Romantic

[Ugly]

Hi everyone. I did not want to derail seoulsearch's thread about unrealistic fantasies so I created this thread. I just want to know what are the things that men and women think as romantic in the real world. Here are some examples and it's surprising to know how different men and women are when it comes to romance.

Top seven things women think are romantic

-love notes
-music mixes
-flowers
-surprise picnics
-cuddling
-dancing under the stars
-shopping together

Top seven things men think are romantic

-seats on the 50-yard line
-a 1966 Mustang
-an Xbox 360
-powertools with a bow or ribbon
-sex (bow or ribbon optiona)
-baked goods
-silence

I think this list is biased. A mustang? Seriously? I really thought men are easy to please. I did'nt think they are high maintenance.

Not One thing on your list would I categorize as romantic. Sex may be the only exception at times. I hate sports. Have zero game consoles and am happy with that. I do like old Mustangs but see nothing romantic about them. I own zero power tools. Sometimes I like talking, sometimes I like silence. Neither is inherently romantic. And same with baked goods. Sounds more like you just picked common men's interests and slapped the word romantic onto it without any genuine thought behind it.
I've also never known any man that thought of these men's list ideas as romantic either.

Mother first 5 things on the 'women's' side I have done for women. I have also been shopping with a woman, nothing romantic about it on either side, even with a gf.
Typically it could be more accurate to say involving yourself in your mates activities from time to time, especially if they are not of interest to you, would be more romantically fitting. And then it's not the specific activity so much as it is a person being open and willing to share in their mates interests. Have to say this list feels full of presumption based and gender misunderstanding than anything factual.

 

[zeroturbulence]

I saw the trailer of princess bride. The music did not even match. lol! They did not know how to make a movie trailer back then. But I agree even the trailer was romantic and also you are very high maintenance as a man. Only a rich princess can afford those things.

Sadly, this is why I'm still single..

 

[Yeraza_Bats]

Yeah Ive heard that Zeroturbulance photoshops himself into pictures of expensive cars.

Apparently he has really expensive needs : p

 

[zeroturbulence]

Yeah Ive heard that Zeroturbulance photoshops himself into pictures of expensive cars.

Apparently he has really expensive needs : p

This is true lol..

 

[Grace-Like-Rain]

I would definitely say that men are just as romantic as women are. The list in the OP looks more like "wants" in a relationship or just life in general.

ro·mance
rōˈmans,ˈrōˌmans/
noun
noun: romance

• a feeling of excitement and mystery associated with love.
  

Examples of things many men enjoy, which I would consider romantic:

Holding hands
Cuddling
Watching movies together - or spending any special time together really
Buying thoughtful gifts
Doing a thoughtful deed (dishes, etc, with the intent of helping out)
Doing protective things (opening doors, walking you to your car, etc)
Dancing
Conversations of encouragement
Preparing dinner for someone
Traveling together
Sharing dreams together
And the list goes on and on.

Men may not display ALL of these things, but I don't know a single guy who doesn't display at least a few of them for the woman he is in a relationship with and cares about.

 

[Fenner]

To me romance is nice quiet moments we get to spend together. I also think it's romantic when we joke around and make each other laugh. It's also romantic just taking a ride or walk together.

 

[Dino246]

Well said, Grace! ^^^^^^

Personally, the last two in the OP list for men might work for me. Not silence as in "Just zip it, woman!" (sorry) but silence as in contented absence of speech or sound. Otherwise, time together, effort to cooperate and communicate even when it's hard, shoulder time (working side-by-side). Unhurried walks in falling leaves or snow works for me too.

 

[Tinkerbell725]

I would definitely say that men are just as romantic as women are. The list in the OP looks more like "wants" in a relationship or just life in general.


ro·mance
rōˈmans,ˈrōˌmans/
noun
noun: romance

• a feeling of excitement and mystery associated with love.
  

Examples of things many men enjoy, which I would consider romantic:

Holding hands
Cuddling
Watching movies together - or spending any special time together really
Buying thoughtful gifts
Doing a thoughtful deed (dishes, etc, with the intent of helping out)
Doing protective things (opening doors, walking you to your car, etc)
Dancing
Conversations of encouragement
Preparing dinner for someone
Traveling together
Sharing dreams together
And the list goes on and on.

Men may not display ALL of these things, but I don't know a single guy who doesn't display at least a few of them for the woman he is in a relationship with and cares about.

It really does'nt matter what you do together as long as their is effort to make the other special its really romantic. As for me what I consider romantic is someone who knows how to listen, trustworthy, proud of me and make the world know he is mine, accepts me, make me feel im part of his life, will fight over silly things with me but wont be angry with me for long and make up with me, fights are romantic, its the spice in relationships,specially when he is jealous. That's all for now.

To me romance is nice quiet moments we get to spend together. I also think it's romantic when we joke around and make each other laugh. It's also romantic just taking a ride or walk together.

Yes fenner the simplier the better.

Well said, Grace! ^^^^^^

Personally, the last two in the OP list for men might work for me. Not silence as in "Just zip it, woman!" (sorry) but silence as in contented absence of speech or sound. Otherwise, time together, effort to cooperate and communicate even when it's hard, shoulder time (working side-by-side). Unhurried walks in falling leaves or snow works for me too.

I know someone who considers the voice of his nagging wife as music to his ears. He just smiles when his wife nags because it means she cares. Maybe it depends on the kind of nagging. If it's more like complaining about everything then its not music to the ears. But most men love the kind of silence that you mean.




@ugly: its really not my official list. It's from a book called Cupidity.

 

[hoss2576]

My girlfriend and I were just talking about this. It isn't about a given list as much about a connection between romance and intimacy. The connection of one's overt act (a gift or action) with personal knowledge (intimacy) of their mate. I think it is the two together that creates romance.

 

[Tinkerbell725]

My girlfriend and I were just talking about this. It isn't about a given list as much about a connection between romance and intimacy. The connection of one's overt act (a gift or action) with personal knowledge (intimacy) of their mate. I think it is the two together that creates romance.

Right, the level of intimacy will show you exactly how to make your mate feel special and loved.

 

[Yahweh_is_gracious]

I'm easy to please. Bring me a turkey sammich and shut up.

Romance x 10000000000000000

No nudity required. Just feed my belly and keep silent.

 

[Yeraza_Bats]

I can definitely see silence as being romantic, actually yeah. Like, just being together in silence, enjoying each others company.

Its a nice thought, actually : p

 

[zeroturbulence]

Gaston is romantic..

 

[Ugly]

It really does'nt matter what you do together as long as their is effort to make the other special its really romantic. As for me what I consider romantic is someone who knows how to listen, trustworthy, proud of me and make the world know he is mine, accepts me, make me feel im part of his life, will fight over silly things with me but wont be angry with me for long and make up with me, fights are romantic, its the spice in relationships,specially when he is jealous. That's all for now.







Yes fenner the simplier the better.







I know someone who considers the voice of his nagging wife as music to his ears. He just smiles when his wife nags because it means she cares. Maybe it depends on the kind of nagging. If it's more like complaining about everything then its not music to the ears. But most men love the kind of silence that you mean.




@ugly: its really not my official list. It's from a book called Cupidity.

Burn that book then.

 

[Tinkerbell725]

Gaston is romantic..

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No doubt but overly romantic guys like him cannot be trusted.

 

[Tinkerbell725]

Burn that book then.

Lol!

Having a bad day? You need a hug. Don't take it out on an innocent book.

 

[SunsSunny]

I have a lot to say abou romance . I don't honk it is about a great surprise or a particular act.
Romance is about consistency. Just like Jesus, the consistency in which we love, in which we prioritize , in which we plan is romance. To let your partner know that he or she is always second only to God in your life , that is romance . Dependability , trust . To know she can trust you to hold her as the most beautiful even when you are around younger girls, to know when you look into her eyes you are fully enamored, fully captivated , fully protective , fully sacrificing. To have no strength to give if it were for yourself but to have the strength to run and carry her in your arms for her sake .

My girl has shown me much more romance for me than I have for her. Since I've known her I've matured so much in love. She never surprised me though I have done it all, rose petals all of a sudden when she enters a bathroom , food, ect. My acts were just nice surprises. The romance she showed me was unwavering loyalty. A love refined into loyalty that can stand with endurance, patience and joy ! Now I will spend the rest of my life sharing all the good I learn from Jesus to be her determined romantic husband

 

[Tinkerbell725]

I have a lot to say abou romance . I don't honk it is about a great surprise or a particular act.
Romance is about consistency. Just like Jesus, the consistency in which we love, in which we prioritize , in which we plan is romance. To let your partner know that he or she is always second only to God in your life , that is romance . Dependability , trust . To know she can trust you to hold her as the most beautiful even when you are around younger girls, to know when you look into her eyes you are fully enamored, fully captivated , fully protective , fully sacrificing. To have no strength to give if it were for yourself but to have the strength to run and carry her in your arms for her sake .

My girl has shown me much more romance for me than I have for her. Since I've known her I've matured so much in love. She never surprised me though I have done it all, rose petals all of a sudden when she enters a bathroom , food, ect. My acts were just nice surprises. The romance she showed me was unwavering loyalty. A love refined into loyalty that can stand with endurance, patience and joy ! Now I will spend the rest of my life sharing all the good I learn from Jesus to be her determined romantic husband

God is the true romantic. We are just like him. He pursues us endlessly and He also wants us to pursue Him. He said "You will seek me and find me, when you seek me with all your heart" jer 29:13

 

[Pipp]

Does spending my day off in my pajamas and having a Harry Potter-athon count as romantic... or making you sing all the songs from Mulan with me ???

No? Oh.. ok then... that's ok too.... I'm gonna get back to my movie.... it's getting to the good part

 

[BruceWayne]

-sex (bow or ribbon optional)

lol

With the exception of dancing under the stars, I don't mind doing anything else on the girls list. Doing romantical things is more about her/us than it is me(I like doing things she likes to do) and I enjoy most of that anyway, so win-win-win.

As for the guys list, I wouldn't consider most of that to be romantic. I'm not into cars, power tools, or baked goods. If she wants to sit and play video games w/ me, I love that, but I would likely not consider it a romantic moment.