Bro, it took guts to post this question. I'll level with you, I've struggled with this issue myself, and there isn't an easy answer. My advice, don't make any rash vows about it that you may or may not keep. Prayerfully and earnestly chase this issue down. Eventually things get better.
This question is one that comes up quite frequently, which is why there is a link to a discussion about mens issues in my sig, but it seems everybody posts once there and never stays. If you want to talk to someone about it though in an all male environment (you know, so the ladyfolk don't give up on us guys completely), that would be a good place to do it.
All this said, since it seems no one is down with the men's discussion, I'll post this in the open, since not everybody is as brave as you were in asking this question and I have answers that may help you.
My advice for dealing with this energy you don't know what to do with? Pray, read your bible, and hit the gym. Seriously just go and pick up the heaviest weights you can at least once a week and just go at it. If health wont permit that then do whatever it is you can do. Any kind of exercise will help. Exercise will calm you down quite a bit. It also does lots of great things for the brain that helps you to deal with the frustrations of daily life.
Everyone is different, so no promises here, but the nocturnal emissions (that's the technical term for a wet dream) can also go away on their own. The trick is to starve your mind of stimulus so it has nothing to draw upon while you're dreaming. Additionally, unused err, product (okay fine - sperm), can ultimately be broken down by your own body (sparing you from nocturnal emissions altogether.
And contrary to popular belief, a man's equipment does not shrivel up and die if it doesn't get used, mainly because the corpus cavernosa fill up with blood several times throughout the average man's sleep cycle. That's where the vulgar term "morning wood" comes from. One can go many many years before getting married and not have to worry about whether or not things are going to work right. In fact, things make work better, as you won't have been programming your brain to treat sex as a mechanical act.
If you deny yourself in this area of your life, I can tell you it's going to be a rough month or two, but on the back side of it, there is no guilt, and no concern over scriptural grey areas.