Men want a girl like...

[FireWire]

I personally am not picky at all. I've never had a boyfriend but I wouldn't mind what he looks like. I just need to be comfortable around him and he needs to love the Lord. I want a guy who could lead me. I know this thread was geared toward men but I just thought I would answer [/QUOTE]

This is what women say but the reality is often different.

 

[KJV15John11]

Okay guys I don't think catwomen has anything to do with her "deep" character, and just everything to do with her suite??????

Not true. I'm personally not a Catwoman fan but she has so much more going on than her suit. She's a loner. She is very talented but doesn't need to flaunt it like the male villains, Joker for one. She has no interest in getting romantically involved but she is smart enough to know that she can use her sex appeal as a weapon. While all her male counterparts are into weapons, she uses her smarts. She's aloof which only makes men want her more.

Gals like a "bad boy," she is our "bad girl."

 

[KJV15John11]

I am getting along, there's no need for you to even ask that. I was just pointing out my opinion. You don't like, too bad.

My comment, "Can't we all just get along?" is a misquote of Rodney King following the LA Riots of 1992. It has gained a comedic life of its own. It was not a direct comment on your post. Tried and failed to use a bit of humor to alleviate the situation. Sorry.

 

[Tintin]

This is why I hate commenting on anything. it seems like with every comment I make I have to make a mistake and people get mad at me. I thought this site was going to help me but it's making me feel worse. No one on here wants to be my friend and whenever I give my opinion it seems like it's awful, stupid or wrong. I wish I could just take my life away right now.

Suicide is not the answer and is a huge over-reaction to someone misunderstanding you/disagreeing with you. You must learn to be more resilient. I'm not angry with you, just frustrated that many Christians do believe such things. You're not the first and you won't be the last. Don't take it personally, just learn from it. As for the Selena post, you're right, it's a bit dodgy but the rest of the thread is just a bit of fun.

 

[KJV15John11]

I'm not cracking on to you

I like that saying!

My all time favorite still has to be "I fancy you." The first time that I heard it was on a sitcom on the BBC called "Coupling." It is so much more endearing than "I got the hots for you."

 

[Catlynn]

Hey TinTin, I just wanted to clear up that I was totally giving you a hard time and joking with the "smooth move" comment. I love it when a guy is comfortable enough to voice his appreciation for beauty and such to his friends and whatnot. *high five* Totally didn't mean it as a put down.

 

[MissCris]

Shall we just re-name this thread "Miscommunication Central"?

 

[Tintin]

Hey TinTin, I just wanted to clear up that I was totally giving you a hard time and joking with the "smooth move" comment. I love it when a guy is comfortable enough to voice his appreciation for beauty and such to his friends and whatnot. *high five* Totally didn't mean it as a put down.

Catlynn, no worries. I knew YOU were joking. No need to apologise but still, thank you.

 

[MidniteWelder]

Shall we just re-name this thread "Miscommunication Central"?

Says the lady who claims her next trick is going to be missing the point?

 

[Agricola]

I guess I'm just really REALLY surprised by what some of the guys on here were saying. It shocked me to see that most of you are pretty much the same as non-Christians when it comes to women. You value beauty just as much as the next guy. I'm not saying that's wrong but I just thought Christian men in general valued things like virtues or character more than physical features.

I'm not trying to criticize anyone. I was just trying to remind you all that beauty will eventually leave. I guess I didn't read the thread right but now I realize the question was which celebrity would you wife up right? Pretty much...
I am getting along, there's no need for you to even ask that. I was just pointing out my opinion. You don't like, too bad.

It works both ways.

God has sent 3 or 4 women along my way, all of them I would love to marry because I saw their inner beauty and they glowed, however they literly ran the other way when I suggested we went out and did something together. Free Will etc. I am not exactly top of the list for looks or for perfect body.

So yes, women are very shallow and picky as well. When I say these things, women say, "oh I am not like that, I see people for who they are, I want someone is a solid Christian who loves Christ, I want someone who can make me laugh and look after me,.." However I am all those things, but they then backtrack on their words when I challenge them.

Women say "Where are all the good Christian men? The churches are full of women". Yet when I say "i am here" again I am ignored.

People are still human and have been conditioned to go for partners which the media deem acceprable.

 

[Violet1993]

Suicide is not the answer and is a huge over-reaction to someone misunderstanding you/disagreeing with you. You must learn to be more resilient. I'm not angry with you, just frustrated that many Christians do believe such things. You're not the first and you won't be the last. Don't take it personally, just learn from it. As for the Selena post, you're right, it's a bit dodgy but the rest of the thread is just a bit of fun.

I was talking to this person the other day on chat and she obviously has HUGE issues. From what she told me I could tell she has a very low self-esteem/social anxiety disorder and she previously cut herself. I'm afraid, because I don't want her to do annything. I tried sending her a message but the system isn't letting me. I think she deleted her profile

I know you didn't do anything wrong but just so you know certain ppl take things very seriously. I lost an aunt through suicide. She had lost her job, her husband and her son wanted to live with his dad so she felt alone. What did it was that that day it was Thanksgiving. No one invited her to their house and so she killed herself. I was a kid at the time. Certain people are so depressed that little things add up and any little thing can just drive them over that cliff.

 

[rachelsedge]

Something I read the other day and I'm curious...it basically said that women and men are equally "visual", but it's just that men are often emphasized as being "the visual ones" in society/culture and so builds on itself to make men even more seemingly visual. Like a self-fulfilling prophecy. I wonder if that's true.

 

[Grace-Like-Rain]

Something I read the other day and I'm curious...it basically said that women and men are equally "visual", but it's just that men are often emphasized as being "the visual ones" in society/culture and so builds on itself to make men even more seemingly visual. Like a self-fulfilling prophecy. I wonder if that's true.

I dunno... I've seen posts from some men (and I'm so impressed with and grateful for their honesty) who say that just seeing a woman clothed this way or that will lead them into sin. I think most women may not even be aware that it's that much of a issue for men. There are times when I've thought, "Really? Seeing that made you think of THAT?" and been surprised at how effected men can be visually. I can't speak for all women, and I admire a visually stunning man but seeing one doesn't cause my train to derail. This feels vulnerable to talk about... am I making any sense?

Let me just say that I believe God made men and women different this way for a reason - a good and holy reason - so I'm not saying it's "bad" one way or another. I just feel like maybe sometimes women don't understand just how visual men are, because we aren't really that way ourselves.

 

[Mammachickadee]

I dunno... I've seen posts from some men (and I'm so impressed with and grateful for their honesty) who say that just seeing a woman clothed this way or that will lead them into sin. I think most women may not even be aware that it's that much of a issue for men. There are times when I've thought, "Really? Seeing that made you think of THAT?" and been surprised at how effected men can be visually. I can't speak for all women, and I admire a visually stunning man but seeing one doesn't cause my train to derail. This feels vulnerable to talk about... am I making any sense?

Let me just say that I believe God made men and women different this way for a reason - a good and holy reason - so I'm not saying it's "bad" one way or another. I just feel like maybe sometimes women don't understand just how visual men are, because we aren't really that way ourselves.

They give women too much credit for their sin nature. Women and men are equally visual... however not all derive sexual stimulation from the visual. Some are sapiosexual and some are tactilely stimulated. The fact is that have to follow the same rules as women do, thus requiring their mental bridle to be in place regardless of women's dress. To say that the way a woman dresses is to blame for their lustful tendancies is completely cutting out their old self being cast away. I have it on many men's testimony that the more clothes a woman has on the more he thinks about what her body looks like. Should women be modest... naturally... but modesty is a state of mind that is not truly modesty if one has to glaringly declare it by covering every inch of skin. Likewise men must be modest... by word, dress, and mentality... to secure themselves in a spiritual cloak of righteousness not to be penetrated by a woman's sensuality.

 

[Mammachickadee]

I wonder if many of them will fall for ''the bad girl'' in the story....*waits*

She wasn't strictly a bad girl. She was a good girl with a badgirl other-self. Guys love sweetness, but they like a little excitement and surprise too.

 

[MidniteWelder]

They give women too much credit for their sin nature. Women and men are equally visual... however not all derive sexual stimulation from the visual. Some are sapiosexual and some are tactilely stimulated. The fact is that have to follow the same rules as women do, thus requiring their mental bridle to be in place regardless of women's dress. To say that the way a woman dresses is to blame for their lustful tendancies is completely cutting out their old self being cast away. I have it on many men's testimony that the more clothes a woman has on the more he thinks about what her body looks like. Should women be modest... naturally... but modesty is a state of mind that is not truly modesty if one has to glaringly declare it by covering every inch of skin. Likewise men must be modest... by word, dress, and mentality... to secure themselves in a spiritual cloak of righteousness not to be penetrated by a woman's sensuality.

And what would the root motive be behind a woman penetrating a man with her sensuality?

 

[KJV15John11]

Something I read the other day and I'm curious...it basically said that women and men are equally "visual", but it's just that men are often emphasized as being "the visual ones" in society/culture and so builds on itself to make men even more seemingly visual. Like a self-fulfilling prophecy. I wonder if that's true.

I SEE what you are saying . . .

 

[KJV15John11]

I dunno... I've seen posts from some men (and I'm so impressed with and grateful for their honesty) who say that just seeing a woman clothed this way or that will lead them into sin. I think most women may not even be aware that it's that much of a issue for men. There are times when I've thought, "Really? Seeing that made you think of THAT?" and been surprised at how effected men can be visually.

I wonder if Christian men are just being unduly harsh on themselves. So often, we have heard that just thinking a sin, you are committing the sin. I think my pastor said it best. Glancing at an attractive women is natural, it's the second, third, and fourth glances that are the sin. I other words, it is by entertaining the sin that leads to the sin.

For myself, I love the sound of high heels on a hard floor. It doesn't matter what the women looks like, just the sound conjures up pleasant pictures in my head. I then make a point NOT to look in the direction of the high heels, just so NOT to nurture those thoughts. It's the same as when you are with your girlfriend or spouse. If an attractive women enters my viewing area, I make a point NOT to look in her direction. Not only does it prevent a sin from growing, but it is being respectful to your woman.

its all about controlling the sin, and NOT letting the sin control you.

Now please turn your hymnals to page . . .

 

[colalella2891]

This is why I hate commenting on anything. it seems like with every comment I make I have to make a mistake and people get mad at me. I thought this site was going to help me but it's making me feel worse. No one on here wants to be my friend and whenever I give my opinion it seems like it's awful, stupid or wrong. I wish I could just take my life away right now.

You should never wish that!!!

And it's all good PowerPuff. People are going to disagree with you on here, it happens to me too. You're entitled to your opinion. Besides, I've felt like I've said the wrong thing before, it's no big deal It happens to the best of us. You're still new here, so don't don't quit yet.