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xXErraticEmilyXx

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I don't really know if I ought to post in this thread sense I'm not looking for someone.
I'm a bit of a loner, so I find it difficult to make friends who understand how much space I need... now trying to get that with a man who knows I love him even if I don't talk much and hang out in a room by myself a lot, that would be quite the prize! Of course, I do love some people very deeply, and I am able to express that, but I just need a lot of alone time. So that's one thing.
Another thing is that I'm very shy and don't speak up... only in forums :/ So I'm kind of hard to talk to.
 
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TheBoswalox

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I entirely understand the feeling of this post.

Where I am, there used to be a strong youth ministry at our church, however our Youth leader got married and moved away and now there is nobody really running it. To put ontop of that, all of the girls there were older than me (and some of my best friends now), but the issue is we're not bringing in enough teenagers anyway, as and there is nothing to encourage them anyway. However, everyone else has gone to University and moved on, so now all that's left of the youth is mybrother and I. Now, this is a problem considering the fact that we have no teenage/young adult ministry at all, but it's a bit of a bummer if you're trying to find a Christian Partner.

Now, that's from the "searching at your roots" point of view. There are many other issues (in my opinion).

To begin with, where I am it's quite difficult to find someone WHO IS ACTUALLY A CHRISTIAN anyway, which causes a lot of issues - I'm all for conversion, but it is nice to find someone who is at least understanding of your faith, and my faith is a BIG factor to me. For someone like me, who is a really nerdy/geeky guy, it's quite difficult to find someone anyway, let alone adding the additional criteria of being a Christian.

I think the important thing, depending on what kind of relationship you are looking for, is to find someone who you are happy around and is ACCEPTING of your faith. If you are truly meant to be together, then God will open their eyes.

As we've been looking at in our Ministry Training (I am a youth leader myself), "we are here to introduce Jesus, not convert them to Christianity. Once we've introduced them to Jesus, he will work in them."
 
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CW

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xXErraticEmilyXx said:
I don't really know if I ought to post in this thread sense I'm not looking for someone.
I'm a bit of a loner, so I find it difficult to make friends who understand how much space I need... now trying to get that with a man who knows I love him even if I don't talk much and hang out in a room by myself a lot, that would be quite the prize! Of course, I do love some people very deeply, and I am able to express that, but I just need a lot of alone time. So that's one thing.
Another thing is that I'm very shy and don't speak up... only in forums :/ So I'm kind of hard to talk to.
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Hello xXErraticEmilyXx :),

I will be praying for you and your shyness!! You know what?? no matter how socially shy you may think you are God is with you, and in the long run, that's ALL that matters. None of these earthly struggles will matter one day when were in heaven! There is also nothing wrong with wanting alone time and keeping to yourself!! Just make God at the centre of your life and HIS WILL BE DONE! Im glad you posted in this thread :) and have just said a prayer for you

If you ever need a friend or need someone to pray for you or talk to just let me know and I will do so!! God bless
 
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CW

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TheBoswalox said:
I entirely understand the feeling of this post.

Where I am, there used to be a strong youth ministry at our church, however our Youth leader got married and moved away and now there is nobody really running it. To put ontop of that, all of the girls there were older than me (and some of my best friends now), but the issue is we're not bringing in enough teenagers anyway, as and there is nothing to encourage them anyway. However, everyone else has gone to University and moved on, so now all that's left of the youth is mybrother and I. Now, this is a problem considering the fact that we have no teenage/young adult ministry at all, but it's a bit of a bummer if you're trying to find a Christian Partner.

Now, that's from the "searching at your roots" point of view. There are many other issues (in my opinion).

To begin with, where I am it's quite difficult to find someone WHO IS ACTUALLY A CHRISTIAN anyway, which causes a lot of issues - I'm all for conversion, but it is nice to find someone who is at least understanding of your faith, and my faith is a BIG factor to me. For someone like me, who is a really nerdy/geeky guy, it's quite difficult to find someone anyway, let alone adding the additional criteria of being a Christian.

I think the important thing, depending on what kind of relationship you are looking for, is to find someone who you are happy around and is ACCEPTING of your faith. If you are truly meant to be together, then God will open their eyes.

As we've been looking at in our Ministry Training (I am a youth leader myself), "we are here to introduce Jesus, not convert them to Christianity. Once we've introduced them to Jesus, he will work in them."
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hey TheBoswalox !

 I know what you mean, a few years ago my parent started going to a church that only had people aged 40+ with many being in theier 60's. I almost feel mad at my parent for being so selfish, as if i am ever blessed with a wife and children, i will make an effort to attend a good church, that ALSO has a good youth group base for my kids. It is very important for them to grow up in this. I wish i was brang up in a youth group an maybe i would have some good christian friends.

Anyways its not too late and I have been making an effort to attend all these kinds of youth groups and churches now. Maybe if there is no youth at your church try to attend a different youth group at another church. I know plenty of people including myself who will go to sunday service at one place but will attend a youth group at another place because I enjoy the fellowship and everything that goes with that there.

I will be praying for us all, god bless :)
 
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Jeshuvan

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nothing is impossible or slim pickings 4 God.Just have a totally sold out relationship with him,he will bring u a mate that will blow your mind.He did 4 me,all the way from India and im american.Get your eyes off the situation and get them on the solution=Jesus Amen
 
Nautilus

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is it just me that heavily frowns upon out of the country relationships? Not to say they are bad but it always hits me with a creepy mail-order bride gut feeling...
 
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Keykey13

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Honestly was thinking the same thing about the men in my church and many of the local churches around me. However never thought a male would feel that way. When I go to church it is so many single females and only married men.
 
Nautilus

Nautilus

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where do you go to church this sounds like a place to check out...
 
Nautilus

Nautilus

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yeah went to a new church this weekend(i live by like 3 or 4 churches) lots of attractive women...they all had rings was like welp...
 
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iTOREtheSKY

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xXErraticEmilyXx said:
I don't really know if I ought to post in this thread sense I'm not looking for someone.
I'm a bit of a loner, so I find it difficult to make friends who understand how much space I need... now trying to get that with a man who knows I love him even if I don't talk much and hang out in a room by myself a lot, that would be quite the prize! Of course, I do love some people very deeply, and I am able to express that, but I just need a lot of alone time. So that's one thing.
Another thing is that I'm very shy and don't speak up... only in forums :/ So I'm kind of hard to talk to.
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Ummm...you dress & create fantastic costumes of video game characters & go to comic cons among thousands of people. How are you shy??? When I was a kid shy people didn't put themselves in the spotlight to be seen by people. That was the last thing they wanted. I guess times have changed. lol
 
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