I think the largest hurdle in understanding the sexes is knowledge, primarily pseudo knowledge. We are taught it is complicated, it’s not! God designed our sexuality like the other mammals. Men are designed for population increase and females are designed for quality increase. Men display their genetic giftedness and women select the best attributes to pass on. It’s the same all over the animal kingdom. I’m not going to go into great detail but that’s how we are designed. Alpha males are generally selected based on survival qualities, and dominance. Just consider the popularity of Fifty Shades of Grey”. Stereotypical alpha. The rest of relationship is based on needs being met. Pleasure releases serotonin and dopamine, pleasure and addiction neurotransmitters. We get addicted to eachother.
As far as empathy is concerned look up mirror neurons. We are designed to learn and live in community because of this. Our brains react in synch with others based on observing them. That’s why we wince when somebody gets hurt, cry when somebody is sad, and smile when somebody smiles. It’s how kids learn mostly. Scientists have concluded this response is stronger from a subordinate to an authority and weak or nonexistent in reverse. In short, how better you think you are above others dictates your empathy. Also explaining how such atrocities are performed to enemies without remorse.
We think we are so complex but most people are predictable based on programming from youth, neurology and survival needs (especially need for acceptance). The social media, “like” button is as addictive as sex and sugar at the most primal level.