Some people in my church had a strange reaction to all this as if thirty going on thirty one years of separation meant nothing. It bordered on offensive legalism to both Bob and I, but I cut them some slack because I know my pastors care for me, and they want the best for me. They have also heard much more of my "story/history" as it relates to this issue since then, and are more understanding and accepting. They have moved to desiring to give marriage counselling now 
Whatever the failings of my ex may be, he achieved almost sainthood in my eyes when he cared for his ailing mother in her declining years. He and my daughter are still living in his parents house as he cares for his dad, who will be 97 next month. His only sister lives with them also since she retired a few years ago, and there are more animals than people in the house except when I visit once a week to hang out with my daughter You have probably seen pics of the dogs over the years
Despite a very rocky beginning to her life, I have quite a good relationship with my daughter. I do not know if I ever told you because I do not share a lot of my past often in this public forum, but she was born at twenty four weeks gestation weighing under a pound and a half at a time of my life when I did not want to be married at all following two first trimester miscarriages and a still birth that happened just before I got married. I do not like talking about my past. It is over and done, we have both moved on, and my life has completely changed a lot since then, starting when I firs got sober in 1994 (he is not), but especially since I was saved just over fourteen years ago.
I think I recall you or Darlene saying there have been premature births in your family, also...
Meeting Bob here and our coming to care for each other as we do is no less than a miracle to me I feel so very blessed. God is more than good. The recent set back in our plans has not dampened my spirits. I have faith, and I praise His Holy Name.
By some strange coincidence my daughter Jacklynne only weighed 1 1/2 pounds too. I believe that the umbilical cord is supposed to have 3 blood vessels but hers had only two and apparently she was malnourished in the womb. She's fine now and we have a very good father / daughter relationship.
Yes, continue to have faith that things will all work out for the glory of God and for the happiness for the both of you.
I enjoy your posts very much and appreciate your candor and honesty. You are definitely an interesting intelligent woman.
I am glad that your church has warmed up to the idea of your divorce and remarriage. Darlene and I had 4 weeks of counseling from our church too before we got married. I highly recommend it and it will provide a good opportunity to really get to know each other better.
I really don't like talking about my past either but I believe that is the past that defines who we are today.
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