Sometimes I feel like .......

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violakat

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The reason I'm posting this here and not in the Bible Study Forum is because I simply don't want the arguments, and it's more of just, I don't know, venting, for lack of a better word.

Sometimes, and I do mean SOMETIMES, it feels like my father's family has been put under a generational curse. Okay, so I know the Bible does say that no longer will the sins of the father be visited on the son, but I still feel like sometimes it still occurs.

Most of the men, seem to die in their 40's, either from natural causes or accidents. (Only two uncles so far have lived to their 70's.) A lot of the women have a hard time having children, not to mention all the major illness that surrounds my Dad's side. Also, it seems that a lot of the women are more likely prone to abusive relationships.

I would say, that it's really just from my dad's mother side, but my grandfather's first wife also died young, and there have been some other stuff in her line as well, although not as much, or else it was not well known.

And it also seems that of my grandmother's descendants, the two groups that have been hit the most are my dad's twin sister, and his oldest sister, as their families seems to be dealing with crises time after time, from babies dying for no reason, to murder, drugs, jail time, CPS, and even traffic accidents that have killed quite a few.

So, does anyone else ever feel like this?
 
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christian74

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The first thing that came to me, reading that most of the men seem to die in their 40's, was 'Honor your father and your mother and your life will be prolonged.' If I remember correctly, that's the very first commandment that comes with promise. I don't know how strong is the generational curse running in the family and don't know much about it to be honest with you. However, if God said your life will be prolonged when you honor your father and mother, I believe God's promise trumps over any generational sin.
 
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kenthomas27

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Yes! I feel like I have a kind of short fuse. It's mainly due to some kind of sickness or other that my family is known for- not like accidents or murder. Real murder, i mean, not like threats and pretending like you put a string on a shotgun trigger and then ran it around a chair and on the door knob so when the door opens he'd get blasted in the face with #2 lead....am I saying this out loud? No not like murder, but I do think I have a short fuse.
 

Lynx

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The first thing that came to me, reading that most of the men seem to die in their 40's, was 'Honor your father and your mother and your life will be prolonged.' If I remember correctly, that's the very first commandment that comes with promise. I don't know how strong is the generational curse running in the family and don't know much about it to be honest with you. However, if God said your life will be prolonged when you honor your father and mother, I believe God's promise trumps over any generational sin.
I knew it! As soon as I read the first post I KNEW someone was going to make it look like it was their fault, like if they were good christians this wouldn't have happened to them.
 
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jeremyPJ

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I was thinking there was mention in the Bible of sins of men being paid for by later generations, a few times my mother has made that comment about my life, that maybe I'm paying for the sin of my Grandfather's pride...I have directly paid for it in one instance, even though from the facts I know from my family, the price I paid was not grandpa's fault but rather the guy who got mad at him in a fair deal they made, it's plain stupid.

It directly affected my life, and I feel slighted. And my parents totally agree. There must be something the Lord knows that we don't. Or maybe he has a different plan. All I know is there is nothing I can do about it.
Some things apparently are not meant to be understood.
 

Joidevivre

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Life just isn't fair - and we don't always know what causes things to happen over and over again in a family. It is almost too easy to blame it on generational curses or Satan. It could just be "genes" and lifestyle choices. And if you try to pinpoint it, you still might be wrong.

We are never told to figure these things out - unless the Lord, Himself, tells you specifically. And if he does it is only for you to know how to pray.

You are in Christ and He is living in you. You, in a sense, have a new blood line (through the precious blood of Jesus) which has been given to bring you peace and wholeness. You are not under any curse when you are in Christ, because there is no curse that could touch Him and you are in Him.

As for your family, you really can't figure everything out - but you can pray for your family to know the peace that abiding in Christ brings.
 

seoulsearch

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The first thing that came to me, reading that most of the men seem to die in their 40's, was 'Honor your father and your mother and your life will be prolonged.' If I remember correctly, that's the very first commandment that comes with promise. I don't know how strong is the generational curse running in the family and don't know much about it to be honest with you. However, if God said your life will be prolonged when you honor your father and mother, I believe God's promise trumps over any generational sin.
Hi Christian,

You know I respect you greatly as a fellow person in the faith. :)

However, unfortunately, God's promises do not always come to everyone in neat little conditional packages ("If you do X, then God will fulfill Y"). Now before someone starts shouting at me that I'm calling God a liar or am saying He doesn't keep His promises, we must consider that even in everyday life that sometimes things just work out in ways we don't like or understand but that's how God decides to work it out. Along with God's promises, we are told to expect trouble and trial, sometimes without rhyme or reason in this life.

When I was about 10 years old, my family went to a church picnic and one of our members was there with his family. He was a police officer, and was suddenly called away on what seemed like a routine stop for a speeding ticket. What we all thought would be an everyday call turned into tragedy--the person who was stopped had a gun and started firing, and this beloved church member was mowed down at an extremely young age (I think he was in his early 40's.) What I remember very distinctly was all of us hearing the events unfold on the radio, and my Dad was crying and hugging us kids tightly. What hit me the hardest was seeing this man's wife now have to raise their two young sons alone, one of whom sat behind me in school.

Did this man honor his father and mother? I have no doubt--everyone in the church asked why he had died so young when surely he had dutifully and lovingly honored his parents. But for whatever reasons, God oversaw things a little differently than what we all had expected. Jesus Himself honored His father more than all of us put together and He still died at age 33, which I know is a bit different, but it was still a very young age.

Sometimes there are natural factors in play as well. I have a good friend whose family members never seem to live to even 50 but a lot of it is because of lifestyle choices--smoking, drinking, unhealthy diets, weight problems, diabetes, etc. Along those same lines, I remember one regular member here writing about his choices to uphold a strict fitness routine and maintain a careful diet because he had a family history of heart disease and early death as well.

I am someone who believes that generational curses can indeed be possible, but often it seems like it's more of a matter of how people are choosing to live their lives. What could be seen as a curse could also have medical and/or social implications: if the people in the family are all choosing the wrong things such as drugs, alcohol, smoking, unhealthy lifestyles and hanging with the wrong crowds, other family members and younger generations are going to follow suit because it's all they know.

If a young woman sees her mother and aunts choosing abusive men, she may not realize there are other choices. Poor diet and excessive weight, which plagues a good majority of people, will often have results such as infertility, a greater chance of accidents, and even "natural" causes of death such as diabetes and heart disease.

A "generational curse" may actually have a hefty foundation in lifestyle choices that need to be uprooted and overturned into more positive means of living that can be modeled for future generations.
 
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Hi, ViolaT!

I´m glad you "know" this: "I know the Bible does say that no longer will the sins of the father be visited on the son, but I still feel like sometimes it still occurs. "

I hope a time comes to BELIEVING it is so, although there are courses on people that need to be exorcized, prayed, fasted... Go find prayers for that, seek on the internet and sort them out. :eek:
 

Tinkerbell725

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Life just isn't fair - and we don't always know what causes things to happen over and over again in a family. It is almost too easy to blame it on generational curses or Satan. It could just be "genes" and lifestyle choices. And if you try to pinpoint it, you still might be wrong.

We are never told to figure these things out - unless the Lord, Himself, tells you specifically. And if he does it is only for you to know how to pray.

You are in Christ and He is living in you. You, in a sense, have a new blood line (through the precious blood of Jesus) which has been given to bring you peace and wholeness. You are not under any curse when you are in Christ, because there is no curse that could touch Him and you are in Him.

As for your family, you really can't figure everything out - but you can pray for your family to know the peace that abiding in Christ brings.

True...reminds me of this verse...
 

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christian74

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Hmmm... Am I missing something here?

I didn't say that the men were dying in their 40's, prematurely, because they failed to honor their parents. Rather, if they are dying because of generational sin, then perhaps (with my simple mind) one way to counter that is by honoring parents as God said honor your father and mother and your life will be prolonged.
 

violakat

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Oops, I see what happened in my original post. Apparently, the computer decided to leave out a few very important words.

So let me just clear this little mistake. Sometimes, and I do mean SOMETIMES, it feels like my father's side of the family has been put under a generational curse.

Hopefully that clears up some misconception about what I was saying.

Once, Stilly, or Banana, can one of you fix that mistake, so that anyone who comes in reading this in the future, will not be confused by what I said?
 

lil_christian

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The first thing that came to me, reading that most of the men seem to die in their 40's, was 'Honor your father and your mother and your life will be prolonged.' If I remember correctly, that's the very first commandment that comes with promise. I don't know how strong is the generational curse running in the family and don't know much about it to be honest with you. However, if God said your life will be prolonged when you honor your father and mother, I believe God's promise trumps over any generational sin.
Well, my mom died of cancer at 57 years old, and she honored her parents like crazy, to the point where she stayed at their home to take care of them. Soooo...in other words....

Try again.
 
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Donkeyfish07

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The women in my family generally live a looong time. I had a great aunt pass away a few years ago at 99. My great grandma is 90. The men however, we don't survive that long. A few lucky chaps made it to 60ish but a good bit of us don't even make it to 40. I've never thought of it as a generational curse or anything of that nature.
 

violakat

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The women in my family generally live a looong time. I had a great aunt pass away a few years ago at 99. My great grandma is 90. The men however, we don't survive that long. A few lucky chaps made it to 60ish but a good bit of us don't even make it to 40. I've never thought of it as a generational curse or anything of that nature.
Read my last post, Donkeyfish.
 

Oncefallen

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Once, Stilly, or Banana, can one of you fix that mistake, so that anyone who comes in reading this in the future, will not be confused by what I said?

Got your back.