Rules of Engagement
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completely off subject , but I've made these before 
Even when I go for an all-you-can-eat buffet I tuck myself into the starters and the main course. And I only have a scoop or two of ice-cream and skip the rest of desserts. 'Tis a shame, really. P.S. I hope I didn't derail this thread.
They must be delicious! I have tried hard to like sweets but they just don't go well with my taste buds. Not even waffles. Even when I go for an all-you-can-eat buffet I tuck myself into the startersand the main course. And I only have a scoop or two of ice-cream and skip the rest of desserts. 'Tis a shame, really.
P.S. I hope I didn't derail this thread.
Even when I go for an all-you-can-eat buffet I tuck myself into the startersand the main course. And I only have a scoop or two of ice-cream and skip the rest of desserts. 'Tis a shame, really. P.S. I hope I didn't derail this thread.
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My Rules on the pursuit of love...
I've been dating woman since I was 11 and with each woman I learned something that I liked or disliked. Learning through trial and error there's a lot of things that I don't want in a woman as far as "rules of engagement" go so I found it easier to express what what floats my boat... Like all of my post's I explain my reasoning, so here it goes...
Personality is #1 to me:
I'm big on a woman's personality, it's unfortunate that i'm 24 and the personality of a woman I admire is usually within the age range of 35+. Since 2013 I've been dating woman who in their mid 30's to mid 50's and its a different kind of bonding that is closer to my heart that I embrace rather than dating someone my age who is just starting to open the doors to life. My biggest turn off to woman my age is that they care way too much about their phones and what to post on Facebook or Instagram rather than looking around at what they have and enjoying life itself.
Equality:
She needs to put her equal share into the relationship, there's no way i'm being Mr. Moneybags again... That doesn't just go with finance but for love and all of its sects as well---(mind, body, & spirit). It's not too much to ask for, if she puts forth total equality into the relationship, she will be showered with love like a princess she deserves.
Joy for the little things:
Someone who can enjoy sunsets, full moons, a wonderful natural sight, writing love notes, simple cuddling with no progression, road trips, and just basically anything that would ever get missed. Take things slow and enjoy the little things.
Adventure:
With my job I've lived in five different states and five different countries in the past seven years so I travel a lot... I need someone who is adventurous and doesn't mind getting around and taking in the sights of the world.
Taking care of herself:
Strong is the new skinny and there's nothing better than a woman who physically takes care of herself and exercises on a daily to weekly basis, no matter the fitness level. I'm a competitive runner myself and if I can put in the time to take care of my body, she can too, and we can work together. Again from trial and error, I cannot be in a long term relationship with someone who is against exercise, that's a big no-no for me...
Has an Open Mind and Common Sense:
I dated within the college scene since I was 15 years old and learned it really doesn't matter how book smart someone is. I want a woman who can see the world with an open mind, sees and understands both sides of any subject, and naturally has common sense!
Fearless:
Someone who is not afraid of their own shadow and willing to step out of her comfort zone to try something new and adventurous.
Preferably not a Christian woman:
If it happens to where she already knows Christ, i'll still roll with it but I would rather find a woman and introduce her to Christ myself rather than finding someone who is already with Christ. To me, I feel it's counter productive as a Christian to date within your own religion because then you keep the love of Jesus within the Christian family (spiritual incest). Don't get offended, just think about it... If you can bring someone to Christ who has no idea what the love of Jesus love is, then their side of the family will eventually get introduced, and they'll bring their friends and other family members, and it's a chain reaction that can spread like wild fire.
Survival of the fittest:
This may be asking for too much but someone who doesn't cry about the little things... I need a woman who has been weathered with the stresses of life, a woman who knocked out many times and still got back up to fight in the next round of life. A woman who is tough and rouged and can embrace stress when it hits her the hardest only to counter back with the will to succeed and overcome. I don't want to have to baby her for every little boo-boo, there's almost nothing worse than that... She needs to be an adult and not have a mind of a child.
Motivation:
As a bonus, someone who can motivate me...
In the end, I really don't care if i'm single for the rest of my life because I enjoy what God has done with my life and I truly embrace the little things. I'm willing to wait to see what God does because he is full of random surprises but at the same time i'm in no rush what so ever. There's no need to waste time searching for love when you have your own life to live. Love will come when it's ready, but that's just me...
God Bless Everyone!
-Moose_Almighty-
I've been dating woman since I was 11 and with each woman I learned something that I liked or disliked. Learning through trial and error there's a lot of things that I don't want in a woman as far as "rules of engagement" go so I found it easier to express what what floats my boat... Like all of my post's I explain my reasoning, so here it goes...
Personality is #1 to me:
I'm big on a woman's personality, it's unfortunate that i'm 24 and the personality of a woman I admire is usually within the age range of 35+. Since 2013 I've been dating woman who in their mid 30's to mid 50's and its a different kind of bonding that is closer to my heart that I embrace rather than dating someone my age who is just starting to open the doors to life. My biggest turn off to woman my age is that they care way too much about their phones and what to post on Facebook or Instagram rather than looking around at what they have and enjoying life itself.
Equality:
She needs to put her equal share into the relationship, there's no way i'm being Mr. Moneybags again... That doesn't just go with finance but for love and all of its sects as well---(mind, body, & spirit). It's not too much to ask for, if she puts forth total equality into the relationship, she will be showered with love like a princess she deserves.
Joy for the little things:
Someone who can enjoy sunsets, full moons, a wonderful natural sight, writing love notes, simple cuddling with no progression, road trips, and just basically anything that would ever get missed. Take things slow and enjoy the little things.
Adventure:
With my job I've lived in five different states and five different countries in the past seven years so I travel a lot... I need someone who is adventurous and doesn't mind getting around and taking in the sights of the world.
Taking care of herself:
Strong is the new skinny and there's nothing better than a woman who physically takes care of herself and exercises on a daily to weekly basis, no matter the fitness level. I'm a competitive runner myself and if I can put in the time to take care of my body, she can too, and we can work together. Again from trial and error, I cannot be in a long term relationship with someone who is against exercise, that's a big no-no for me...
Has an Open Mind and Common Sense:
I dated within the college scene since I was 15 years old and learned it really doesn't matter how book smart someone is. I want a woman who can see the world with an open mind, sees and understands both sides of any subject, and naturally has common sense!
Fearless:
Someone who is not afraid of their own shadow and willing to step out of her comfort zone to try something new and adventurous.
Preferably not a Christian woman:
If it happens to where she already knows Christ, i'll still roll with it but I would rather find a woman and introduce her to Christ myself rather than finding someone who is already with Christ. To me, I feel it's counter productive as a Christian to date within your own religion because then you keep the love of Jesus within the Christian family (spiritual incest). Don't get offended, just think about it... If you can bring someone to Christ who has no idea what the love of Jesus love is, then their side of the family will eventually get introduced, and they'll bring their friends and other family members, and it's a chain reaction that can spread like wild fire.
Survival of the fittest:
This may be asking for too much but someone who doesn't cry about the little things... I need a woman who has been weathered with the stresses of life, a woman who knocked out many times and still got back up to fight in the next round of life. A woman who is tough and rouged and can embrace stress when it hits her the hardest only to counter back with the will to succeed and overcome. I don't want to have to baby her for every little boo-boo, there's almost nothing worse than that... She needs to be an adult and not have a mind of a child.
Motivation:
As a bonus, someone who can motivate me...
In the end, I really don't care if i'm single for the rest of my life because I enjoy what God has done with my life and I truly embrace the little things. I'm willing to wait to see what God does because he is full of random surprises but at the same time i'm in no rush what so ever. There's no need to waste time searching for love when you have your own life to live. Love will come when it's ready, but that's just me...
God Bless Everyone!
-Moose_Almighty-
Since you mentioned FB and "social" sites:
"Personality is #1 to me:
I'm big on a woman's personality, it's unfortunate that i'm 24 and the personality of a woman I admire is usually within the age range of 35+. Since 2013 I've been dating woman who in their mid 30's to mid 50's and its a different kind of bonding that is closer to my heart that I embrace rather than dating someone my age who is just starting to open the doors to life. My biggest turn off to woman my age is that they care way too much about their phones and what to post on Facebook or Instagram rather than looking around at what they have and enjoying life itself."
A month ago I registered in POF to look things around (I don´t use FB neuther the others) because I wanted to see anything new or changed. While surfing that site (not Christian-minded, by the way) I learned a couple ofthings I kept and met someone I knew just by pictures (and personal references of someone who was my GF). When I reached her out (just online) I confirmed she was the person I thought when I saw those pics but, at her age (52) she still seeks for romance and a couple of things I pointed out (like wine and candles on) I do not like to say in my profile (cliché ones easy to be faked). The lesson I re-learned before deleting that account was, as soon some ladies get bored of the things they liked, they would re-start the same loop to keep their life gong on and, since some men are not so naive at my age, the tend to pick young men to try why they like.
"Personality is #1 to me:
I'm big on a woman's personality, it's unfortunate that i'm 24 and the personality of a woman I admire is usually within the age range of 35+. Since 2013 I've been dating woman who in their mid 30's to mid 50's and its a different kind of bonding that is closer to my heart that I embrace rather than dating someone my age who is just starting to open the doors to life. My biggest turn off to woman my age is that they care way too much about their phones and what to post on Facebook or Instagram rather than looking around at what they have and enjoying life itself."
A month ago I registered in POF to look things around (I don´t use FB neuther the others) because I wanted to see anything new or changed. While surfing that site (not Christian-minded, by the way) I learned a couple ofthings I kept and met someone I knew just by pictures (and personal references of someone who was my GF). When I reached her out (just online) I confirmed she was the person I thought when I saw those pics but, at her age (52) she still seeks for romance and a couple of things I pointed out (like wine and candles on) I do not like to say in my profile (cliché ones easy to be faked). The lesson I re-learned before deleting that account was, as soon some ladies get bored of the things they liked, they would re-start the same loop to keep their life gong on and, since some men are not so naive at my age, the tend to pick young men to try why they like.
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