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I'm going to ask kind of a different guy/girl question - it may vary from guy to guy, but I'm curious.
Do guys realize simply by looking at a woman that she respects herself? Like, in the way she presents herself. For example, when you walk into a room, she has good posture, but it's not forced, she's not ramrod straight. It's very natural. So it's basically how she carries herself, and not just modesty/immodesty. Not wanting to go into that issue. If so, do you see it right off the bat? Or would you not notice until approaching/talking to her, assuming that you do approach her and engage in conversation with her.
This question purely out of curiosity and I'm asking simply because I was watching a romance movie (last non-Christian romance movie I'll ever watch. Yuck. Ick. Blech!!) and a girl was complaining about how guys treated her once before and why she looked at them so cheaply. As I said. Last time I'll ever watch that kinda movie. As in...never ever ever. Ever. I mean, there were no graphic scenes. But I still wasn't a fan. It was kinda like, "Hey, I just met you, and this is crazy. But you're really hot. JUST KISS ME ALREADY!!"
Anyways, I wondered if it was because she didn't respect herself or she just represented herself in a way that attracted guys with those tendencies. Not saying she made the guy do it. It was purely up to the guy on whether he harassed her or not. No matter how someone dresses and carries themselves. But...if they don't carry themselves in a confident manner, is it going to attract the wrong type of guy, because they notice it, too?
Just to be clear - This is not about being a victim of harassment and who made who do what. Neither is it about modesty/immodesty. So please don't make it into that kind of thing. Thank you.
Do guys realize simply by looking at a woman that she respects herself? Like, in the way she presents herself. For example, when you walk into a room, she has good posture, but it's not forced, she's not ramrod straight. It's very natural. So it's basically how she carries herself, and not just modesty/immodesty. Not wanting to go into that issue. If so, do you see it right off the bat? Or would you not notice until approaching/talking to her, assuming that you do approach her and engage in conversation with her.
This question purely out of curiosity and I'm asking simply because I was watching a romance movie (last non-Christian romance movie I'll ever watch. Yuck. Ick. Blech!!) and a girl was complaining about how guys treated her once before and why she looked at them so cheaply. As I said. Last time I'll ever watch that kinda movie. As in...never ever ever. Ever. I mean, there were no graphic scenes. But I still wasn't a fan. It was kinda like, "Hey, I just met you, and this is crazy. But you're really hot. JUST KISS ME ALREADY!!"
Anyways, I wondered if it was because she didn't respect herself or she just represented herself in a way that attracted guys with those tendencies. Not saying she made the guy do it. It was purely up to the guy on whether he harassed her or not. No matter how someone dresses and carries themselves. But...if they don't carry themselves in a confident manner, is it going to attract the wrong type of guy, because they notice it, too?
Just to be clear - This is not about being a victim of harassment and who made who do what. Neither is it about modesty/immodesty. So please don't make it into that kind of thing. Thank you.
It usually takes 6 moths to a year to see the motive behind the acts that go on leading to show truth behind all the lies that cover up the Puberty stress pull. For this is in us all and I think think ius why God said to us to humble oursaelves as a child. This to me is before Puberty, to not be controlled by it, as the world is so obviously controlled by it
Hope this helps in what you are trying to find out
Right now I'm having one of those times when I'm trying to figure out why it would be better to go on living. Tonight I found out that the one person I thought appreciated me was actually very unimpressed and disappointed in me even though I had really done my absolute best to make a good impression (I am talking about my boss at my new job). This really upsets me not only because I have/had a lot of admiration and was extremely grateful to this person for believing in me enough to hire me and for being such a great boss to me (until tonight when I found out what he really thinks of me ). I've put my all into each day at work and worked as though working for the Lord (who is my real boss). My life at home is just as bad. I don't know what to do. I guess I need prayer.
). I've put my all into each day at work and worked as though working for the Lord (who is my real boss). My life at home is just as bad. I don't know what to do. I guess I need prayer.
From what I've seen here, I think you are gifted in compassion - your posts have made me think twice about the way I've responded to others on more than one occasion. Thank you for that.
Here's something retro for ya from one of the first rocker chicks of Christian music...[video=youtube;2HUXW_0ZMXI]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2HUXW_0ZMXI[/video].
A Tale of Two Cities
-- by Charles Dickens
A man in love with a girl who loves another man who looks just
like him has his head chopped off in France because of a mean
lady who knits.
Crime and Punishment
-- by Fyodor Dostoevski
A man sends a nasty letter to a pawnbroker, but later
feels guilty and apologizes.
The Odyssey
-- by Homer
After working late, a valiant warrior gets lost on his way home.
The Metamorphosis
-- by Franz Kafka
A man turns into a bug and his family gets annoyed.
Lord of the Rings
-- by J.R.R. Tolkien
Some guys take a long vacation to throw a ring into a volcano.
-- by Charles Dickens
A man in love with a girl who loves another man who looks just
like him has his head chopped off in France because of a mean
lady who knits.
Crime and Punishment
-- by Fyodor Dostoevski
A man sends a nasty letter to a pawnbroker, but later
feels guilty and apologizes.
The Odyssey
-- by Homer
After working late, a valiant warrior gets lost on his way home.
The Metamorphosis
-- by Franz Kafka
A man turns into a bug and his family gets annoyed.
Lord of the Rings
-- by J.R.R. Tolkien
Some guys take a long vacation to throw a ring into a volcano.
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Right now I'm having one of those times when I'm trying to figure out why it would be better to go on living. Tonight I found out that the one person I thought appreciated me was actually very unimpressed and disappointed in me even though I had really done my absolute best to make a good impression (I am talking about my boss at my new job). This really upsets me not only because I have/had a lot of admiration and was extremely grateful to this person for believing in me enough to hire me and for being such a great boss to me (until tonight when I found out what he really thinks of me ). I've put my all into each day at work and worked as though working for the Lord (who is my real boss). My life at home is just as bad. I don't know what to do. I guess I need prayer.
). I've put my all into each day at work and worked as though working for the Lord (who is my real boss). My life at home is just as bad. I don't know what to do. I guess I need prayer.
Do like what you have at the bottom of your posts - Praise to you, Lord Jesus Christ. Livin' for Him ain't easy at times, but it is worth it and will be once we're on the "other side."
Will be praying for you.
God is good.
With a thankful heart,
Abbie Jean
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A Tale of Two Cities is my favorite Dickens book. I really love how it ended when Sydney Carton sacrificed himself. He kept repeating John 11:25 to himself as he went to the guillotine.
I am the resurrection, and the life: he that believeth in me, though he were dead, yet shall he live.
Utterly mind blowing. I cried.
I am the resurrection, and the life: he that believeth in me, though he were dead, yet shall he live.
Utterly mind blowing. I cried.
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It was the best of times, it was the worst of times, it was the age of wisdom, it was the age of foolishness, it was the epoch of belief, it was the epoch of incredulity, it was the season of Light, it was the season of Darkness, it was the spring of hope, it was the winter of despair, we had everything before us, we had nothing before us, we were all going direct to Heaven, we were all going direct the other way...
Dickens could well have have written these words today, pertaining to the present age...
Dickens could well have have written these words today, pertaining to the present age...
If I marry, God's going to have to have someone really special to put up with me. lol
I mean, I'm not an unpleasant person to be with. That's not it. lol I'm going to have to have someone who'll be able to deal with me whenever I have a nosebleed. Now I don't have them very often. When I do, though, man. I'm a wreck. I had one about an hour ago...and I went into a small panic attack and got so nauseous that I got sick to my stomach. Yeah.
I mean, I'm not an unpleasant person to be with. That's not it. lol I'm going to have to have someone who'll be able to deal with me whenever I have a nosebleed. Now I don't have them very often. When I do, though, man. I'm a wreck. I had one about an hour ago...and I went into a small panic attack and got so nauseous that I got sick to my stomach. Yeah.
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Shouldn't CVS Pharmacy also stop selling soda, candy, chips, anything with sugar, salt, fat? Why only cigarettes? They say they're stopping the sale of cigarettes because it's inconsistent with trying to promote good health. But surely the soda, candy bars, and chips they sell run contradictory to good health too.
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I want to thank all of you who have been praying with me for the past couple of weeks. God has done so much in my life just this week. Changing so many things, including me, whether I like it or not.
As some of you know, I have been praying for answers to four questions. He answered the first one today. The big one. Now that I know where I'm going, I can move on to answer number 2, so I'll be spending the afternoon updating my resume and securing a new job.
The next 2-3 months will be extremely busy for me and I may not be around as much. Know that I am praying for you even if I'm not here. If you need prayer or if I can help you in any way, my new phone number is on my Skype. If you aren't on my Skype, PM me and I'll answer as soon as I can.
Always be a blessing..... J.
As some of you know, I have been praying for answers to four questions. He answered the first one today. The big one. Now that I know where I'm going, I can move on to answer number 2, so I'll be spending the afternoon updating my resume and securing a new job.
The next 2-3 months will be extremely busy for me and I may not be around as much. Know that I am praying for you even if I'm not here. If you need prayer or if I can help you in any way, my new phone number is on my Skype. If you aren't on my Skype, PM me and I'll answer as soon as I can.
Always be a blessing..... J.
Yesterday the regional president manager came to each of the branches to discuss things with us. After he talked to my branch, he looked over at me and said, "Any thoughts? You're being very quiet, and that scares me a bit." He was being facetious, I wasn't actually scaring him, but maybe my quietness was exacerbated by the fact that my other coworker was quite vocal about her thoughts. I asked a few questions that I already knew the answer to just to say something, so then instead of coming off quiet, I probably came off as dumb .
Sigh. I shouldn't have conformed and just said, "I'm listening but I understand." I don't know if I should have to make an excuse for my quietness when that's kind of just who I am...
. Sigh. I shouldn't have conformed and just said, "I'm listening but I understand." I don't know if I should have to make an excuse for my quietness when that's kind of just who I am...
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I told a woman in a coffee shop that she had nice hair today. She was shocked at first, and as I quickly added that I wasn't hitting on her as I continued to walk by, she laughed and thanked me.
It's odd that women are freer to say. such things to female strangers than men are. Yuet I understand the reasons for this.
I was definitely out of my "comfort zone" in doing this, but I'm glad I did.
I think I need to step out of the zone more.
It's odd that women are freer to say. such things to female strangers than men are. Yuet I understand the reasons for this.
I was definitely out of my "comfort zone" in doing this, but I'm glad I did.
I think I need to step out of the zone more.
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