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rachelsedge, thank you for your advice. Maybe that's why it was more general as you are giving it to all the ladies. But good thoughts there. 
IF you are telling me personally that you don't want to hear me saying "You think all men are rapists" then no worries, I won't say that because that's a dumb and narrow minded assumption to make or say.
If you know me well, you would know I wouldn't make assumptions like that.
Seriously, in my particular situation, the way I felt that man touching my arm and rubbing it and with his looks, I bet you anything, he could be a sex predator. I mean, I was yelling at him and the way he's looking at me with a little bit of a smile on his face, felt SO creepy!!! You would only feel it and see it clearly being in the situation itself.
Good advice about the voice tactic rachelsedge. Yes, I did not see that was the case in my particular situation from the guy's condition. He really couldn't raise his voice, BUT he can touch and give certain looks!!! Like what I told GreenNnice, maybe he doesn't see small fonts, but he can clearly see me!!!
My surrounding was very busy too in this area in downtown, so that wasn't a problem to worry about. And on top of all of that, I KNOW God would protect me. But God also gave us mind to think with. But you're right, it's important to pay attention to these things. great general advice rachelsedge.
IF you are telling me personally that you don't want to hear me saying "You think all men are rapists" then no worries, I won't say that because that's a dumb and narrow minded assumption to make or say. If you know me well, you would know I wouldn't make assumptions like that.
Seriously, in my particular situation, the way I felt that man touching my arm and rubbing it and with his looks, I bet you anything, he could be a sex predator. I mean, I was yelling at him and the way he's looking at me with a little bit of a smile on his face, felt SO creepy!!! You would only feel it and see it clearly being in the situation itself.
Good advice about the voice tactic rachelsedge. Yes, I did not see that was the case in my particular situation from the guy's condition. He really couldn't raise his voice, BUT he can touch and give certain looks!!! Like what I told GreenNnice, maybe he doesn't see small fonts, but he can clearly see me!!!
My surrounding was very busy too in this area in downtown, so that wasn't a problem to worry about. And on top of all of that, I KNOW God would protect me. But God also gave us mind to think with. But you're right, it's important to pay attention to these things. great general advice rachelsedge.
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IF you are telling me personally that you don't want to hear me saying "You think all men are rapists" then no worries, I won't say that because that's a dumb and narrow minded assumption to make or say. If you know me well, you would know I wouldn't make assumptions like that.
I just know that some may think that I think all guys are potentially dangerous. My point wasn't that at all, it was just to be aware.I read a book in college that I asked (and received) for Christmas this year. It talks about how us humans will get this "feeling" we usually can't describe until after, when we say, "I just KNEW something was off when..." The book explains that it's typically because our brain picks up on tiny signals and processes them faster than we do, so we get a knot in our stomach, an uneasy feeling that something is just off but we can't quite place our finger on it. Sometimes it is very obvious and we know right away, other times it's small things that add up and our brain is telling us to be careful, and we don't know quite why at the time. This goes for men and women.
I think it's fascinating. I did a book report on it in college, and uh...skimmed the last few chapters because I procrastinated too long. I asked for it for Christmas so I could read the whole thing again, and because I'm a bookworm.
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How does one learn to drive in snow when one lives in an area of the world that rarely sees snow? Should it be mandatory for everyone to travel to typically snowed over regions in their own personal vehicles and take classes in order to get their licence? Oh wait, how would they drive their car from Florida to Virginia to practice winter driving if they can't get a licence to drive their car to Virginia, which they'd need to do, to get their licence.
People in Nebraska need to learn to mountain climb. Also, Hawaiians need to learn to ice fish. And Canadians absolutely should be required to have heatstroke/heat exhaustion first aid training.
There was a pretty decent one made in the 80's, with Richard Gere in the title role. A brief nude scene when he spies on Bathsheba, but overall, a pretty solidly told depiction as I recall. (A few minor liberties...he missed with the first couple of stones when dealing with Goliath, and stuff like that.) Dealt with Saul's attempts to kill him, his adultery, Amnon and Tamar and Absolom.
People in Nebraska need to learn to mountain climb. Also, Hawaiians need to learn to ice fish. And Canadians absolutely should be required to have heatstroke/heat exhaustion first aid training.
There was a pretty decent one made in the 80's, with Richard Gere in the title role. A brief nude scene when he spies on Bathsheba, but overall, a pretty solidly told depiction as I recall. (A few minor liberties...he missed with the first couple of stones when dealing with Goliath, and stuff like that.) Dealt with Saul's attempts to kill him, his adultery, Amnon and Tamar and Absolom.
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Yes, I thought you're talking in general, but I wasn't sure, that's why I said IF you're tell me personally.
That's quite an interesting book you've read. I like books like that that gives you a good advice about things of that sort. Having said you are a bookworm, will you suggest books for me? I like reading all kinds of books but only when the book is good. And I like being friends with bookworms like you because usually their thoughts are bright from reading a lot and that's what I see from your posts in general.
That's quite an interesting book you've read. I like books like that that gives you a good advice about things of that sort. Having said you are a bookworm, will you suggest books for me? I like reading all kinds of books but only when the book is good. And I like being friends with bookworms like you because usually their thoughts are bright from reading a lot and that's what I see from your posts in general.
Oh no, that wasn't directed to you at all. I just know that some may think that I think all guys are potentially dangerous. My point wasn't that at all, it was just to be aware.
I read a book in college that I asked (and received) for Christmas this year. It talks about how us humans will get this "feeling" we usually can't describe until after, when we say, "I just KNEW something was off when..." The book explains that it's typically because our brain picks up on tiny signals and processes them faster than we do, so we get a knot in our stomach, an uneasy feeling that something is just off but we can't quite place our finger on it. Sometimes it is very obvious and we know right away, other times it's small things that add up and our brain is telling us to be careful, and we don't know quite why at the time. This goes for men and women.
I think it's fascinating. I did a book report on it in college, and uh...skimmed the last few chapters because I procrastinated too long. I asked for it for Christmas so I could read the whole thing again, and because I'm a bookworm.
I just know that some may think that I think all guys are potentially dangerous. My point wasn't that at all, it was just to be aware.I read a book in college that I asked (and received) for Christmas this year. It talks about how us humans will get this "feeling" we usually can't describe until after, when we say, "I just KNEW something was off when..." The book explains that it's typically because our brain picks up on tiny signals and processes them faster than we do, so we get a knot in our stomach, an uneasy feeling that something is just off but we can't quite place our finger on it. Sometimes it is very obvious and we know right away, other times it's small things that add up and our brain is telling us to be careful, and we don't know quite why at the time. This goes for men and women.
I think it's fascinating. I did a book report on it in college, and uh...skimmed the last few chapters because I procrastinated too long. I asked for it for Christmas so I could read the whole thing again, and because I'm a bookworm.
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I'm feeling a little better, but I'd promised some kids from church that I would take them. I'm glad God helped me keep that promise because the exhaustion is well worth it. They were so excited and the music/speakers were great.
Stayed for a little bit of Lecrae (bottom pic), but some of the younger kids were getting tired and have school tomorrow, so we came on home.
Tenth Ave North played unplugged because the airlines lost a bunch of their stuff. They were troopers! Tweet/FB and encourage them! They have been stuck in airports for about 14 hours because of the weather.
Stayed for a little bit of Lecrae (bottom pic), but some of the younger kids were getting tired and have school tomorrow, so we came on home.
Tenth Ave North played unplugged because the airlines lost a bunch of their stuff. They were troopers! Tweet/FB and encourage them! They have been stuck in airports for about 14 hours because of the weather.
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doesn't anyone else know Paula Deen is 'the butter queen.' was. until she got kicked off Food Network show she had. she always speaks so daintily and motherly, i used to watch her from time to time, I neve noticed how much butter she used, anyway, yeah, that's why I said what I said in that post. Otherwise, nonth ofth yuh willth getth ith , think I'm daffy or something '
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I wonder, where mizcris is, I thought for sure she would have done a 'like' on Praus' sushi cats picture. Her and her 'appetizing' love for cats 'n all
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I wonder, where mizcris is, I thought for sure she would have done a 'like' on Praus' sushi cats picture. Her and her 'appetizing' love for cats 'n all
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Yea I knew who Paula Deen was years ago when my mom used to watch the food channel all the time. There was also Nigela, Barefoot Contessa, Rachel Ray (before she got all famous), Iron Chef competition, and a bunch of others I can't think of now. I used to like watching it too.
I used to like watching it too.
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Yikes! I feel for you, IloveyouGod. I really do. I'm a bit disappointed in some of you that you think she didn't act in a Christian or mature way. If someone is sexually harassing you, what she did is appropriate and understandable. Not everyone's an angel in disguise (stop over-spirtualising things) or an innocent, old person. There are sexual predators of all ages and sizes. Personally, I think she did well. I would have to restrain myself from bopping him in the face. Abuse of others, even minor stuff, is not cool!
So the Strangest thing happened to me today!!!!
I was at the bank machine. I saw that very old man who can barely move. Even using the wall a bit as a support when he's walking. Stood in front of the machine. Inserted his bank card and almost sticking his face to the screen in order to see. So I felt sorry for him n' I offered him my help. He said he forgot his eye glasses, so he can't see. His voice is so low, you'd have to get closer to him to hear what he's saying. I wanted to ask him to raise his voice a bit. But by looking at him, you feel like you can't ask for more than that, really!!
Anyway, he asked me if I can help him with his bank transaction and then take him home!!!! So I said, I can help you, and then call a cab for you. And I started to help him. And the weirdest thing happened!!!!! He started touching and rubbing my arm. I stepped away very quickly and I almost yelled at him, what a hell!!!! He kept looking at me like an idiot. I couldn't believe it a man in his age, his condition, who barely move or say one complete sentence, would do that!!!!!
So I said to him, you look like you're excused from your coffin. I can take you back to it if you want!!!
Still, he's not saying a word. I don't know if he understood what I said. I know he heard me cuz I was loud.
At the end his bank card got suspended by the machine because all of this time the card was in the machine and he's not doing anything.
So I told him your card is suspended and the bank is closed. Good luck!! N' I left.
Gush!!!! these people!!!! It would never have came to my mind he's messed up like that. And I would never think twice helping someone in his condition!! Now I'd have to think twice and three times!!
I was at the bank machine. I saw that very old man who can barely move. Even using the wall a bit as a support when he's walking. Stood in front of the machine. Inserted his bank card and almost sticking his face to the screen in order to see. So I felt sorry for him n' I offered him my help. He said he forgot his eye glasses, so he can't see. His voice is so low, you'd have to get closer to him to hear what he's saying. I wanted to ask him to raise his voice a bit. But by looking at him, you feel like you can't ask for more than that, really!!
Anyway, he asked me if I can help him with his bank transaction and then take him home!!!! So I said, I can help you, and then call a cab for you. And I started to help him. And the weirdest thing happened!!!!! He started touching and rubbing my arm. I stepped away very quickly and I almost yelled at him, what a hell!!!! He kept looking at me like an idiot. I couldn't believe it a man in his age, his condition, who barely move or say one complete sentence, would do that!!!!!
So I said to him, you look like you're excused from your coffin. I can take you back to it if you want!!!
Still, he's not saying a word. I don't know if he understood what I said. I know he heard me cuz I was loud.
At the end his bank card got suspended by the machine because all of this time the card was in the machine and he's not doing anything.
So I told him your card is suspended and the bank is closed. Good luck!! N' I left.
Gush!!!! these people!!!! It would never have came to my mind he's messed up like that. And I would never think twice helping someone in his condition!! Now I'd have to think twice and three times!!
i've actually been in your exact situation and they're probably the only male adult population that doesn't frighten me to help them, since i'm fairly certain that i can take care of myself around a guy that can barely walk.
mind you, i'm not criticizing you, or suggesting you shouldn't feel a certain way. i'm not even saying you should have hung around and helped him. i'm just sorry that you were so scared of a man that was of so little of a threat to you (physically) and in a public space--no one should have to feel that way. i'm not a physically imposing girl or nurture any illusions that my cardio kickboxing workouts will keep me from the boogeyman. but i refuse to allow an elderly man who can barely stand up cause me to have fear of my safety or send me running away.
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Just_monica, thank you for feeling sorry for how I felt about that man’s action. There’s no reason to take your words the wrong way. Maybe you just need to read what I said carefully. And read my responses to others that answer some of your points already.
I said he was “Barely moving” but he WAS moving. I did not say he can barely stand up and seems physically and potentially mentally infirm. So there’s no need to build on that assumption.
The man seemed to be in his end 60s and he WAS standing in front of the machine. End 60s is young, but he could have had other problem. I don’t know.
I find your assumptions too strong and assured for someone who was not even there to witness things first hand, but rather building your assumptions on what I said, which you already misunderstood it.
So your 2 assumptions of my response being “Extreme” and that my situation is “Exactly” like yours are both based on YOUR understanding to my situation. NOT based on what actually happened in my situation. I don’t think that’s an accurate or right judgement to make.
A man does not have to hit me or yell at me or abduct me to be a threat. This man was weak to do that. BUT, touching, feeling and looks was a sexual harassment, which is a wicked threat because it’s done so quietly and smoothly, which fits that man’s condition. So he was not of so little of a threat to me, like you said. But thank God, I was able to protect myself and did not allow things to escalate.
I said he was “Barely moving” but he WAS moving. I did not say he can barely stand up and seems physically and potentially mentally infirm. So there’s no need to build on that assumption.
The man seemed to be in his end 60s and he WAS standing in front of the machine. End 60s is young, but he could have had other problem. I don’t know.
I find your assumptions too strong and assured for someone who was not even there to witness things first hand, but rather building your assumptions on what I said, which you already misunderstood it.
So your 2 assumptions of my response being “Extreme” and that my situation is “Exactly” like yours are both based on YOUR understanding to my situation. NOT based on what actually happened in my situation. I don’t think that’s an accurate or right judgement to make.
A man does not have to hit me or yell at me or abduct me to be a threat. This man was weak to do that. BUT, touching, feeling and looks was a sexual harassment, which is a wicked threat because it’s done so quietly and smoothly, which fits that man’s condition. So he was not of so little of a threat to me, like you said. But thank God, I was able to protect myself and did not allow things to escalate.