Slim Pickings?

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CW

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Hello all,

I was wondering if its only me or does anyone else feel that an acceptable christian partner thats your actually interested in is hard to come by, even in a church and youth group setting. Im not trying to sound shallow here but in life i would like to date and eventually marry a christian woman who i think is beautiful in both the inside and outside!

Its hard because first of all they need to be around your age... so once you narrow it down to that, then you need to consider the ones that are still single... then you have to be attracted to them and vice versa. By the time all this is checked off there is only about 2 or 3 women haha! ( maybe a little more but you get the idea) My town is not really that big and my main priority is to date/ eventually marry a CHRISTIAN woman. Ive always thought things are much better for christians who live in big cities with churches of a thousand people. They must have so many options :D haha. Ive always thought i should move away to somewhere with a larger church base, but with that being said ive never made an effort to pursue these women so things could work out fine where i am. Either way its in the Lords hands.

Anyways just wanted to know if anyone else feels the same way. I know if it is Gods will he will make it happen, and that God does work in mysterious ways. I pray for him to show us all who we are to pursue and take a leap of faith with. Again im not trying to sound like i base this all off a womans looks, but these things are important to me. God will shall be done. Hope to hear from you all soon and have a blessed day :)
 
RickShafer

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As slim as the pickings may seem, .....all it takes is one.
After all, you aren't marrying the Dallas Cowboy Cheerleaders......
She will come, before you know it.....
Have faith and stay steadfast, before you know it she will be there.
- You wouldn't want to pick and choose your mate anyway would you?
- - Who knows the future? Do you? Not anymore than the rest of us.
Who can see the spirit of a person? Can you? You might think you can, but you can't: (Not anymore than the rest of us).
Trust God to bring it to pass.
- - - And B.T.W., don't be too 'picky'. (You want to pick your own, go ahead).
 
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Ugly

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Another in their early 20's complaining about not finding anyone... *cringe...
 
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KJV15John11

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This is what is referred to as a "self-fulfilling prophecy." You only see failure, therefore, you will fail. Faith isn't just a concept, it is a plan of action. If you believe that you will find a girlfriend, you will exhibit the attitude that will attract them. Have you ever been attracted to a female who mopes around, only seeing doom and gloom? Neither will they.
 
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wwjd_kilden

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Don't go out looking for a girlfriend.
Go out being the best man you can be (by Gods standards) and you will soon enough attract the right kind of girls.
 
AAAPlus

AAAPlus

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I think this thread talks about what you're getting at:

http://christianchat.com/christian-...r-special-someone-mathematical-breakdown.html

I'm a firm believer that God makes things happen against all odds. I also believe that if God has someone special for you, He can also make it so that person lives in the same geographical area as you. Nothing is overlooked by God, nor does He make mistakes. If you're still concerned, remember that males in the U.S., even Christians, get married at the average age of 29. You've got the better part of a decade to get to that point, and even then, that's only the average.

A lot happens in a year. That girl will probably come along, but in case of the very likely circumstance that it doesn't happen for another 5 years, don't waste all that time making yourself miserable by worrying.
 
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kenthomas27

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CW said:
Hello all,

I was wondering if its only me or does anyone else feel that an acceptable christian partner thats your actually interested in is hard to come by, even in a church and youth group setting. Im not trying to sound shallow here but in life i would like to date and eventually marry a christian woman who i think is beautiful in both the inside and outside!

Its hard because first of all they need to be around your age... so once you narrow it down to that, then you need to consider the ones that are still single... then you have to be attracted to them and vice versa. By the time all this is checked off there is only about 2 or 3 women haha! ( maybe a little more but you get the idea) My town is not really that big and my main priority is to date/ eventually marry a CHRISTIAN woman. Ive always thought things are much better for christians who live in big cities with churches of a thousand people. They must have so many options :D haha. Ive always thought i should move away to somewhere with a larger church base, but with that being said ive never made an effort to pursue these women so things could work out fine where i am. Either way its in the Lords hands.

Anyways just wanted to know if anyone else feels the same way. I know if it is Gods will he will make it happen, and that God does work in mysterious ways. I pray for him to show us all who we are to pursue and take a leap of faith with. Again im not trying to sound like i base this all off a womans looks, but these things are important to me. God will shall be done. Hope to hear from you all soon and have a blessed day :)
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Yeah and prisoners have it even worse.


i'm going to bible discussions.

you heard me



I"M GOIN IN
 
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CW

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Im definatly not trying to rush anything, Im just saying that the pickings seem slim, but from that mathematical calculation it seems about average. More people are in this situation than i think. Especially Christians.

And for the record , yes I am letting god take control. I pray to god all the time, Lord help me to marry who YOU want me to marry. And in your time.

Again im not in any rush and yes i know im young. Just saying the pickings seem slim, but maybe they are very average after all
 
Nautilus

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pickings are slim i agree...and im in my early thirties...their just arent many good christian women left in my area in my age range, who i find attractive, and then furthermore click with...they all seemed to get married around 22 or 24.
 
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iTOREtheSKY

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kenthomas27 said:
Yeah and prisoners have it even worse.


i'm going to bible discussions.

you heard me



I"M GOIN IN
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Don't you dare Mr.! Get yer' buns back in the singles forum right now....DO YOU HEAR ME???????
Sweet & Sour Chicken! Does no one realize how potentially hazzardous to one's health it can be in there.
At least take your "Armour Of God Inflatable Hazmat Suit" & a clean pair of undies. Sheesh!
 
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Jullianna

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iTOREtheSKY said:
Don't you dare Mr.! Get yer' buns back in the singles forum right now....DO YOU HEAR ME???????
Sweet & Sour Chicken! Does no one realize how potentially hazzardous to one's health it can be in there.
At least take your "Armour Of God Inflatable Hazmat Suit" & a clean pair of undies. Sheesh!
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Standby...he may need back up :)
 
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iTOREtheSKY

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Indeed my friend..indeed.
 
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AprilAngel

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These kinds of posts make me sad...for society, and humanity....
 
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iTOREtheSKY

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How can someone with a RAWR♥ animated avatar ever be sad?
 
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CW

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Why would these posts make you sad for humanity... hahah
 
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adekruif

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Slim pickings is fine with me. I'm only looking for one to marry, not a whole crowd. ;)
 
Pipp

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Yes.. I understand what you mean. I don't think you want to marry a crowd or anything like that .. you were just trying to be observant. I'm 30 there are no single Christian men I know over 25 .... but the way I've always seen it happen in situations like that is God will let you cross paths with the right person some time or another... so don't distress.. you just have to be willing to wait. It hasn't happened for me, but I'm ok with that. Be content where you are and God will bless you :)
 
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CW

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You all are so patient!!! Making me sound like a cry baby hahaah! I pray for all of us to find the one god wishes us to marry. I believe he has it all planned out! Keep strong in your faith and pray from the heart!
 
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AprilAngel

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CW said:
Why would these posts make you sad for humanity... hahah
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because more and more people think that if they are not married and on that "marry go round" of the fast lived life (married at 20, 2.5 kids by 27, house car etc) then their lives are doomed with being single forever...it really is quite sad. I used to think like this.
 
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