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I 4get if i responded 2 this topic so heres my 75 cent...
it depends on the person. i think that depending on the person online relationships do work. and it may also work 4 some 4 meeting online then in person then dating in person. i met all 3 my exes online(though 1 was a strictly online relationship and the other 2 i met online then in person and dated in person) so i think (though i could b wrong) that im supposed 2 stick with solely meetin some1 in person and date in person. but it more than anything else depends solely on God. cuz he can work through any venue even snail mail for gettin ppl 2gether. and that was my 75 cent so dont go spend it all in 1 place.
it depends on the person. i think that depending on the person online relationships do work. and it may also work 4 some 4 meeting online then in person then dating in person. i met all 3 my exes online(though 1 was a strictly online relationship and the other 2 i met online then in person and dated in person) so i think (though i could b wrong) that im supposed 2 stick with solely meetin some1 in person and date in person. but it more than anything else depends solely on God. cuz he can work through any venue even snail mail for gettin ppl 2gether. and that was my 75 cent so dont go spend it all in 1 place.
I don't really see the big deal with that. You can get to know someone quite well just from having long drawn out conversations everyday over a timespan of several months. After awhile it is possible to find you like that person so much that it doesn't matter that you haven't met in person yet.
I can understand how it doesn't work for most people. However I can say it has worked for me. I knew the girl for about 6 months before I began to really realize how much I cared for her. I chatted with her everyday about very important issues and got to know her extremely well. I was not sure if an online relationship would work so I kept my mouth shut about my feelings for a long time. Eventually something happened that made her ask a bunch of questions that led me into confessing how I felt. Luckily for me she felt the same way. There are always difficulties trying to meet up with her due to her unstable housing situtations. Which seem to become more difficult over time, when at first she was just a state away now she is in a different country. This does not hurt our relationship however as we have been together for over 4 years now. Once she gets the money together to come back to the states we are finally gonna meet up.
I can understand how it doesn't work for most people. However I can say it has worked for me. I knew the girl for about 6 months before I began to really realize how much I cared for her. I chatted with her everyday about very important issues and got to know her extremely well. I was not sure if an online relationship would work so I kept my mouth shut about my feelings for a long time. Eventually something happened that made her ask a bunch of questions that led me into confessing how I felt. Luckily for me she felt the same way. There are always difficulties trying to meet up with her due to her unstable housing situtations. Which seem to become more difficult over time, when at first she was just a state away now she is in a different country. This does not hurt our relationship however as we have been together for over 4 years now. Once she gets the money together to come back to the states we are finally gonna meet up.
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My two cents: Online relationships can be amusing, but they're totally in the realm of fantasy. Can't eat with 'em, go shopping with 'em, go to church with 'em, heal up from an injury with 'em. To me, it's an interactive form of doing a crossword puzzle--strictly mental exercise. I would strongly suggest meeting and spending a lunch or two with anyone if you wanted to get beyond that and see how you feel.
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I am married but couldn't help but see the title and wonder the question. Online relationships do indeed work. My spouse and I are living proof. Successful yet challenging. Any form of distance is hard to deal with, but if we can have faith in God, how much harder is it to have in a relationship online?
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I'm always happy to see married people giving their input on this forum. THANK YOU!!
My pereception is that we (I mean generally speaking) tend to be self-referential. Something will or will not work in our lives and we tend to assume that's the way in everyone's life. I keep refering to the example of those who stopped looking for "the one" and just trusted God and then they met the right one without trying, and then the conclusion they come to is that it's wrong to look for the right person because that's not how it worked in their life. Likewise those who've had (or have seen) online relationships no work out and easily think they never work out, but then people like you and your husband wouldn't exist, would they????
My pereception is that we (I mean generally speaking) tend to be self-referential. Something will or will not work in our lives and we tend to assume that's the way in everyone's life. I keep refering to the example of those who stopped looking for "the one" and just trusted God and then they met the right one without trying, and then the conclusion they come to is that it's wrong to look for the right person because that's not how it worked in their life. Likewise those who've had (or have seen) online relationships no work out and easily think they never work out, but then people like you and your husband wouldn't exist, would they????
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Not to repeat myself here ...
But some ONLINE RELATIONSHIPS are a good thing ...
While others are not ...
I know this from watching my daughter with her RELATIONSHIP she had with a young man from The Netherlands ...
~ They started out as good friends ... talking all the time via web cam
~ Then they became BOYFRIEND & GIRLFRIEND ...
~ They talked all the time ... despite the time differance ... talked web cam
~ Shared a few phonecalls & he called when he came stateside for a visit
Then ...
~ Things started to drift apart ...
~ Calls stopped coming ...
~ Snail Mail stopped coming ...
Till ...
~ One day he told her " I cannot handle this any more ... "
~ He broke it off with her but they remained friends
But ...
~ That is over & he is out of the picture & I am glad of it as I found somethings out that made me rather sick to my stomach with him & I am glad that it's over & he has gone on with his life whatever that maybe ...
~ My daughter has found someone NEW & they are very much in love & they are just about 1 hour apart but ... at least he is in the states and he is there when she needs a hug, comfort, hand to hold, or just to hear the words: I LOVE YOU in person ... so that makes me happy !!!
Ok ... I am stepping down from my ladder !!!
Good Luck to all of you who take the big step !!!
But some ONLINE RELATIONSHIPS are a good thing ...
While others are not ...
I know this from watching my daughter with her RELATIONSHIP she had with a young man from The Netherlands ...
~ They started out as good friends ... talking all the time via web cam
~ Then they became BOYFRIEND & GIRLFRIEND ...
~ They talked all the time ... despite the time differance ... talked web cam
~ Shared a few phonecalls & he called when he came stateside for a visit
Then ...
~ Things started to drift apart ...
~ Calls stopped coming ...
~ Snail Mail stopped coming ...
Till ...
~ One day he told her " I cannot handle this any more ... "
~ He broke it off with her but they remained friends
But ...
~ That is over & he is out of the picture & I am glad of it as I found somethings out that made me rather sick to my stomach with him & I am glad that it's over & he has gone on with his life whatever that maybe ...
~ My daughter has found someone NEW & they are very much in love & they are just about 1 hour apart but ... at least he is in the states and he is there when she needs a hug, comfort, hand to hold, or just to hear the words: I LOVE YOU in person ... so that makes me happy !!!
Ok ... I am stepping down from my ladder !!!
Good Luck to all of you who take the big step !!!
Dating in general is miserable weather your online of real life. You can be lied to and cheated on either way, your just more suceptable to it having an online realtionship because your not there so you dont really know what the other person is doing. My advice........ Go to McDonalds and get the two cheeseburgers meal with big mac sauce on it. Its really good, and at least you know what your getting when you order it.
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My mother was in an online relationship for a year and a half with a guy in another state; it did not work out but there were children involved so it was a bit different. I think that if the connection is strong enough between the two people and one is willing to relocate to or visit the other / vice versa, it could work, but I agree - proceed with caution.
R
They aren't for everybody, but for those who are able to spill their soul through text to each other with that special someone they click with, and have deep rewarding conversations, regular video/voice chat, and they have a heck of a lot in common, and a lot of patience, I say go for it!
Just because it totally doesn't work for one person you know and they say only negative comments about them, or your parents' friends don't understand, etc. It does not mean it's the same with all. It's an individual thing. Everyone has different emotional needs in a different order.
And not every in-person relationship is long-lasting either. I don't know why people are so quick to jump on peoples internet relationships so quickly if it doesn't work out with them. People who date in person break up all the time.
I've been in a long-distance relationship with my guy for almost 4 years. We've met in person 5 times, and yes, all those years ago on that first meeting, he was exactly like the impression of him I got online...except more real lifey.
It did help that we started as only friends, and moved extra slow. We took the time to get to know each other at a slow, "boring" pace over the internet so there would be no surprises.
Just because it totally doesn't work for one person you know and they say only negative comments about them, or your parents' friends don't understand, etc. It does not mean it's the same with all. It's an individual thing. Everyone has different emotional needs in a different order.
And not every in-person relationship is long-lasting either. I don't know why people are so quick to jump on peoples internet relationships so quickly if it doesn't work out with them. People who date in person break up all the time.
I've been in a long-distance relationship with my guy for almost 4 years. We've met in person 5 times, and yes, all those years ago on that first meeting, he was exactly like the impression of him I got online...except more real lifey.
It did help that we started as only friends, and moved extra slow. We took the time to get to know each other at a slow, "boring" pace over the internet so there would be no surprises.