Longing for a wife /family

[CasS22]

You don't have ANY interests, anything you do for fun?

Dog park but most of what I like my wife can par take . I mean my ideal lady would be a dog lover as well. When I’m working after that dog park then stuff around the house and it’s bed time , I’m not the most exciting person but I’m happy

 

[melita916]

Hobbies are awesome.

My husband and I are members of the music team at our local fellowship. It’s awesome to participate together.

 

[Pipp]

Hang in there, brother. I find that helping others takes my mind off of what I don't have ..lol it keeps me to busy to dwell on it .

 

[CasS22]

i am Caro wright by name Am spiritual woman, dedicated, sincere, kind, passionate, reasonable, intelligent and honest. I identify myself as a safe and patient woman, with a heart Young woman full of illusions, very stable and firm with my decisions, responsible with my actions, direct in my words and loyal, I have a dreamy potential, with my feet on the ground and Thoughts to heaven, I believe in love, I believe in life, I believe in the good wife that someday I can be, I am always smiling waiting for the blessings for my life. I can describe my interests as a way to feel alive: sing, write, art, sigh, believe, love, eat lol, sport, learn, teach, nature and more ... If you are interested in me please write me [email protected]

Thanks Caro,

I’ll be honest and blunt but few red flags , 1 your a new memeber , 2 your email looks a bit fishy , and 3 picture is a bit suspect haha. Why couldn’t we chat here ?

Hmmmmmmmmm

 

[CasS22]

Hang in there, brother. I find that helping others takes my mind off of what I don't have ..lol it keeps me to busy to dwell on it .

I hear ya , working on staying more busy ..I’ve come to the realization after reading the responses I do need to work on myself , ALOT lol . And it’s true the rest will fall into place if meant to be.

Best relationships I had came out of no where

 

[Lynx]

I hear ya , working on staying more busy ..I’ve come to the realization after reading the responses I do need to work on myself , ALOT lol . And it’s true the rest will fall into place if meant to be.

Best relationships I had came out of no where

Don't just try to stay busy. Find something you can get EXCITED about, something you love to do.

"We talk about comfort and luxury as though they are necessary for a happy life.
The only thing that is necessary for a happy life is something to be enthusiastic about."

And yes, the best things in life always take you by surprise.

 

[tourist]

I’m 33 years old , and at the point where I would love to be married and have a family .

In today’s world it’s especially hard to find a woman the respects God and his word and actually fears him . I don’t want to rush anything with anyone nor settle yet I find myself slowly slipping into temptation time to time and every time feeling more empty .

I understand Jesus love should be enough , but clearly I’m not close enough to him just yet , or not his timing. But curious if some of you feel the same and how you cope?

I suppose like most we all want everything right away and that’s not how are father operates, I’m starting to think that is not in his plans as I’m not getting any younger and as I get older kids would be a lot of work should that happen down the road .

Any words of advice or encouragement would be appreciated .

Thanks in advance

Have you considered that your future wife may be found on this Christian site? It may help your cause by allowing yourself to become known through your posts by becoming a frequent contributor to the forums and an active member of the community. You have been a member since the year that I joined 2014 but have written virtually no posts so you remain an unknown entity.

I met my wife on this very site, and after many posts showing who we are and what we are about decided to actually meet in person. We eventually married in the same year that I first joined.

My counsel is to pray for God to search and find a loving and faithful woman of your heart's desire. You have to play your own part though and be willing to take decisive action if an opportunity should arise. God certainly has plans for you but they may not come to fruition if you refuse to actively participate and play your assigned role. God is not going to simply drop a wife into your lap. Waiting on God's perfect timing is often code for remaining passive and tentative due to fear of rejection or commitment.

Not sure where you came up with the idea that the love of Jesus should be enough. After all, even though the Lord walked with Adam in the Garden of Eden he was still lonely for a companion of his own kind so God took one of his ribs and fashioned a woman for him. He can do the same for you too if it is truly your desire to have a traveling companion on you life's spiritual journey. I know from experience that many such journey's are possible. May the same be said for you as well.

I wish you well in this endeavor.

 

[tourist]

I understand his timing is perfect , his example of that in my life couldn’t be more evident , but as human aka the flesh , some things we try to rush or think we have it all planned out.

Patience has something I’ve been struggling with all my life and I suppose this is just another area of my life where I need to be more patient .

Anyway thanks for your words , always helps when you know your not alone and some one else is facing it too.

Have a wonderful day 😊

There is a major difference between being patient and being passive. The two terms are often confused and misunderstood.

 

[tourist]

I’m learning to put God first , well what one would consider to be a good life may not be in the eyes of the Lord , I will be ok with what ever ends up , if that is alone so be it , I won’t go against God to achieve it though , I will do my best to follow his word , and things will turn out as they may.

Ideally I would like a family but in today’s world and more I dwell on it not so sure it’s a good time we are in the end days .... it’s a bag of mixed emotions really I need to sort through

We have been in the end days since the term was first coined so I would not let that be a consideration in whether or not to get married and possibly start a family. Also, I would not just simply settle for being OK with whatever you end up with but rather go with fantastic. Remaining alone in one's entire life is a choice. For some, it's a good thing, for others it's a lonely existence. May you choose wisely.

 

[tourist]

You don't have ANY interests, anything you do for fun?

For fun and relaxation I go on CC. It has been quite an adventure since the day that I first joined the site.

 

[JesusLives]

Also focus on the stuff you like to do. Parasailing, making music tracks, cooking gourmet dishes, motorcycles... whatever you like to do, do it now. When you get married it will be restricted substantially.

Mind you, your hobbies probably won't be cut completely off when you get married, just restricted. And you won't really mind - it's a trade-off, and you will like what you get in the trade - but you will regret not doing your hobbies more while you were single.

You make marriage sound like a ball and chain... you don't have to be restricted now you have someone to do those fun things with. Girls like to parasail, sing, cook, and ride motorcycles.... now things might get a little restricted when you add babies to the mix someone has to make sure they are cared for and such...lol

 

[Lynx]

You make marriage sound like a ball and chain...

This is true. Not the effect I intended, of course, but... Sorry about that.

Nothing I said was wrong though, and I'm not sure how to phrase it different. But yeah, it does kind of give the ball-and-chain impression.

 

[melita916]

I understand what Lynx is saying. For example, my husband has hobbies/interest that I don’t share with him. Some of those hobbies could take an entire day to do. He probably doesn’t do them as often now that we are married. We actually have to plan it out lol

 

[Lynx]

Thank you, that is exactly what I meant. Not that you have to give up all your fun activities when you get married, but that some other considerations must be taken into account when you are planning your fun. When you are single you can do whatever you want, but when you are married sometimes you have to compromise.

When you are single you should definitely take advantage of your single time.

 

[tourist]

This is true. Not the effect I intended, of course, but... Sorry about that.

Nothing I said was wrong though, and I'm not sure how to phrase it different. But yeah, it does kind of give the ball-and-chain impression.

Some married peeps keep a set of bolt cutters handy but not this guy.

 

[tourist]

Thank you, that is exactly what I meant. Not that you have to give up all your fun activities when you get married, but that some other considerations must be taken into account when you are planning your fun. When you are single you can do whatever you want, but when you are married sometimes you have to compromise.

When you are single you should definitely take advantage of your single time.

I agree with taking advantage of your single time. I had an 18 year stretch in my adult life that I was single. In the end, loneliness got to me though and my life felt kind of empty with no one to share it with. Yes, there will be compromises in married life and responsibilities too but all in all it is usually very much worth it with plenty of time for fun activities.

 

[nadina]

I’m 33 years old , and at the point where I would love to be married and have a family .

In today’s world it’s especially hard to find a woman the respects God and his word and actually fears him . I don’t want to rush anything with anyone nor settle yet I find myself slowly slipping into temptation time to time and every time feeling more empty .

I understand Jesus love should be enough , but clearly I’m not close enough to him just yet , or not his timing. But curious if some of you feel the same and how you cope?

I suppose like most we all want everything right away and that’s not how are father operates, I’m starting to think that is not in his plans as I’m not getting any younger and as I get older kids would be a lot of work should that happen down the road .

Any words of advice or encouragement would be appreciated .

Thanks in advance

all these young pretty ladies talking to u will find one just continue to pray u will find one it's essayer 4 men then women u r young u will her soon i hope.

 

[Karren]

I truly understand what you feel ,its like you are looking for a happiness that you cannot find ,,but you know be a best person that u can be ,,i believe that what you give to the world will come back to you ,,trust in god ,everything happened for a reason ,,and love moves in a mysterious ways .