So Just What IS Loneliness, Anyway? (Loneliness Defined.)

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Loneliness... What Is It and When Do You Feel It?

  • I feel lonely when I'm by myself.

    Votes: 7 35.0%

  • I don't feel lonely when I'm by myself.

    Votes: 6 30.0%

  • I feel lonely when I am around other people.

    Votes: 7 35.0%

  • I don't feel lonely when I am around other people.

    Votes: 1 5.0%

  • I feel lonely all the time, with or without people. (What would change that?)

    Votes: 4 20.0%

  • I don't feel lonely very often. (What's your secret?)

    Votes: 3 15.0%

  • Loneliness is a situation (such as, being around people vs. being alone.)

    Votes: 2 10.0%

  • Loneliness is a state of mind (feeling lonely no matter what your situation.)

    Votes: 7 35.0%

  • Loneliness is something I can change.

    Votes: 5 25.0%

  • Loneliness is something I have no control over--it's just there, or it isn't.

    Votes: 4 20.0%
  • Total voters
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theanointedsinner

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Mielkefive said:
Nothing as of yet, But thx for asking. I enjoy talking to other Christians about what god can do in my life and their life.
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what God can do? God's power > our faith in God's power

it all boils down to faith which can be big or small
 
Pipp

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If I dwell on what I don't have I'll start to feel lonely...then one of the amazing children God blessed me to be an aunt to runs to me and jumps in my lap and tells me how much they love me ...and God reminds me of what I do have.


That said, there are times when I see or hear or read of something really sweet..and wish I had someone to share or experience it with. That makes me feel a bit lonely, but it doesn't usually last too long . There's grace for every situation, we gotta ask for it.
 
Lynx

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Pipp said:
That said, there are times when I see or hear or read of something really sweet..and wish I had someone to share or experience it with. That makes me feel a bit lonely, but it doesn't usually last too long . There's grace for every situation, we gotta ask for it.
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Well there's always our chatroom. That's what it is for, sharing stuff. :whistle:
 
Krumbeard

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Loneliness
Loneliness! What is it? Why does it happen? How does it happen?
I can't answer this. I know what some of the facets of it feel like.
Surrounded by friends, family that truly love and care for you. But still feel lost. Longing for intimacy. That someone who knew you so well...gone. Never again will they be with you. They knew what made you laugh, sad, angry, horny. Could tell by your face what you were thinking. Loved you despite your crap.
Where is she? Dead! Cold! Lifeless! Buried! GONE! My friend! My best friend! Never again will I hold her hand. Never again will I walk with her. Never again will I talk with her. Never again will I snuggle next to her in bed. Never again will I fight with her. Never again will I make love with her. Never again will I go on a date with her. Never again will I smell her. Never again will I say the wrong thing to her. Never again will I kiss her. Never again will I hug her.
She is a memory. A beautiful, wonderful, loving, strong, intelligent... memory. It hurt when we fought. It hurt when she insulted. Sad when I'd lie to her. All these things.
I miss her!
I love her!
I knew her!
She knew me!
This barely scratches the surface of loneliness.
You cannot understand it unless you've been there. As much as you try. Unfortunately you must experience it to know it.
You have ideas about making changes to the house. Wish she was here to give her thoughts about them. Wanting her ideas.

I have Christ. Why is he not enough? He is enough! Why can't I take comfort and refuge in him? Why must I bow to my idol of intimacy?
Lord? Why am I not content just to know you? You are everything I need!


I was curious about older posts so I picked page 21 of the posts. Came across this and found it interesting.

This is something I wrote in February trying to put into words what I was feeling.

I can understand Tommy's post about posting on CC.

I think I can be that person that monopolizes a conversation. I try not to, especially since I am aware of it.

Do you think Jesus was lonely in the wilderness for 40 days while being tempted?

Do you think Jesus was lonely in the garden when his closest earthly friends were sleeping while he needed them to pray as he faced the hardest thing he had to do? They fell asleep 3 times!
 
HisPeace

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zeroturbulence said:
Loneliness is feeling unwanted, unnoticed, unloved, unheard, unappreciated, detached, forgotten, not understood, rejected, etc., etc... You'll know it when you feel it.
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Agree! This was my life for almost 2 decades of marriage. Alone and single now, I crave a companion and partner in life, but I'm not nearly as dreadfully lonely as I was.
 
Didymous

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When I feel lonely, I turn to God. :cool:
 
StephanieMM

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It’s sad that the loneliest time a person usually feels is in marriage. It seems that unmet expectations for connection make one feel the loneliest. Singles don’t have as many expectations of connection since they don’t have someone to wake up with every morning and go to sleep with every night. Yet singles still expect to share something with someone. I thought that would be a friend. Seems like we don’t have as many friends with skin on as we do our cell phones. Imagine if we were ever parted from our phones and 24\7 internet how much lonelier we’d be.
 
Lynx

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StephanieMM said:
It’s sad that the loneliest time a person usually feels is in marriage. It seems that unmet expectations for connection make one feel the loneliest. Singles don’t have as many expectations of connection since they don’t have someone to wake up with every morning and go to sleep with every night. Yet singles still expect to share something with someone. I thought that would be a friend. Seems like we don’t have as many friends with skin on as we do our cell phones. Imagine if we were ever parted from our phones and 24\7 internet how much lonelier we’d be.
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That wouldn't be lonely. That would just be very bored.
 
cinder

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Lynx said:
That wouldn't be lonely. That would just be very bored.
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Probably some of each. But maybe they'd make each other so terrible that we actually went out and interacted with people in real life, even if it was just to complain about not having phones / internet.
 
Lynx

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cinder said:
Probably some of each. But maybe they'd make each other so terrible that we actually went out and interacted with people in real life, even if it was just to complain about not having phones / internet.
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Whoa! Actual personal interaction?! That WOULD be parlous times indeed!
 
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I spend a lot of time alone, but I don't feel lonely. Hanging out with family or friends on weekends is enough for me.
 
CharliRenee

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I wish I had seen this again before i went on about loneliness. This is awesome and perfect timing for how I am feeling right now. It is just an ache, like a yearning for fellowship. I know God is the solution but sometimes...I think we all get lonely no matter our status. We are not home yet. Usually, almost always, I am not lonely, but sometimes I am. Bless my heart...lolol
 
CharliRenee

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Lynx said:
That's fairly perceptive Kim, and something I have never considered before. Loneliness is a function of being ignored, of feeling like people are not paying attention to what you say or do.

It certainly explains why some people are such attention seekers, and why some people seem to create drama just for the sake of having drama. It makes them briefly feel less lonely.

I'm gonna have to go to w*rk and think about that one. I do most of my thinking at w*rk, where my hands are busy but there's not much to keep my mind occupied.

In the meantime:
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Youe comment is so spot on, wow!!! I think it is true and I have been guilty of that...powerful. Also, I needed this song is just what I needed to hear. Thank you.
 
Lynx

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Rats! I had a great reply to your thread, but then it got deleted...
 
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