Well there's just no other way to tell my history or to explain the domino effect that brought me to where I am today without stating how I was a victim. It is not that I want to play the victim, or hold grudges, it's just that my history is what it is. To make up another scenario where I had the perfect childhood would be a lie, so what is one to do?
Kaycie, I really am sorry to hear about your childhood. I don't think anyone here considers relaying one's own history to be playing the victim card. Certainly you shouldn't hide things or pretend that everything was roses and butterflies when it wasn't. Repressing things is probably just as damaging as wallowing in them.
The friend I mentioned earlier in the thread was making a conscious decision to stay in her situation. She would deny that good things were good. I never had an issue with her talking about what had happened to her, my frustration arose when I could clearly see a way out of her situation to greener grasses, and she would fail to take hold of it. Every single time.
"Wow, really, Elsa? That's GREAT!"
"No it isn't. It's stupid."
"That's a really great opportunity. You should give it a try. Please?"
"I don't feel like it."
It was really depressing to be around, after a while, because there was nothing I could do. I was incredibly sad for her and what she was going through, but I didn't think I could do anything for her until she decided that she wanted to do something for herself first.