Modesty: A Man's Perspective on Ladies Clothing

[AgnusDei]

Modesty



That is it again

 

[Nick01]

So is it a tie and a suit jacket that makes a man modest? What do we mean by 'modest'? If I posted a guy with a t shirt and shorts, would that be modest or not? Why or why not?

 

[cmarieh]

This is my kind of modesty for a man.

 

[JonahLynx]

This is my kind of modesty for a man.

Whew, no tie!

 

[PoetMary]

Here is an example of "immodest" from Versace's 2014 collection. (As an aside, there were more blatant examples of male immodesty in the collection that I opted out of posting).

You'll notice he's wearing a CODPIECE that draws undue attention to his "package."

 

[PoetMary]

Here's another example of male immodesty. When men wear shirts like this it distracts from them as people and draws attention to the fact that they spend way way too much time in the gym....oh and that they probably get spray tanned.

This is tight AND shiny. All it does is draw our attention to his moobs.

 

[Ugly]

Why is a thread about mens views on what is modest for women being turned into a thread on womens views on what mens modesty is or is not?? Seems that should be it's own thread, rather than reversing the existing thread. Though we already have too many threads on modesty to begin with. And it's such a dead horse subject as well.

 

[VioletReigns]

Why is a thread about mens views on what is modest for women being turned into a thread on womens views on what mens modesty is or is not?? Seems that should be it's own thread, rather than reversing the existing thread. Though we already have too many threads on modesty to begin with. And it's such a dead horse subject as well.

ROFL!!!

 

[Nick01]

Here's another example of male immodesty. When men wear shirts like this it distracts from them as people and draws attention to the fact that they spend way way too much time in the gym....oh and that they probably get spray tanned.

This is tight AND shiny. All it does is draw our attention to his moobs.

It distracts me as well. What even is that fabric?

 

[violakat]

I DO like a girl with brains.

But I have to admit, it's not because I'm so deep....
it's just that brains are tasty.

Well now we know who the zombie is.

 

[cmarieh]

This is my opinion on modest clothing for women. If you don't find it appropriate say so.

 

[cmarieh]

What about this one?

 

[thisgirl]

I think its important as Christians to not cause another to stumble in their faith. If I bend over & my cheeks & tbar are there for the world to see with my Jesus fish stamp on my lower back, doesn't really scream she's a prayerful missionary. Same if I'm showing a little glimpse of the girls in church. Its important that I try to take a moment and remember... the world does not revolve around me and my right to show the girls, there are folks out there who have sexual addiction and porn addiction & church should be a safe place where they can focus on worship. Now if you are headed to the beach, by all means wear your bikini and strut yer stuff . I don't, but that's just me. I suppose I think about our Lord and what He loves and I decide to love the things He loves. Respecting others is a part of that. Worship God, ask if this is on your heart & He will reveal by His Holy Spirit what is acceptable in His eyes If He were looking upon you. This is what I try to consider when deciding what to wear. I used to wear micro mini skirts, now that I'm a believer it just doesn't seem right.

 

[Shouryu]

...with my Jesus fish stamp on my lower back...

*imagines*

*starts snickering*

*can't stop*

*best ab workout evar*

 

[JonahLynx]

What about this one?

I like both.

 

[cmarieh]

I like both.

I actually like this style because it doesn't show anything, yet it is feminine.

 

[NotmebutHim]

I guess I have a bit of a different perspective on this from a lot of other guys on here. While not walking with God for a while, I was involved in the whole PUA (Pick Up Artist) community, which puts a heavy emphasis on looks of a woman. I read books that have some philosophies I still agree with, even though I'm now walking with God.

There is no denying that men are attracted to women more visually when compared to how women are attracted to men. This is the exact reason that pornography and lusting with the eyes are such problems for men in general; so I can understand your desire to understand this issue from a male's perspective where men are created to visually find women attractive primarily, followed by personality traits and shared interests.

This is not a politically correct thing to say nowadays, but I don't really care, because I've never been one to just be what others expect me to be anyway lol: If I found a woman I was unattracted to physically, that had all the personality traits and shared interests I had, I would still not choose her, because I would not be attracted to her, and I would believe I was settling. So, I would say that I put quite a large emphasis upon looks, because it's what attracts me to a woman, primarily. Of course there has to be more there than just looks, but the looks cannot be absent either.

So, now that I've covered that, I'll talk a little bit about the answer to your original question. The most attractive women I look at and say to myself, "Wow, she's really pretty" have not been wearing really revealing clothing at all. Usually, there is this aura about them, this energy if you will, that sems to just radiate from them. I think women should dress in ways that accentuate their own personalities (example: if she's a free spirited kind of girl, brighter colors and more creative patterns are good for her, because she will attract the men looking for that kind of woman). However, I really don't think it's all that important what clothes she wears as much as it is that she is the kind of girl she needs to be to attract quality guys

I've dated quite a few women in my life, and there is a huge difference between a woman who has class, elegance, and believes in herself compared to a girl who is just trying to get a guy in order to feel better about herself. So, my answer would be that it really doesn't much matter what you wear. Honestly, I think you could wear a skirt down to your ankles, and a long sleeved shirt that showed no arms whatsoever, and if you were a quality woman that gave off the vibe that you are energetic, positive, joyful, fun to be around, etc. then you would still attract men regardless.

Since women seek to find confident and charming men, I would further suggest that something that makes him have to prove these qualities to you would be a good thing to do as well. An example would be wearing something quite unique and which draws more attention in general (in PUA this is called peacocking), so that there is more competition for your attention. Only a man who does have confidence and charm will likely approach you and start up a conversation (ie: because many people are looking on in your direction).

From a man's point of view, I hope this helps.

I echo you brother.

And I'll add that I like a woman in a loose-fitting sweater and/or jacket, with a scarf around her neck and knee-high boots during the cold months. That is one of the most attractive ways (at least to me) in which a woman can dress.

 

[GhostWolf]

Dress in something that is comfortable and fits. Don't overdue the makeup, I myself like women who use a bit of eyeliner for their makeup and stop there. To many women these days come off as white dwarf stars (incredibly hott but not to bright).