I'm a man, and I ejaculate by nature, and I get headful of backlash from woman for it. And hypothetical men
 
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ShemYoshi said:
You have a problem with truth.

1 Corinthians 7:32-34 Amplified Bible (AMP)But I want you to be free from concern. The unmarried man is concerned about the things of the Lord, how he may please the Lord; but the married man is concerned about worldly things, how he may please his wife, and his interests are divided.
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i know people who have had happy relationships where there wasn’t any sex for 7 years. They enjoyed one another’s company. Some enjoy the presence of Jesus that they get from one another as Christians, such as peace, comfort and a sense of security.
 
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Having a partner just for sex is not what it’s all cracked up to be. I’ve been in a relationship like that and it gets wilder and wilder and wilder, while also getting dark, darker and darkest. Until you realize that this isn’t what love is like but what the world sells us what a relationship is like, it will be straight up abuse and selfishness.

i will pray that God opens your eyes on this matter…either by experiencing it for yourself, along with the ten years of regret and depression afterwards that I went through or having some kind of epiphany, so you don’t make that decision.
 
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ShemYoshi

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ForgiveMeGod said:
i know people who have had happy relationships where there wasn’t any sex for 7 years. They enjoyed one another’s company. Some enjoy the presence of Jesus that they get from one another as Christians, such as peace, comfort and a sense of security.
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It's just a fact. House, wife, kids, car, job, taxes, etc.... its worldly.

I mean in the end what mattered?


I live wherever the spirit blows me
 
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ShemYoshi

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ForgiveMeGod said:
Having a partner just for sex is not what it’s all cracked up to be. I’ve been in a relationship like that and it gets wilder and wilder and wilder, while also getting dark, darker and darkest. Until you realize that this isn’t what love is like but what the world sells us what a relationship is like, it will be straight up abuse and selfishness.

i will pray that God opens your eyes on this matter…either by experiencing it for yourself, along with the ten years of regret and depression afterwards that I went through or having some kind of epiphany, so you don’t make that decision.
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The reason I said sex is the only selling point is because sometimes I burn with desire and passion. If I didn't burn, there would be no selling point.

Maybe kids? Love? But I'm happy with who I am. And I desire my freedom above all things.
 
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ShemYoshi said:
The reason I said sex is the only selling point is because sometimes I burn with desire and passion. If I didn't burn, there would be no selling point.

Maybe kids? Love? But I'm happy with who I am. And I desire my freedom above all things.
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Well, I am not going to stop you. We do have free will and ultimately it’s your decision.
 
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ShemYoshi said:
Ya I'm a man, and I ejaculate by nature, and I get headful of backlash from woman for it. And hypothetical men
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I am truly sorry that people have shamed you for something that's a biological part of the way God made men. From this perspective, I can understand why you made your original statement about women having "gross periods."

Unfortunately and for whatever reason, God made natural things about both men and women's bodies and what they do that aren't always the most pleasant.

I hope you find people who are more compassionate and understanding. Please know that not all women feel this way about men's functioning and many of us can empathize that this is just part of life, just like our own menstrual cycles.

May God shine His blessings on you!
 
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ShemYoshi said:
I'll share this verse again. The object of life is not to get married. It might be a normal thing to do, but if that was the objective of life, God would have no saving power for anyone outside of marriage.

1 Corinthians 7:32-34 Amplified Bible (AMP)But I want you to be free from concern. The unmarried man is concerned about the things of the Lord, how he may please the Lord; but the married man is concerned about worldly things, how he may please his wife, and his interests are divided.
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Old and alone are not worthy life goals.

Marriage is not the goal either. That was only you twisting my intent.

But living a REAL life full and rich is attractive to many people....and they don't stay single for very long. Funny how that works that way.
 
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JohnDB said:
Old and alone are not worthy life goals.

Marriage is not the goal either. That was only you twisting my intent.

But living a REAL life full and rich is attractive to many people....and they don't stay single for very long. Funny how that works that way.
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There you go peeing on single people again.

I'm 46 and still single. You have just basically said my life is not full and rich. But it is.
 
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ThereRoseaLamb

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ShemYoshi said:
So you have no selling point for marriage then. Other then you want companionship. It's like sex
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Oh, I'm sorry, I thought I was talking to someone who could read and then comprehend what they're reading. My bad, I'm talking to a three year old.
 
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Marriage isn't for everyone sometimes God calls us for higher purposes. You could be called to be a missionary or an Ascetic or a teacher but a person could also be called after they are married too.
Such as Eric Liddell who had his wife leave China and and stayed as ww2 began. had he survived ww2 he said he wanted to go to Japan and surve the Japanese.

:Anyone who loves their father or mother more than me is not worthy of me; anyone who loves their son or daughter more than me is not worthy of me."
 
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