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Quote"There was a man who replied with what I wanted to ask, and right here so everyone could see, making me extremely uncomfortable. I kind of felt my privacy was being invaded. As a man, he could've just said " can't help you, sorry", and move onto the next thing. Yet he chose, without my consent, to let everyone know what I was asking privately, making it even worse for me, since he said something like "she's asking questions that are inappropriate and blah blah blah".
So what you're saying is that you asked no questions that were inappropriate?! Because something is stinking here and someone is not telling the truth. Is anyone going to come clean? Because if this sort of thing is going to be going on behind closed doors at CC I will leave myself. I have no use for mind games. Who is going to stand up for the truth here?
Chandler, Prynce, you guys need to back off. As has been said in other posts, a few members here have info on this situation that no one else knows.. I can't say more than that, but suffice it to say that the OP wasn't really seeking what she presented here.. NOT AT ALL..
I'm with Kayla on this. The truth needs to be told, and if I could tell it, I would..
I'm with Kayla on this. The truth needs to be told, and if I could tell it, I would..
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Quote "[/COLOR]Now, let's take a look at the post count in this thread:
Ugly - 1
Magenta & Blue - 52
Thats because no one questioned what Ugly said which was the same thing Lady Blue and Magenta said. How many posts did P. NY make in argument with both ladies.Did you count those? Wonder why...
No one questioned me because I made a simple statement examining the potential risks, nothing more. Blue, on the other hand took it further by calling the OP foolish. N.Y. then defended the OP from name calling. Magenta then chimed in and added to the name calling. To which NY continued to argue against.
So what I said was non-accusatory and involved no insults. NY argued because he was defending someone being unfairly criticized. Who's going to complain about that?
Quote"Longstanding members ganging up on a new member based on hasty assumptions is not a kind way of handling things and is questionable to say the least. "
No hasty assumptions. Other men here said they were uncomfortable with what the OP was asking. Tourist and I believe Lynx said so. You dont ask a man you dont know questions about sex in a private message and not expect people to question that.The threat isn't hijacked.She didnt want an answer in the thread,she got her answer privately like she wanted. Like Ugly said,no one here knows her,shes anonymous so why did she need a private answer?
Quote "It honestly drives me up a wall when people reply to threads telling the OP what they should or should not do when they were not asked for it. "
Lady Blue was warning her what she was doing was unwise. She wasn't telling her what to do. Nor was Magenta.But in the future ladies I suggest you let women fall prey to whoever is on here.If they get the full Monty its their own fault because they cant seem to tell the difference between someone caring enough to warn them or someone attacking them. So let them find out on their own.
Quote " People are naturally going to come here seeking to talk to other single Christian members of the opposite sex. "
I highly doubt,and I cant speak for them,that Sister Tourist met Brother Tourist by asking him intimate questions about sex,without knowing him the first time she joined the site!!! Honestly are people that naive!?
Quote " Who cares if it's not a dating site. "
So you're suggesting to me that the OP asking questions about virginity to men she does not know straight out the gate is dating. Ok. I have some swamp land,interested?
Quote " Telling people that, or sharing other opinions of yours uninvited, is just downright annoying and unhelpful."
So you're the police of what opinions people are suppose to give on the forum are you? Im sure no one has ever disagreed or thought your opinion was unhelpful.
Quote"It is not up to you to police other adults."
Last time!!! The ladies were warning the OP what she was doing was unwise. Thats not trying to police. They cared enough to warn her. I was backing what the ladies were saying,and Ugly.They were all right. So Lady Blue,Magenta,Ugly if I were you,and I certainly dont mean to "police" you Id let these newbies find out the hard way what can happen when you open yourself up to strangers. Apparently people cant tell the difference between someone caring enough to warn them or being the police and giving unwanted opinions.
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The argument was Not about giving a warning, it was about the critical tone given. So this whole uppity, irate business you have saying to let women 'fall prey' makes you look foolish because your argument is not based off of the Original disagreement.
Ugly - 1
Magenta & Blue - 52
Thats because no one questioned what Ugly said which was the same thing Lady Blue and Magenta said. How many posts did P. NY make in argument with both ladies.Did you count those? Wonder why...
No one questioned me because I made a simple statement examining the potential risks, nothing more. Blue, on the other hand took it further by calling the OP foolish. N.Y. then defended the OP from name calling. Magenta then chimed in and added to the name calling. To which NY continued to argue against.
So what I said was non-accusatory and involved no insults. NY argued because he was defending someone being unfairly criticized. Who's going to complain about that?
Quote"Longstanding members ganging up on a new member based on hasty assumptions is not a kind way of handling things and is questionable to say the least. "
No hasty assumptions. Other men here said they were uncomfortable with what the OP was asking. Tourist and I believe Lynx said so. You dont ask a man you dont know questions about sex in a private message and not expect people to question that.The threat isn't hijacked.She didnt want an answer in the thread,she got her answer privately like she wanted. Like Ugly said,no one here knows her,shes anonymous so why did she need a private answer?
Quote "It honestly drives me up a wall when people reply to threads telling the OP what they should or should not do when they were not asked for it. "
Lady Blue was warning her what she was doing was unwise. She wasn't telling her what to do. Nor was Magenta.But in the future ladies I suggest you let women fall prey to whoever is on here.If they get the full Monty its their own fault because they cant seem to tell the difference between someone caring enough to warn them or someone attacking them. So let them find out on their own.
Quote " People are naturally going to come here seeking to talk to other single Christian members of the opposite sex. "
I highly doubt,and I cant speak for them,that Sister Tourist met Brother Tourist by asking him intimate questions about sex,without knowing him the first time she joined the site!!! Honestly are people that naive!?
Quote " Who cares if it's not a dating site. "
So you're suggesting to me that the OP asking questions about virginity to men she does not know straight out the gate is dating. Ok. I have some swamp land,interested?
Quote " Telling people that, or sharing other opinions of yours uninvited, is just downright annoying and unhelpful."
So you're the police of what opinions people are suppose to give on the forum are you? Im sure no one has ever disagreed or thought your opinion was unhelpful.
Quote"It is not up to you to police other adults."
Last time!!! The ladies were warning the OP what she was doing was unwise. Thats not trying to police. They cared enough to warn her. I was backing what the ladies were saying,and Ugly.They were all right. So Lady Blue,Magenta,Ugly if I were you,and I certainly dont mean to "police" you Id let these newbies find out the hard way what can happen when you open yourself up to strangers. Apparently people cant tell the difference between someone caring enough to warn them or being the police and giving unwanted opinions.
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The argument was Not about giving a warning, it was about the critical tone given. So this whole uppity, irate business you have saying to let women 'fall prey' makes you look foolish because your argument is not based off of the Original disagreement.
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Ugly things are going on more than you understand. It is way past what you just posted. And now it looks like the OP has another identity, just popping up in conversation. Im very disappointed in CC right now. Wolves come among the sheep and the Shepard is blamed for sounding the alarm. No one wants to hear nor tell the truth. A newcomer comes in and instead of trust long standing members people malign them and stand up for the OP. The lack of discernment here is astounding. Still waiting on the truth.
I didn't accuse her of anything in my post. Nor did I insult her. To be honest, Prynce doesn't have all the facts of this situation. A few of the others here DO. The OP presented herself one way, which was total opposite to what she really wanted in private.. And it WASN'T to talk about virginity..
No one questioned me because I made a simple statement examining the potential risks, nothing more. Blue, on the other hand took it further by calling the OP foolish. N.Y. then defended the OP from name calling. Magenta then chimed in and added to the name calling. To which NY continued to argue against.
So what I said was non-accusatory and involved no insults. NY argued because he was defending someone being unfairly criticized. Who's going to complain about that?
No one questioned me because I made a simple statement examining the potential risks, nothing more. Blue, on the other hand took it further by calling the OP foolish. N.Y. then defended the OP from name calling. Magenta then chimed in and added to the name calling. To which NY continued to argue against.
So what I said was non-accusatory and involved no insults. NY argued because he was defending someone being unfairly criticized. Who's going to complain about that?
The OP told me all about her situation & how she was uncomfortable talking about it in public. She ask for solutions to overcome habits & get closer to God. I provided solutions & her answers was solved & she was thankful. Meanwhile people in here were arguing amongst themselves about the "topic suggestion" instead of actually helping another soul.
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