Politely saying 'no'
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This is actually established as a Bad way to handle things. Men are not wired to pick up hints. Men are wired for direct and clear communication. What you think of as "being clear" often is not clear at all to men.
All whats actually happening is you're dragging them along. Its nicer to give a direct answer sooner. You can still say it in a way that's not harsh, but at least they know to move on sooner than spending days, weeks or months thinking they have a chance when they don't.
All whats actually happening is you're dragging them along. Its nicer to give a direct answer sooner. You can still say it in a way that's not harsh, but at least they know to move on sooner than spending days, weeks or months thinking they have a chance when they don't.
Perhaps it is you who needs to come to grips with using words properly.
Stalking is persistent and unwanted attention from someone that makes
you feel intruded upon and harassed. It is not a single one-off incident.
The person’s behaviour can make you feel alarmed or distressed, or even afraid they might harm you.
The behaviour could include things like hanging around outside your house or work, following you, or
continually contacting you by phone, letter, email, text, or online. It could involve electronic surveillance.
Harassment, when someone intentionally pesters and intrudes on you, is also intimidating.
They can make you fear for your safety, or the safety of your family, whānau, friends, or even
pets. They may make direct or indirect threats of violence. <= From a New Zealand site.
Stalking is persistent and unwanted attention from someone that makes
you feel intruded upon and harassed. It is not a single one-off incident.
The person’s behaviour can make you feel alarmed or distressed, or even afraid they might harm you.
The behaviour could include things like hanging around outside your house or work, following you, or
continually contacting you by phone, letter, email, text, or online. It could involve electronic surveillance.
Harassment, when someone intentionally pesters and intrudes on you, is also intimidating.
They can make you fear for your safety, or the safety of your family, whānau, friends, or even
pets. They may make direct or indirect threats of violence. <= From a New Zealand site.
people exaggerate but it feels like Lynx is stalking me honestly. 
Keep in mind I am indolent before all else. Stalking takes way too much energy and attention to be worth it for me.
Translation: if you think I'm stalking you, don't flatter yourself.
and yes, I know when girls called the police, they didnt do anything or come soon enough.
Maybe you, Magenta have lived in a bubble. Or ignored what has been going on with young women all this while and yes, can happen in church except the worse thing is nobody actually believes the girls when they cry out about it. I can imagine some victim blaming going on here...
Maybe you, Magenta have lived in a bubble. Or ignored what has been going on with young women all this while and yes, can happen in church except the worse thing is nobody actually believes the girls when they cry out about it. I can imagine some victim blaming going on here...
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