Songs That Hurt to Listen To...

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Subhumanoidal

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Definitely. Much of the music I had in my teens I avoid (and that was a Lot of music). Back then I had bad depression but didn't really feel I had reason to. So I still felt hope about my future. Now my life has seemed to spiral downward. I'm older, my health is much worse and my mental state is not. Those feelings of hope about my future have gone. But that old music is a painful reminder of a time when I had it. And a reminder of where I am now. Some of my favorite music I now must avoid to keep from becoming depressed.
 

aakerd

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Hey Everyone,

I actually had the idea for this thread churning around in my head for a while, but since its topic literally just happened to me 5 minutes ago, this seems like a pretty good time to post it.

What songs come around that are actually painful for you to listen to?

I don't know if anyone else does this, but I purposely load my music playlist with a couple of songs that I used to like, but now actually hurt to listen to for various reasons. I do this because, 1. I feel like it's one of God's ways of making sure I'm not always choosing just the things that I like, as we are often called to do things we don't want in this life, and 2. I believe it's one of the ways God tests my heart and shows me its condition.

Most of the "painful" songs I load onto my playlist have a very strong negative emotional association for me, and so the song in and of itself becomes a litmus test as to how far (or how little) I've moved on, and what feelings or reactions I need to ask God for more help with.

One of the best examples in my playlist just cued up a few minutes ago -- and as soon as I heard that oh-so-familiar instrumental beginning, I immediately pushed the "Skip" button.

Obviously, I'm still attached to some negative emotions that this song always brings me back to, though on its own, it's a beautiful song, and one that I liked when it first came out. However, over time, this song became a reminder of the one of the most difficult times in my life, and sometimes, even just the introduction brings some of those feelings jolting right back.

It literally hurts to listen to, and I find myself asking God if I'll always feel this way, or if there's more work He's wanting to do that I have just been resisting.

Does anyone else have an experience like this as well?

* What songs do you find painful to listen to (if you'd like, feel free to name them or share a link), and, if you are wanting to share, why do these songs hurt?

* I know there could be other reasons a song is painful to listen to -- it might not be your style, or maybe it was a song someone else made you listen to even though you didn't like it. Feel free to list those kinds of reasons as well.

* Are there any songs that you couldn't listen to because of how much they hurt, but as time went on, God healed your heart, and you were able to start listening to, or liking them again? Or do you think these tunes will just always hurt?

I have actually had a few times where a song that always used to "hurt" before actually stopped hurting, and I took it as a sign that it was time to thank God for getting me through that time in my life, and, let "my heart go on."

What have your experiences been like?

May God bring us all to a time of peace and rest in His goodness during these very trying times!


One of my personal most pain-inducing songs is this:






How about you?
There is one singer that after listening to her, the ship does not sink, Carrie Underwood. So many uplifting songs. She is a wonder. "Temporary home" that might tear you up.
 

aakerd

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There is one singer that after listening to her, the ship does not sink, Carrie Underwood. So many uplifting songs. She is a wonder. "Temporary home" that might tear you up.
Okay. later then
 

Going_Nowhere

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It's hard not to feel some sadness when you listen to this one....especially if you are hurting.


 

Kireina

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I can't say that it hurts to listen but everytime I hear these songs playing especially when travelling at night it brings me back to my younger years ...reminds me of the past, the times where life was simple and raw...










 

Kireina

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@seoulsearch 😊 it is a great thread 😍 can u tell me the title of the song so that I can look it up...because it says it is blocked where I am right now...thanks 🤗
 

seoulsearch

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@seoulsearch 😊 it is a great thread 😍 can u tell me the title of the song so that I can look it up...because it says it is blocked where I am right now...thanks 🤗
Hi Kireina, thanks very much for sharing!

The first song is Celine Dion's My Heart Will Go On from Titanic. 🚢
 
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Live4Him

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Well, there's one (or more, hopefully) in every crowd...and here I am.

II Corinthians chapter 10

[3] For though we walk in the flesh, we do not war after the flesh:
[4] (For the weapons of our warfare are not carnal, but mighty through God to the pulling down of strong holds)
[5] Casting down imaginations, and every high thing that exalteth itself against the knowledge of God, and bringing into captivity every thought to the obedience of Christ;
[6] And having in a readiness to revenge all disobedience, when your obedience is fulfilled.

A good question to ask yourselves is this:

Do the lyrics of the songs that I listen to align themselves with the true knowledge of God and obedience to Christ?

If they don't, and hardly any come even remotely close to doing the same, then why are you listening to them?

To build up strongholds of disobedience which will require spiritual weapons (because you're giving place to demonic spirits) to cast them down?

If you think that music holds no spiritual influence over you, then please consider what some within the music industry have said themselves:

https://www.sonsoflibertyradio.com/...AGE=event_assemblies/under-the-influence.html

Personally, I've not only LITERALLY been delivered from demons which entered into me through music I had been listening to, but I've also cast demons out of others in Jesus Christ's name which entered into them through music as well.

Just saying...
 

Lanolin

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My heart will go on from Titanic,

I like Celine Dion and think she sang it beautifully but I didnt know anyone personally who drowned in the Titanic disaster so, I dont really think that song is painful for me to hear.

I am sure if someone close to me died in a tragedy like that the song might remind me of it, but it is a hopeful song about survival and going on living your life afterwards....its seems to me anyway!
 

BrotherMike

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I played this song for my Mom that made her cry. I knew she had a hard childhood and forgiveness was hard for her to do. I’m not sure if she ever did, but ever since that day I think of this song once in a rare while and makes me sad.

 

Lynx

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I've realized is that listening to most music brings me back to the past. I read people stop listening to "new" music at around 30, so I guess this makes sense.
Are there any error bars on this number? Maybe it's the center of a bell curve? Or maybe after you pass 30 the probability of rejecting any new music asymptotically approaches one..

All I know is it has been a long time since I saw 30 and I am still enjoying new music and new kinds of music. If I can find any new kinds. I think I found them all, at least so far.
 

BrotherMike

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I am way over 30 and listen to new music all the time. I have a Apple Music risers playlist I listen to often that is all new music.
 

TheIndianGirl

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Are there any error bars on this number? Maybe it's the center of a bell curve? Or maybe after you pass 30 the probability of rejecting any new music asymptotically approaches one..

All I know is it has been a long time since I saw 30 and I am still enjoying new music and new kinds of music. If I can find any new kinds. I think I found them all, at least so far.
I have not listened to any current/contemporaneous music since my late 20s; that could be because I don't really listen to music on the radio any longer. I couldn't name any new artist.
 

Lynx

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I have not listened to any current/contemporaneous music since my late 20s; that could be because I don't really listen to music on the radio any longer. I couldn't name any new artist.
Oh... no. No no no. No.

Yeah, no, I don't do radio. Every radio "playlist" I can find is a mere handful of songs, played over and over and over.

ESPECIALLY the redoubtable K-Love that Christians seem to default to these days. Bleh! They played that on the job for a few months and I heard the same song FOUR TIMES in a seven hour shift!

What I do to build my collection is I go to thrift stores, pawn shops, used bookstores and plow through all their music CDs. I pull anything Christian I haven't heard before and buy it all. At their prices if I like a tenth of what I got, I come out ahead. I usually like a third of it though, in all styles. What I don't like I dump on the local thrift store, and I never go there looking for music.
 

Subhumanoidal

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I’m lost between the darkness and the night
I’m caught between the shadows and the light
I’m torn between the silence and the violent
Refrain of the mind, and all its turns…

I’m dying again – i’m lying again
I’m crying again – i’m trying to be strong
I’m hiding again – i’m fighting again
Inside of me it’s broken
Inside of me it waits, and then…

Chasing monsters never ends… it never ends

I’m frightened when the sadness calls my name
I’m trapped inside the pain of fear and rage
I’m hanging on for mercy, i’m praying
As i cling to the stage… my scars remain…

I’m dying again – i’m lying again
I’m crying again – i’m trying to be strong
I’m hiding again – i’m fighting again
Inside of me it’s broken
Inside of me it waits, and then…

Chasing monsters never ends… it never ends

If only i understood the madness
The paralyzing sadness
The anguish and despair
In all my own delusions
I’m standing still… nowhere…

I’m dying again – i’m lying again
I’m crying again – i’m trying to be strong
I’m hiding again – i’m fighting again
Inside of me it’s spoken
In spite of me it breaks again…

Chasing monsters… it never ends

It only begins…
 

Lanolin

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Im reading a bio of Aretha Franklin atm
Im about half way.

It was interesting because her dad was a preacher. She grew up in the church, after their family moved up north and established churches. Instead of sharecropping, they way forward and upward mobility for african americans at the time was to get into their music, and they used gospel and blues, coordinated choirs, and went round on circuits performing after church. Music was originally solace for the soul after a hard days work in the fields being basically slaves! many of those songs were 'call and response' because entire families would sing out loud and call to each other in the fields.

Sometime later they figured out they could make a heap of money from this by recording and selling records. And not only sell to their own community but to 'cross over' to a wider market. This is where the 'hit song' was born.

Soul music is digging deep into that pain.

This is how a song like RESPECT comes about. It was originally Otis Reddings song, but Aretha, who was born with a gift for music(5 octave range, could play piano by ear) knocked it out of the park with her cover.

talk about singing for your supper! She had a record deal and that made her millions. But once you on the gravy train of recording, and hit the big time, you have to keep on doing it. It takes its toll.