Speaking of avoiding stuff based on appearance - Though I can play a lot of instruments through my keyboard (keyboard + computer, load virtual instruments in the computer) I only use those at home to make soundtracks. I never take my keyboard onstage at church and play a trumpet. Mind you I have a very realistic sounding trumpet I can load (and an acoustic guitar and a really rocking electric guitar, and a nice flute, and a lot of other instruments...) but I don't play them at church. If I played my keyboard and a flute sound came out people would pay attention to me, not God. Regardless of what my intentions were, the result would be me showing off, even if I didn't want to show off at all.
Oh No, It's The M-Word! (Modesty... Yet Again!!!)
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There's an interesting point here about people and their abilities. On one hand, someone could flaunt their ability to (for example) fix cars. They could think that this ability makes them so much better than everyone else who does NOT know how to do this. But, on the other hand, someone could be so determined to be humble and modest (first definition 
) that they never let anyone know that they can fix cars... and now you have a needy person at church who doesn't know that this person they see every Sunday could help them get their car running again so they can get to work.
Being honest about one's strengths for the purpose of using them is not, in my opinion, immodest. Be honest about what you can do, in order to help or encourage or improve. But being a bragger, talking about strengths for the purpose of gaining accolade from other humans, or thinking that these abilities make you a better human being, is immodest.
) that they never let anyone know that they can fix cars... and now you have a needy person at church who doesn't know that this person they see every Sunday could help them get their car running again so they can get to work.Being honest about one's strengths for the purpose of using them is not, in my opinion, immodest. Be honest about what you can do, in order to help or encourage or improve. But being a bragger, talking about strengths for the purpose of gaining accolade from other humans, or thinking that these abilities make you a better human being, is immodest.
As I'm reading the posts and thinking of something to say, I keep.thinking about the book Charolette's Web. The words she'd put in the web above Wilbur's pen, Humble was one of them. That book touched my heart because here was this little humble spider taking of her humble pig friend. Wilbur got the attention and Charlotte didn't care, her main objective was to save her friend and she did. She made a big impact and expected nothing from her friend in return. I guess that's being modest.
If I told you how modest I was, it wouldn't be very modest of me now would it?
My point wasn't to start a big brag-fest
but rather give us ideas on how to live modestly.I'm thinking of the person I wrote about in the original post who wanted to tell me all about himself, his accomplishments, and how intelligent he was.
I would have been happy if he would have just given me 10 minutes of speaking time and actually listened to what I had to say.
I don't think I would be comfortable with someone who believes she is just "one of the crowd". I would expect her to be the best of the lot, otherwise there is no reason I have to date her instead of the others. (I'm talking from a self-worth perspective, here). Being with people who claim to not be good enough bothers me a lot because I believe that everybody is good in something at least - it's a matter of knowing your strengths/weaknesses.
Nevertheless, I place 'Respect and friendliness towards others' at the top of my list. Being a bit social, it wouldn't be nice if my partner is a social snob. In my opinion, if a person cannot smile or cannot treat a living being nicely, even on the best days, then he/she is most likely to be ugly on the inside.
Nevertheless, I place 'Respect and friendliness towards others' at the top of my list. Being a bit social, it wouldn't be nice if my partner is a social snob. In my opinion, if a person cannot smile or cannot treat a living being nicely, even on the best days, then he/she is most likely to be ugly on the inside.
