Men are logical visual creatures. Women are emotional robots. : P

[notworthy901]

No woman can give you advice that will work in every situation because women are not,in fact,robots. You need to find the right person for you. I personally wouldn't be offended if you gave me your number but thats me. My husband and I met online and talked until we felt comfortable to meet in public.Most people wouldn't do that but it worked for us. My family didn't agree with it when they found out,it took a long time for some of them to accept him. But he was right for me. So hang in there and dont let one person stop you.I dated a guy that was a total jerk before meeting my husband. He told me on a scale from 1 to 10 I was a 4 as a girlfriend. My husband thinks Im the most wonderful woman he's ever met and tells me so, often. So if I tarred all the men with the same brush I wouldn't have gotten to know my husband which I happen to think is the most wonderful man Ive ever met. The next person you meet may well end up being your spouse.

Thanks. I guess your right. I should view everyone as individuals rather than painting them all with the same brush. Very encouraging post.

 

[thisgirl]

I tell a few jokes and people say I'm not ready for a relatiosnship and accuse me of bashing the opposite gender. Then I get long spiritual posts that I don't intend to read, I'm just going to stay out of the singles forum. Forever.

Too bad you don't intend to read the long spiritual posts. You arent very good at the whole joking thing

 

[tourist]

I've never given a woman my number.. Its too presumptuous.. If they're interested, they'll give you their number, and if they aren't interested, they'll give you a fake number.

That's how it worked for me too except I was always given the right number. Then there are those that play hard to get and tell you to take a number. These are to be avoided.

 

[tourist]

I tell a few jokes and people say I'm not ready for a relatiosnship and accuse me of bashing the opposite gender. Then I get long spiritual posts that I don't intend to read, I'm just going to stay out of the singles forum. Forever.

You give up too easily.

 

[notworthy901]

That's how it worked for me too except I was always given the right number. Then there are those that play hard to get and tell you to take a number. These are to be avoided.

Over here its a little diff. Women will give out their number, Christian women too. And they either wont pick up the phone, not even once, or they wont answer your texts. Some of them even have boyfriends when they do this. I remember I called a woman and her boyfriend picked up. He got mad at me like I did something wrong and tried to scare me. I was so angry that a guy would sink so low and be like that. Like I did something wrong by getting a random females number. That was years ago though. So apparently women give out their numbers even though they have boyfriends to either make their boyfriends jealous or they just like the attention from random guys blowing up their phone.

 

[notworthy901]

Then again your 62 years old. I'm sure my generation and your generation have big differences especially in the dating arena.

 

[notworthy901]

Also I got a womans number on a dating web site. I texted her. Never got one back. Some women can be funny. This was Christian mingle.

 

[seoulsearch]

No no NO, those are MY 3D glasses! Give them back!


I know, I know... you women are more emotional so you need the glasses to better enjoy the show...

No, wait, it's because you'll get emotional if you DON'T get the glasses, so I'd better...

Oh forget it.

*Lynx sits and sulks with no 3D glasses.





You girls really cash in on that emotion junk.

Lynx!!

You're having way too much fun here.

Stop it!!!

Stop it now.

(Never mind me, everyone. Animal Control here, just passing through... Gotta make sure we keep The Lynx in line.)

Don't make me put you back in your cage! (You've only been out for 20 minutes.)

 

[tourist]

Over here its a little diff. Women will give out their number, Christian women too. And they either wont pick up the phone, not even once, or they wont answer your texts. Some of them even have boyfriends when they do this. I remember I called a woman and her boyfriend picked up. He got mad at me like I did something wrong and tried to scare me. I was so angry that a guy would sink so low and be like that. Like I did something wrong by getting a random females number. That was years ago though. So apparently women give out their numbers even though they have boyfriends to either make their boyfriends jealous or they just like the attention from random guys blowing up their phone.

I would be mad too if some strange guy was calling my girlfriend up. Of course, perhaps the woman should not be giving out her number while still in a relationship. I was never into texting, much better to talk on the phone and see the person for real. If a woman cares for you she will definitely pick up the phone when you call.

 

[notworthy901]

It all depends on the kind of girl you are looking to meet. If you want a worldly woman who ignores the spiritual and focuses on the flesh or animal side of humanity then look to the animals for ques. The male finds ways to display his alpha male qualities and exemplify speed, strength, brains and wealth, all good properties to demonstrate a male with good genetics suitable for copulation. In this scenario the males put on the show and then the women choose the suitable mates. They pick the males who will strengthen the species. Natural selection. If you wish to be selected then you have to dominate other males in skill and appearance. You can do this by either improving these attributes....or frequenting places with less competition.

If you are less carnally minded, and you seek a mate less carnally minded, then wait it out. Find someone who cares for others and is kind. Make sure it's not narcissist. Then make her feel special. Show her that you care about her and that her value extends beyond her physical appearance. Everyone healthy minded likes people who make them feel good about themselves. Check for compatibility and pursue. It would not hurt to display alpha male qualities to her but only her. Example, if you have a six pack, wait until you are at the beach not walking down the street to go shirtless. They want to see that your interest is in them, not everybody and they just happen to be current flavour of the month, or who you are settling for.

Just worry about these for now. Every person can be analyzed based on parents, affluence, intelligence, looks, experience and so on. Learn to walk, before you run. Just have more of an interest than how well she can feed your offspring.

Thanks for the evolutionary psychology lesson. I finally read it. I thought this was a bunch of spiritual mumbo jumbo but I'm going to go back and read all the posts I skipped over. I thought I was going to get a bible lesson, which wasn't what I was looking for, but this is some smart stuff.

 

[bingbing]

Hello, all... I think, most of us, if not all in here are just sensitive of opening up?

Yes, my making fun of myself is a coping mechanism. And acceptance, maybe?

 

[notworthy901]

Hello, all... I think, most of us, if not all in here are just sensitive of opening up?

Yes, my making fun of myself is a coping mechanism. And acceptance, maybe?

People should loosen up. There is nothing wrong with telling jokes or being funny. We should not feel like we have to pull out a bible verse and examine it and break it down for every single topic of discussion that we bring up. I don't tend to be funny around people unless I feel like they need to loosen up. Some people want to take every little thing way too seriously and then I wonder why they want to bash others who have a joyful spirit. Trust me I mean no disrespect. There is a time and place for everything even examining scripture. But loosen up people.

 

[seoulsearch]

I would be mad too if some strange guy was calling my girlfriend up. Of course, perhaps the woman should not be giving out her number while still in a relationship. I was never into texting, much better to talk on the phone and see the person for real. If a woman cares for you she will definitely pick up the phone when you call.

Tourist always gives very sensible advice, but I wanted to throw in my own personal observation.

I was never into texting until I realized that it can be very convenient way to save yourself from a lot of heartache and needless hassle. In my experience, someone who is giving out and/or collecting phone numbers is generally doing so... ta da... in numbers. As in, not always, but all too often it seems that if someone is giving me his number and/or asking for mine, he's doing so with several other women as well (and vice versa for women--they may be giving out their number to several guys.)

This might just be me, but I've found that texts can be handy in weeding this out. If you text someone and they have no idea who you are, or if you say, "I'm the girl in your math class," and they STILL aren't sure because they've "put the mack down" on 3 other girls in their math class... Um. Again, it's just me, but I say it's time to move on and not even bother.

I understand though that this just seems to be today's dating culture--throw out as many lines as possible and see who bites, then pick and choose from all the lucky candidates!

Um... Sorry. Not my style. If I can tell from a text conversation that he isn't even sure which girl I am out of the who-knows-how-many he's already talking to, I don't see any reason to text or talk with him further.

But again, that's just me and I certainly can't speak for every woman out there.

 

[Hellooo]

Ill give an example. In the other thread I said I gave a woman my number. A woman told me I did the wrong thing and that would not resonate well with her. Maybe not all women are like that but many are apparently. Me in my God given male logical mind thought that who cares who calls who. As long as we go out on a date. Apparently by giving her my number instead, I was pressing the wrong button on her robotic woman mind and she decided to eject me like a broken vhs tape.

I didn't say you did it wrong, just that it doesn't resonate with me. If a guy gave me his number and told me to give him a call him after I came back from a trip I wouldn't think he was serious.

If you were serious about going out with her when she came back in town, why not just actually confirm the time right there and then? Not guaranteeing her response, but at least you'd be getting an answer to your actual underlying question, yes?
The underlying intent is not collecting numbers.

So. Ladies. I'm asking you to help us guys out. How would you prefer to be approached. What are the correct buttons to press to control u like robots and get the desired results from the woman we want to talk to. ill wait. This is a funny thread. Or maybe not. I'm joking a little bit. But on a serious note. How do you ladies prefer a man to approach you.

I'll have to think about this for a bit.

 

[notworthy901]

I didn't say you did it wrong, just that it doesn't resonate with me. If a guy gave me his number and told me to give him a call him after I came back from a trip I wouldn't think he was serious.

If you were serious about going out with her when she came back in town, why not just actually confirm the time right there and then? Not guaranteeing her response, but at least you'd be getting an answer to your actual underlying question, yes?
The underlying intent is not collecting numbers.

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I see. This advice was golden to me. I am realizing that women may assume things if I don't communicate clearly and specifically what I want. I need to be more tactful and less reckless and careless in my dealings with women, so they don't think the wrong things. Not to mention, that if I don't, the next man will, as women tend to have more options and opportunities then men do, since men tend to be the pursuers. Thanks this advice was very helpful.

 

[kaylagrl]

Thanks. I guess your right. I should view everyone as individuals rather than painting them all with the same brush. Very encouraging post.

Exactly.We all have quirks, things we're willing to tolerate in others.You just need to find someone who can accept you as you are. I was 40 before I even met my husband. So don't give up. Some women are high maintenance and you don't want to bother with them anyway. Sorry ladies,can't have it both ways. You can't say you want to be equal to men then get upset if you don't think they are chivalrous enough because they don't call you first. Its confusing to men. Have to make up your mind.

 

[JosephsDreams]

I realize women are complicated beings. Men are easy. If they like you, and your a woman all you have to do is point at them. Then proceed to tell them you like them. Lets go out to dinner. You can fill my belly, and if you act like a good little man we can be together. If your a bad little man, then I just wont answer your calls anymore. If you don't believe me try it it works,


On the other hand women are like robotic creatures from Venus. You have to press all the correct buttons or they will toss you to the side. Do or say the wrong thing, they will eject you like a broken vhs tape. They will reject you like your a bad shady car salesman trying to sell them a junk car. You may think your car is reliable and sturdy transportation, but they don't like it because the window tint is not quite as dark as they want it to be.

Ill give an example. In the other thread I said I gave a woman my number. A woman told me I did the wrong thing and that would not resonate well with her. Maybe not all women are like that but many are apparently. Me in my God given male logical mind thought that who cares who calls who. As long as we go out on a date. Apparently by giving her my number instead, I was pressing the wrong button on her robotic woman mind and she decided to eject me like a broken vhs tape.

So. Ladies. I'm asking you to help us guys out. How would you prefer to be approached. What are the correct buttons to press to control u like robots and get the desired results from the woman we want to talk to. ill wait. This is a funny thread. Or maybe not. I'm joking a little bit. But on a serious note. How do you ladies prefer a man to approach you.

I am tired of hearing about men who try to formulate an equation about woman and vice versa, although it seems woman do it less then men.
Yes there are some generalities the sexes can state about each other. Beyond that, why go there? Who even cares?
I have a nugget. Treat everyone you meet, man or woman, with respect and kindness, love them as close as you can to the way described in 1st Cor. 13, and you don't have to worry about all this other venus and mars nonsense.

 

[Magenta]

I meet a man just recently. We exchange numbers. I started texting him nice messages. He never initiated texting me anymore. I might have scared him. What did I do?

Maybe he thought you were too old for him. Are you really 99 years old?

 

[kaylagrl]

It all depends on the kind of girl you are looking to meet. If you want a worldly woman who ignores the spiritual and focuses on the flesh or animal side of humanity then look to the animals for ques. The male finds ways to display his alpha male qualities and exemplify speed, strength, brains and wealth, all good properties to demonstrate a male with good genetics suitable for copulation. In this scenario the males put on the show and then the women choose the suitable mates. They pick the males who will strengthen the species. Natural selection. If you wish to be selected then you have to dominate other males in skill and appearance. You can do this by either improving these attributes....or frequenting places with less competition.

If you are less carnally minded, and you seek a mate less carnally minded, then wait it out. Find someone who cares for others and is kind. Make sure it's not narcissist. Then make her feel special. Show her that you care about her and that her value extends beyond her physical appearance. Everyone healthy minded likes people who make them feel good about themselves. Check for compatibility and pursue. It would not hurt to display alpha male qualities to her but only her. Example, if you have a six pack, wait until you are at the beach not walking down the street to go shirtless. They want to see that your interest is in them, not everybody and they just happen to be current flavour of the month, or who you are settling for.

Just worry about these for now. Every person can be analyzed based on parents, affluence, intelligence, looks, experience and so on. Learn to walk, before you run. Just have more of an interest than how well she can feed your offspring.

Im sorry,I hate to be mean but this is advice Id expect a teenager to give. The first part has nothing to do with Christianity and this is not the first time you have mentioned natural selection.

Quote "The male finds ways to display his alpha male qualities and exemplify speed, strength, brains and wealth, all good properties to demonstrate a male with good genetics suitable for copulation. In this scenario the males put on the show and then the women choose the suitable mates. They pick the males who will strengthen the species."

Christians do not believe in this at all. And I think you're putting a whole lot of things in the OPs mind that are nonsense. We can't all be rich,in top physical shape,overly intelligent and gorgeous. Thats nonsense.


Quote " It would not hurt to display alpha male qualities to her but only her. Example, if you have a six pack, wait until you are at the beach not walking down the street to go shirtless."

And if you don't have a 6 pack? Seriously? So he needs a 6 pack to get a woman? Seriously do not try to be an alpha male notworthy, that is totally obnoxious. Sorry I dont agree with this advice at all.

 

[notworthy901]

Im sorry,I hate to be mean but this is advice Id expect a teenager to give. The first part has nothing to do with Christianity and this is not the first time you have mentioned natural selection.

Quote "The male finds ways to display his alpha male qualities and exemplify speed, strength, brains and wealth, all good properties to demonstrate a male with good genetics suitable for copulation. In this scenario the males put on the show and then the women choose the suitable mates. They pick the males who will strengthen the species."

Christians do not believe in this at all. And I think you're putting a whole lot of things in the OPs mind that are nonsense. We can't all be rich,in top physical shape,overly intelligent and gorgeous. Thats nonsense.


Quote " It would not hurt to display alpha male qualities to her but only her. Example, if you have a six pack, wait until you are at the beach not walking down the street to go shirtless."

And if you don't have a 6 pack? Seriously? So he needs a 6 pack to get a woman? Seriously do not try to be an alpha male notworthy, that is totally obnoxious. Sorry I dont agree with this advice at all.

I think there is some truth to what your saying. Don't go around and show off your 6 pack and be overtly concerned about being "Alpha." Which is kind of silly. But I think there was a little truth to what he was saying too. Women may or may not be aware of what makes them attracted to a man, like a man is. But there are some factors involved that can influence whether a woman is attractive to a man. Evolutionary psychology is pretty much theoretical and to be taken with a grain of salt in many instanced. But, on the other hand it has a lot of useful data and information. Such as the fact that women bear children and seek out men that have the means to help their future family survive. The more of an ability a man has to provide, the more appealing he will be to the woman. Which is why rich celebrities tend to have many women throwing theirselves at them at their concerts or when they go to the club or whatever. On the other hand, many women are not comepletely hypnotized by shallow traits like how much money a man has and basically see it as a plus. Not necessarily a requirement. They may be seeking a man with great moral character and see the money they have as just icing on the cake. I guess all women are just individuals and they all pick men differently.