What rules do certain residents of CC follow in their pursuit of love? I will offer a few insights of my own. The rules listed are of equal importance for myself.
Have no fear of rejection.
Develop a tolerance for pain as you may end up with a broken heart. Be strong for you will survive. Life will go on.
Faint heart does not win fair woman.
Marry only for love.
Pay attention to detail.
Accept the woman for who she is at this moment. Positive refinement comes only from God over a long period of time.
I must be willing to accept God's discipline for my own positive change that she may find appealing.
Be patient but let your resolve be resolute.
Pursue with wild abandon in your heart. Do not hold back.
Never settle for second best or someone else's hand-me-downs
Do not date for the purpose of having a one-night-stand, as that is vanity and pointless.
Do not pursue anyone that you would not consider marrying. Do not waste your time.
Offer only the best that has been provided by God. Do not lie. Be honest in all things.
Her feelings are more important than my own desires.
I do not believe in long, protracted engagements. Either you know what you want or you don't.
Play for keeps or get out of the game. This game is for serious players only and not the timid.
All is fair in love and war.
My Rules on the pursuit of love...
I've been dating woman since I was 11 and with each woman I learned something that I liked or disliked. Learning through trial and error there's a lot of things that I don't want in a woman as far as "rules of engagement" go so I found it easier to express what what floats my boat... Like all of my post's I explain my reasoning, so here it goes...
Personality is #1 to me:
I'm big on a woman's personality, it's unfortunate that i'm 24 and the personality of a woman I admire is usually within the age range of 35+. Since 2013 I've been dating woman who in their mid 30's to mid 50's and its a different kind of bonding that is closer to my heart that I embrace rather than dating someone my age who is just starting to open the doors to life. My biggest turn off to woman my age is that they care way too much about their phones and what to post on Facebook or Instagram rather than looking around at what they have and enjoying life itself.
Equality:
She needs to put her equal share into the relationship, there's no way i'm being Mr. Moneybags again... That doesn't just go with finance but for love and all of its sects as well---(mind, body, & spirit). It's not too much to ask for, if she puts forth total equality into the relationship, she will be showered with love like a princess she deserves.
Joy for the little things:
Someone who can enjoy sunsets, full moons, a wonderful natural sight, writing love notes, simple cuddling with no progression, road trips, and just basically anything that would ever get missed. Take things slow and enjoy the little things.
Adventure:
With my job I've lived in five different states and five different countries in the past seven years so I travel a lot... I need someone who is adventurous and doesn't mind getting around and taking in the sights of the world.
Taking care of herself:
Strong is the new skinny and there's nothing better than a woman who physically takes care of herself and exercises on a daily to weekly basis, no matter the fitness level. I'm a competitive runner myself and if I can put in the time to take care of my body, she can too, and we can work together. Again from trial and error, I cannot be in a long term relationship with someone who is against exercise, that's a big no-no for me...
Has an Open Mind and Common Sense:
I dated within the college scene since I was 15 years old and learned it really doesn't matter how book smart someone is. I want a woman who can see the world with an open mind, sees and understands both sides of any subject, and naturally has common sense!
Fearless:
Someone who is not afraid of their own shadow and willing to step out of her comfort zone to try something new and adventurous.
Preferably not a Christian woman:
If it happens to where she already knows Christ, i'll still roll with it but I would rather find a woman and introduce her to Christ myself rather than finding someone who is already with Christ. To me, I feel it's counter productive as a Christian to date within your own religion because then you keep the love of Jesus within the Christian family (spiritual incest). Don't get offended, just think about it... If you can bring someone to Christ who has no idea what the love of Jesus love is, then their side of the family will eventually get introduced, and they'll bring their friends and other family members, and it's a chain reaction that can spread like wild fire.
Survival of the fittest:
This may be asking for too much but someone who doesn't cry about the little things... I need a woman who has been weathered with the stresses of life, a woman who knocked out many times and still got back up to fight in the next round of life. A woman who is tough and rouged and can embrace stress when it hits her the hardest only to counter back with the will to succeed and overcome. I don't want to have to baby her for every little boo-boo, there's almost nothing worse than that... She needs to be an adult and not have a mind of a child.
Motivation:
As a bonus, someone who can motivate me...
In the end, I really don't care if i'm single for the rest of my life because I enjoy what God has done with my life and I truly embrace the little things. I'm willing to wait to see what God does because he is full of random surprises but at the same time i'm in no rush what so ever. There's no need to waste time searching for love when you have your own life to live. Love will come when it's ready, but that's just me...
God Bless Everyone!
-Moose_Almighty-