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It sometimes amazes me how unaware, or possibly vindictive some people are.
Back when Silly and i broke up a friend i don't talk to often messaged me and asked how things were. I told them about the break up and her response was to tell me she's in a new relationship. Really?
Then, tonight, a previous ex i haven't spoken to in 2 years messages me. They tried a year ago and i didn't answer them at that time, but i thought it may be ok now. That relationship ended horribly. She asks how things have been, i ask her how things have been. She answers and asks if i'm single still. I explain about Silly and she launches into how happily married she is. Goes on and on about it and even sends me a pic of her wedding ring on her hand. It felt as if she wanted me to be single so she could rub it in my face. A behavior i could fully see being possible, at least back when i dated her.
Which segues me into my next thought. The frustration of seeing other people doing well in areas you're stuck. And not just any person, but a person that seemed like they would always struggle. That ex had a Lot of issues. A lot of reasons why being in a relationship wouldn't work out, yet it has for her. Meanwhile i'm still here alone.
Even back when i was a teen i had a friend that seemed he would get nowhere in life. No one really expected him to do anything with himself. Last time i heard about him he joined the military, traveled all around the world and had a nice home, big truck, motorcycle and had a number of relationships. Meanwhile i'm sitting in a life that seems a dead end with no hope of anything worthwhile ever being in sight. And not much worthwhile in my past even, except a string of regrets and failures.
I said in another thread i may not live out of my 60s. Perhaps that's a good thing.
Back when Silly and i broke up a friend i don't talk to often messaged me and asked how things were. I told them about the break up and her response was to tell me she's in a new relationship. Really?
Then, tonight, a previous ex i haven't spoken to in 2 years messages me. They tried a year ago and i didn't answer them at that time, but i thought it may be ok now. That relationship ended horribly. She asks how things have been, i ask her how things have been. She answers and asks if i'm single still. I explain about Silly and she launches into how happily married she is. Goes on and on about it and even sends me a pic of her wedding ring on her hand. It felt as if she wanted me to be single so she could rub it in my face. A behavior i could fully see being possible, at least back when i dated her.
Which segues me into my next thought. The frustration of seeing other people doing well in areas you're stuck. And not just any person, but a person that seemed like they would always struggle. That ex had a Lot of issues. A lot of reasons why being in a relationship wouldn't work out, yet it has for her. Meanwhile i'm still here alone.
Even back when i was a teen i had a friend that seemed he would get nowhere in life. No one really expected him to do anything with himself. Last time i heard about him he joined the military, traveled all around the world and had a nice home, big truck, motorcycle and had a number of relationships. Meanwhile i'm sitting in a life that seems a dead end with no hope of anything worthwhile ever being in sight. And not much worthwhile in my past even, except a string of regrets and failures.
I said in another thread i may not live out of my 60s. Perhaps that's a good thing.
For what it is worth, I was very alone from the time I ran away from home at age 15 to the time I finally married at 43. I understand your feeling.
I met my wife on a Christian dating site. After a few weeks of emailing, we met at a restaurant. Three weeks later we were married. We had our 18th anniversary in Feb.
I DO NOT recommend getting married in so short a time. But in this case, God's grace made up for our foolishness.
God can do whatever He wants whenever He wants. Continue to ask God what He wants you to learn at this stage of your life. It is quite likely that once you learn it, He will move you onto the next stage of your life, whatever that may be.
T
Ugly and perhaps many more.
I often think that this life is not worth living but still I enjoy the small victories and joy life brings.
I am not sure how long I will live. If I refuse to use bipap or repiratory aid in some years' time, it will shorten my life for sure, and I welcome that.
It is hard to live with a chronic and progressive condition. If I hadn't a faint hope of healing in Christ I would just stop trying. Some say it is a false hope, for me it is better with a false hope than no hope. If I hadn't had faith I would probably have ended my life a long time ago.
That said... I am not down and I still work and study. I plan for a furture that I will enjoy both in a wheelchair or if I miraculously get healed. The life I live now, is what I would love also if not being disabled.
As for people rubbing in their happiness on you. People really seem happy and successful, don't they? But can you do anything about it? Can I do anything about those I thought was superior to at school beeing far more successful than I? No. I could be bitter but it doesn't help a thing. I just have to keep on moving as the Lord leads and keep on living. Perhaps it will become easier. Perhaps I will get that fairy tale ending. I don't know. I only trust things are bareable.
The other day a "friend" told me God sees everything and he will judge me accordingly. And Praise God He does see everything. Every trial. Every short coming. Every mistake. But he loves us and His mercy and grace is more than sufficient for us. It is just a matter of resting in that knowledge, moving forward to the best of your ability, not delving in the past but seeing God's hand in everything.
I am happy CC is a place where we can share our frustrations and encourage eachother. I am not sure this helped anyone else than myself. Because writing down thoughts and trials helps me a great deal. I hope and pray life will get easier for you and that you will experience joy again and happiness again soon. It might be together with some wonderful girl or it might be alone. But we are promised that joy comes in the morning . Remind yourself of that and expect to wake up happy. That works for me, for how many hours depends, but atleast I have experienced joy every day.
I often think that this life is not worth living but still I enjoy the small victories and joy life brings.
I am not sure how long I will live. If I refuse to use bipap or repiratory aid in some years' time, it will shorten my life for sure, and I welcome that.
It is hard to live with a chronic and progressive condition. If I hadn't a faint hope of healing in Christ I would just stop trying. Some say it is a false hope, for me it is better with a false hope than no hope. If I hadn't had faith I would probably have ended my life a long time ago.
That said... I am not down and I still work and study. I plan for a furture that I will enjoy both in a wheelchair or if I miraculously get healed. The life I live now, is what I would love also if not being disabled.
As for people rubbing in their happiness on you. People really seem happy and successful, don't they? But can you do anything about it? Can I do anything about those I thought was superior to at school beeing far more successful than I? No. I could be bitter but it doesn't help a thing. I just have to keep on moving as the Lord leads and keep on living. Perhaps it will become easier. Perhaps I will get that fairy tale ending. I don't know. I only trust things are bareable.
The other day a "friend" told me God sees everything and he will judge me accordingly. And Praise God He does see everything. Every trial. Every short coming. Every mistake. But he loves us and His mercy and grace is more than sufficient for us. It is just a matter of resting in that knowledge, moving forward to the best of your ability, not delving in the past but seeing God's hand in everything.
I am happy CC is a place where we can share our frustrations and encourage eachother. I am not sure this helped anyone else than myself. Because writing down thoughts and trials helps me a great deal. I hope and pray life will get easier for you and that you will experience joy again and happiness again soon. It might be together with some wonderful girl or it might be alone. But we are promised that joy comes in the morning . Remind yourself of that and expect to wake up happy. That works for me, for how many hours depends, but atleast I have experienced joy every day.
I don't know if this is what you need or not, but the first thing that comes to mind as I read your story was compassion for your difficult situation. The second thing was the book of Job and what God was testing in Job's life. It seems to me that through all that Job went through, God wanted to prove to the devil that Job would keep a correct attitude toward God.
"I think" that the book of Job teaches us that no matter what our circumstances, the most important thing we can do is to keep our attitude toward (and relationship with) God in a way that honors God.
I can't speak to your tough situation. And I regret that this may be little more than a spurious platitude. But it is what I thought of when I read your post.
Please pardon me if it is shallow and presumptuous.
J
Any of y’all keep forgetting your age?
Sometime whenever folks are asking me how old I am... I just can’t remember.
I get this bewildered expression on my face and I’m smiling hysterically whilst trying to remember how old I am.
Last week I said I was 33...and the week before I managed to say I was 32...Alzheimer???
Sometime whenever folks are asking me how old I am... I just can’t remember.
I get this bewildered expression on my face and I’m smiling hysterically whilst trying to remember how old I am.
Last week I said I was 33...and the week before I managed to say I was 32...Alzheimer???
Yes zero, I'm with tourist and his wife in praying for you. We are here to uphold one another. PM me anytime.
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