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"I will not go to bed angry with you" is a pretty powerful one. One that I hope she keeps. That's one of those things that I know I couldn't do on my own, without Christ.
I just think that wedding vows should have some weight to them. Maybe the wimpy 'vows' that are popular these days are a reflection of the equally wimpy conviction with which some folks enter marriage.
I just think that wedding vows should have some weight to them. Maybe the wimpy 'vows' that are popular these days are a reflection of the equally wimpy conviction with which some folks enter marriage.
M
All this talk about wedding vows...
My sister and her husband already got married last fall, but just had their wedding in September. They had a lot of fun with it, putting it together and all, but it wasn't really so much a wedding as a mockery of one...of marriage...ugh, it was so hard to sit through.
They wrote their own "vows" (which were exchanged in front of my sister's half-brother (yeah, crazy family) who is an internet "ordained" minister...), which included things like "I promise not to punch you for leaving hair in the sink" or "I promise not to kill you when you wake me up before my alarm goes off".
And then, as their "wedding song", they had a woman stand up and sing Pink's "True Love" (if you don't know what that is, don't bother listening to it).
The whole thing was just...I dunno, basically for shock value and completely ridiculous.
My sister and her husband already got married last fall, but just had their wedding in September. They had a lot of fun with it, putting it together and all, but it wasn't really so much a wedding as a mockery of one...of marriage...ugh, it was so hard to sit through.
They wrote their own "vows" (which were exchanged in front of my sister's half-brother (yeah, crazy family) who is an internet "ordained" minister...), which included things like "I promise not to punch you for leaving hair in the sink" or "I promise not to kill you when you wake me up before my alarm goes off".
And then, as their "wedding song", they had a woman stand up and sing Pink's "True Love" (if you don't know what that is, don't bother listening to it).
The whole thing was just...I dunno, basically for shock value and completely ridiculous.
i was sort of thinking about that earlier today. one thing i've noticed about myself, is that if someone points out my behavior (or something that i alone was responsible for doing) directed towards me alone, i would probably take it to heart with varying degree as to who that person is, and give consideration to their feedback.
however, if someone was to question behavior, not as individual, but as part of a group, are we as likely to take it as seriously?
i think sometimes the "herd" or group mentality can be used to justify or feel as validation for our behavior, because we aren't alone. as if it's ok because "so and so" does/also did it. and in a sense, feeling as though one can "hide" behind the behavior of the others as well. even say, "hey, at least i'm not the one who did THAT, i only watched", or whatever.
i think much of that is simply human nature, and perhaps even more relevant depending upon one's personality.
while it is sometimes it's easy to justify our choices because others' are doing it, by doing so, we are essentially making them our "measuring stick" of acceptability--instead of our own conscience. or an even more reliable tool for calibration.
however, if someone was to question behavior, not as individual, but as part of a group, are we as likely to take it as seriously?
i think sometimes the "herd" or group mentality can be used to justify or feel as validation for our behavior, because we aren't alone. as if it's ok because "so and so" does/also did it. and in a sense, feeling as though one can "hide" behind the behavior of the others as well. even say, "hey, at least i'm not the one who did THAT, i only watched", or whatever.
i think much of that is simply human nature, and perhaps even more relevant depending upon one's personality.
while it is sometimes it's easy to justify our choices because others' are doing it, by doing so, we are essentially making them our "measuring stick" of acceptability--instead of our own conscience. or an even more reliable tool for calibration.
Oh by the way I'm back from the mountains, mostly recovered from a very bumpy overnight train ride to get back (I'm pretty sure I slept a little bit of it). Mountains were foggy and rather cold, hotel included a nice big breakfast, got a little bit of hiking in, and roomie bought a nice new backpack which has given me a bad case of backpack envy (because I love backpacks, but couldn't quite decide what I wanted in yet another one when I've already got 2 that meet most of my needs here). Now I must get laundry done and get out to buy food and do some other important stuff like that. I want to go back on vacation.
Have you thought about mixing some decaf into your routine, that may help you cut back on caffeine without feeling quite so deprived? You'll have to let us know if there is some sort of placebo effect on your alertness levels as well.
Have you thought about mixing some decaf into your routine, that may help you cut back on caffeine without feeling quite so deprived? You'll have to let us know if there is some sort of placebo effect on your alertness levels as well.
I had always thought that those autocorrect things on facebook were fake. I'm sure that many are, but I just experienced one of those conversations that turned awkward thanks to autocorrect. The person I was texting accidentally put in the word "greasy" instead of "great," which made the whole conversation sound really dirty when taken out of context.
T
Marriage vows.
I've witnessed the traditional vows, I've witnessed amazing, Christ-soaked vows, I've witnessed meaningless vows (but only at non-Christian weddings), I've witnessed brilliant, nerdy but Christ-ordained vows. Personally, I think the marriage vows should be challenging and sacrificial but doable, with Christ's help. On a less serious note, I believe the vows should be unique (or at least the way they're written) to the couple getting married. For example, I went to a nerdy but Christ-ordained wedding. The vows contained some nerdy references regarding the couple eg. Doctor Who etc. but they always pointed to Christ and His role in holding together their marriage. It was baffling at times but rather beautiful.
I've witnessed the traditional vows, I've witnessed amazing, Christ-soaked vows, I've witnessed meaningless vows (but only at non-Christian weddings), I've witnessed brilliant, nerdy but Christ-ordained vows. Personally, I think the marriage vows should be challenging and sacrificial but doable, with Christ's help. On a less serious note, I believe the vows should be unique (or at least the way they're written) to the couple getting married. For example, I went to a nerdy but Christ-ordained wedding. The vows contained some nerdy references regarding the couple eg. Doctor Who etc. but they always pointed to Christ and His role in holding together their marriage. It was baffling at times but rather beautiful.
K
I see those struggles from time to time kiddo. Not often tho - and that's the thing that kills me. You are so strong and you didn't go and hide, but rather involved yourself in your church and community and school and life went on for you and even though you didn't want to, you made things work. You're a bleedin' oak most of the time. You even had me praying for the stupid dog of all things - i mean dear sweet Mocha.
Anyway, you just go ahead and have yourself a little self indulgence tonight and give me the honor of praying for you which I will. Things will look better in the morning.
Anyway, you just go ahead and have yourself a little self indulgence tonight and give me the honor of praying for you which I will. Things will look better in the morning.
I don't mind personalized vows, it's the 'meaningless' ones that get me. I would love to see how that couple incorporated Doctor Who into their vows! 
Something I really hate:
I'm at work. It's time for me to go. But I can't go because the person who's supposed to take my place is late. Again. For the 5,482nd time. Nothing major, mabe five or ten minutes late, I can understand that happening maybe once or even twice a month, but every day?
Wait, no, that's not the part I hate.
So he saunters in, stops to chat with a couple of people, clocks in and finally takes his place at work. I mention he is late. He says what he always says, "It'll be alright."
Whenver someone says that, in that dismissive tone of voice, IT NEVER IS ALRIGHT!
Okay, that's my complaining for today. Back to normal lunacy.
I'm at work. It's time for me to go. But I can't go because the person who's supposed to take my place is late. Again. For the 5,482nd time. Nothing major, mabe five or ten minutes late, I can understand that happening maybe once or even twice a month, but every day?
Wait, no, that's not the part I hate.
So he saunters in, stops to chat with a couple of people, clocks in and finally takes his place at work. I mention he is late. He says what he always says, "It'll be alright."
Whenver someone says that, in that dismissive tone of voice, IT NEVER IS ALRIGHT!
Okay, that's my complaining for today. Back to normal lunacy.
Has anyone ever thought about blowing up someone's notification tab? I thought about doing it before on April fools day. I was going to "Like" one hundred posts of someone I knew just so that the next time they logged on, they would have one hundred notifications! Imagine the horror and excitement all at the same time! Lol O_O