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Jullianna

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bekah: My relationship with the guy is not romantic in nature and neither is our kidding around; but even if it was, I would not fight for him. If a guy wants to be with me, he will. It's important to me that if that happens, it was clearly HIS idea, not mine, you know?

Liz: I absolutely agree. I have responded to her only with kindness. I think that kinda ticks her off, which makes it that much more fun for me. ;) :D

lil christian: I can't imagine you behaving like that :)

To those who think I should tell him, I kinda just did. He reads these forums. :)
 
Oncefallen

Oncefallen

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**looks around and wonders........GAAAAAGGHGHGHGHGH!!!!!!! I hate secrets. :p
 
Liamson

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What do catty remarks look like?

Maybe he doesn't recognize it. Maybe if he saw it the way that you do, he would think differently about the situation.
 
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AnandaHya

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are you sure she's not a stalker?

sometimes people get caught up in their fantasy worlds and think they own other people and get mean and bitter when reality reveals the lies they have made up in their head.

Guys get stalked too.

I think you should keep being really nice to her and not allow her meanness to affect you friendship with him....<gives an sinister chuckle> ;)

ps. you could offer her some catnip :)
 
Liamson

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They say the only difference between a stalker and a romantic is success. :)
 
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AnandaHya

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who's they?

the SSA?
 
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violakat

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Jullianna said:
Liamson: Holly is right. Sounds like she wants to have her cake and eat it too.

Oncefallen and Stilly: He's a smart guy and definitely not the type to be pushed around by any woman or forced into a situation he doesn't want to be in. He'll catch on sooner or later because if she's doing it to me, she's likely doing it to other ladies too. I'm gonna keep my mouth shut for now because I don't want to sound like I'm speaking out of turn.

Holly: I agree. I'm gonna give them both some space because:

A. My momma would slap me from her grave for responding in kind to any sort of catfight tactic; and

B. I don't wanna hafta clean it up if she gets the urge to mark her territory and pee on him. :D
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I think that's more the male felines that mark their territory that way. The females have a different method
 
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violakat

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lil_christian said:
Hmm...this thread has got me thinking. Especially the original post.

Let's say for a second (just for a little bit...because I don't exactly possess these traits) I can be a jealous person or obsessive towards a guy I like a LOT. And/or that I can be catty or I make hurtful remarks towards people....What's it stem from? Greed? Immaturity? Past relationships? Did it stem from my heart being broken in the past (I guess that could go under past relationships...I dunno though)? All of the above?? Could it stem from any one of those things?

Curiosity has gotten the best of me, once again. >.<
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Well, you know what they said curiosity did to the cat.
 
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Jullianna

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violakat said:
I think that's more the male felines that mark their territory that way. The females have a different method
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I thought about that, but it wasn't as funny :D
 
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Jullianna

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Liamson: Catty remarks among females are usually passive agressive in nature, made in a way to make the other lady appear stupid or inferior in some way. The problem is that really only works if the other female doesn't see through the crap and/or actually feels inferior.
 
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lil_christian

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btw...when I first saw this forum title I thought of this picture:




hehe XD
 
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Jullianna

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Keep that handy, lil :) I may need it in a couple of years!
 
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Ugly

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I say speak up. Especially if she's chasing after him to be romantically involved. Even if he's not interested now, if she keeps pursuing him that can have an effect in the long run and he could. Having an awareness of what kind of person she is may help curb that. I know, me, as a friend, i would rather my friends warn me of problems, rather than stand by and watch me do something stupid.
 
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Jullianna

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He's not stupid enough to fall for that. Trust me. She's not his type. I think he's beginning to see some of it already and I like his reactions.

If I ever thought there was any chance that he would end up with this person, I would tell him. I would rather risk losing him as a friend than let him make that mistake.
 
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MrNoel

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Some good insight, Nod! :)
 
zeroturbulence

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Jullianna said:
Ladies, what would you do if you had a male friend you had joked around with for a couple of years and a woman came along who apparently wants to be more than friends with him, and, at every opportunity, made very catty/sometimes hurtful remarks (not very well disguised as jokes), and has admitted to being jealous of others even talking with him even though they are not in a relationship?

Would you just stop talking with the guy and allow the friendship to die?
Would you ask her if you had offended her in some way that you were unaware of?

Guys, any suggestions?
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Your friend has issues. I say tell her outright, "He's not your boyfriend." Remind her again every time she tells one of her poorly disguised jokes. She'll eventually get the point. Boast to her about your awesome shooting skills and all the cool guns on your wish list too.
 
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