If a man is still a virgin until marriage, what can a woman who isn’t say to convince him that he should marry her and not wait until he finds a woman who has saved herself as well
Your wording is confusing and may be why people aren't answering so simply.
Ann is not a virgin.
John is a virgin.
John feels he should wait for a virgin.
Ann feels her and John should get married.
John has reservations because Ann is not a virgin.
What can Ann say to make John feel better about getting married to a non-virgin, specifically about comparing them sexually.
I believe that is the situation being asked about.
Assuming she's been out of that lifestyle for some time and has shown herself to not be shallow. Then I'd say it doesn't matter. Women looking for emotional connections with people they love are going to be focused more on the act, rather than the action. And because of that who they're With and connected to emotionally will be their focus, rather than comparing.
The problem is you're trying to understand the thinking on a subject that you're not able to grasp. And worse yet you're trying to grasp it from the view of the opposite sex.
Chances are not much can be explained because you're working off of ideas and assumptions that may not be fact based.
You're like that 9 year old walking down the dark hall at night, thinking you know there's a ghost in the living room, when it's really just the dog.
Personally I think people who remain virgins put too much emphasis on it when choosing a mate. It seems to me the focus of staying that way should be God, not for a future mate. People with a past should not be disregarded if their heart is good in the present.