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Question 1: How would you like to be treated by your special lady? Not a bunch of rules, etc., but how you honestly would like to be TREATED 
By straightfoward honesty as well.
I remember in high school if a girl was interested in you they would get one of their friends to talk to you to see what kind of person you were. Sometimes they would send out 2 or 3 to check you out. They thought they could evaluate you to the point that they knew you....... yeah, right.
Why am I bringing this up? Because many women still do this.....Then go on Skype & talk about you behind your back. This is neither straightfoward nor honest. Their girlfriends with their "abilities" get the wrong impression because the guy they approached also got the wrong impression from them because they approached him. He thinks they are interested in him. Then these women go back & tell their friend that he's a playa' because he flirted with all of them! Then again, that's what a single guy does when he has no committment......right?
In the end the woman goes dateless because of misinformation, because she used a dishonest tactic to get a dishonest result. Go figure.
Even now that I'm married, there are still times a woman will approach me about other things just to get information on something for someone. What do I do? While in the discussion, I look them right in the eye like I'm looking right through them the whole time, 'cause I want to tell them without telling them that I see thru their whole charade. Honestly, I can't stand such a superioristic attitude they have like they can't get caught. I don't even want to help such people, because my first impression of them is they're up to no good.
Honesty is the best policy. If it's good enough for God, It ought to be good'nuf for a future relationship. One should be honest if they expect honesty, right?
Question 1: How would you like to be treated by your special lady? Not a bunch of rules, etc., but how you honestly would like to be TREATED
I would like to be treated by my special lady as her man, with the all the due respect and love.
Just be nice. If that's too much to ask, then be polite.
I expect to be treated by others in the same way that I treat them.
I'm going to make a reciprocal thread for the ladies, but I would really like to see some honest answers from the guys without a free for all. Thanks
I was thinking it might be more constructive to use past hurts as a learning experience rather than getting all negative about it, you know? Let's all learn from one another in a more civilized way, please?
Question 1: How would you like to be treated by your special lady? Not a bunch of rules, etc., but how you honestly would like to be TREATED
Question 2: How would you like to be treated by women in general?
Question 3: How are you conducting yourself in order to bring what you would like to see in Questions 1 and 2 come about?
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I was thinking it might be more constructive to use past hurts as a learning experience rather than getting all negative about it, you know? Let's all learn from one another in a more civilized way, please?
Question 1: How would you like to be treated by your special lady? Not a bunch of rules, etc., but how you honestly would like to be TREATED
Question 2: How would you like to be treated by women in general?
Question 3: How are you conducting yourself in order to bring what you would like to see in Questions 1 and 2 come about?
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As a "rule" Jesus gave humanity the golden rules. No relationship could exit on being unkind or brute, no matter the gender, even pets know it by experience, all love to be loved.
If the rule is love, no one could be unloved.
You are right in saying the past can be used constructively. Absolutely and both way. That background experience may serve to hurt no one and to avoid being hurt and, of course, to love and being loved, and ain' t talking about the physical aspects, but also the moral, the spiritual, etc. and I'm sure a pile of things came to men and women that they started to hurt or to permit being hurt (it seems lack of awareness in what is done wrong and what each is doing wrong).
Is it that we've been too selfish, sometimes?
If I want respect I have to give it first.
If I want to be cherished, at least, I had to be genuine and me.
If a man has loved his children, if a woman has loved her children, they probably have learned what basic love is. If we lacked that essential experience (even a nurturing family, or a dad or a mom) we can be hindered to get those hints >> But the interactions in school could have shown us the ways...
The special lady? that is where I gave and could give my best, with my own set of rules {not imposed} and that' s where I see she acts like a mirror. I gave, she gave and we shared.
If the rule is love, no one could be unloved.
You are right in saying the past can be used constructively. Absolutely and both way. That background experience may serve to hurt no one and to avoid being hurt and, of course, to love and being loved, and ain' t talking about the physical aspects, but also the moral, the spiritual, etc. and I'm sure a pile of things came to men and women that they started to hurt or to permit being hurt (it seems lack of awareness in what is done wrong and what each is doing wrong).
Is it that we've been too selfish, sometimes?
If I want respect I have to give it first.
If I want to be cherished, at least, I had to be genuine and me.
If a man has loved his children, if a woman has loved her children, they probably have learned what basic love is. If we lacked that essential experience (even a nurturing family, or a dad or a mom) we can be hindered to get those hints >> But the interactions in school could have shown us the ways...
The special lady? that is where I gave and could give my best, with my own set of rules {not imposed} and that' s where I see she acts like a mirror. I gave, she gave and we shared.