M
I think the tragedy and problem is that statistics show somewhere around 3 out of 4 women are sexually taken advantage of at some point.
The problem then is compounded when if this is true, that men who would not fall into the rapist category are still looked at as a potential abuser.
The mindset being "Havent yet but might" etc simply if our actions in some way look similar to a past abuser.
For instance if someone was abused by their father, and if he also yelled the person can mentally link the two into thinking anybody who may simply raise their voice is then an abuser.
I have had women say this to me for raising my voice when upset.
Yet then hear the same woman yell at her own kids.
I call hypocrite to such people.
Ya know that old silly mathematical comparison where they ask something like
all apples are fruit, some apples are yellow, but not all apples are yellow just because they are a fruit.
Some eeks are shreeks, but not all shreeks are eeks.
What needs to be understand is that just because eeks are shreeks, does not mean that all shreeks are also eeks.
IE: if every person that abused a woman was a man, does not translate that all men are abusers.
Many things being called abuse we have endured worse of on the playground as children. and as adults??? we cry about it?
For instance
Abuse is not enlightening one to their actions just because the person doesnt like hearing the truth.
As you said Liamson, some rapists need to be told they are one and that it is wrong
Some women need to be told they are a whore and that they need to stop being a whore if they don't like being treated like a whore. But if we happen to tell a woman that. They scream mental abuse.
Nope. If they can call out a rapist for being such then we can do the same for a woman who is just as bad.
I think many of us men can relate to what you're saying here Liamson
It can be rough, having to prove yourself for having done nothing worthy of being accused and being pushed against the fence to be forced to defend yourself from false accusations just to make someone else feel better.
Being persecuted for having committed no crime,
to be thought guilty until you prove yourself innocent.
Its not justice.
But often, others are made to pay the price for what someone else has done.
It shouldn't be this way.
This is where a man can end up becoming a clean up guy.
He may feel he is rejecting offering someone compassion or what they need to heal even though the abused has now become the abuser toward men in general.
Falsely thinking if she pushes a man against the fence long enough and often enough and if he does nothing back, then he is safe.
This is also wrong and is abuse by a woman and enabling from the male.
Just don't test each other and don't make decisions out of fear that the enemy has instilled.
We haven't been given a spirit of fear.
The problem then is compounded when if this is true, that men who would not fall into the rapist category are still looked at as a potential abuser.
The mindset being "Havent yet but might" etc simply if our actions in some way look similar to a past abuser.
For instance if someone was abused by their father, and if he also yelled the person can mentally link the two into thinking anybody who may simply raise their voice is then an abuser.
I have had women say this to me for raising my voice when upset.
Yet then hear the same woman yell at her own kids.
I call hypocrite to such people.
Ya know that old silly mathematical comparison where they ask something like
all apples are fruit, some apples are yellow, but not all apples are yellow just because they are a fruit.
Some eeks are shreeks, but not all shreeks are eeks.
What needs to be understand is that just because eeks are shreeks, does not mean that all shreeks are also eeks.
IE: if every person that abused a woman was a man, does not translate that all men are abusers.
Many things being called abuse we have endured worse of on the playground as children. and as adults??? we cry about it?
For instance
Abuse is not enlightening one to their actions just because the person doesnt like hearing the truth.
As you said Liamson, some rapists need to be told they are one and that it is wrong
Some women need to be told they are a whore and that they need to stop being a whore if they don't like being treated like a whore. But if we happen to tell a woman that. They scream mental abuse.
Nope. If they can call out a rapist for being such then we can do the same for a woman who is just as bad.
I think many of us men can relate to what you're saying here Liamson
It can be rough, having to prove yourself for having done nothing worthy of being accused and being pushed against the fence to be forced to defend yourself from false accusations just to make someone else feel better.
Being persecuted for having committed no crime,
to be thought guilty until you prove yourself innocent.
Its not justice.
But often, others are made to pay the price for what someone else has done.
It shouldn't be this way.
This is where a man can end up becoming a clean up guy.
He may feel he is rejecting offering someone compassion or what they need to heal even though the abused has now become the abuser toward men in general.
Falsely thinking if she pushes a man against the fence long enough and often enough and if he does nothing back, then he is safe.
This is also wrong and is abuse by a woman and enabling from the male.
Just don't test each other and don't make decisions out of fear that the enemy has instilled.
We haven't been given a spirit of fear.
Last edited:
