Surrounded by a Sea of People, Yet Feeling Completely Alone. (What IS Loneliness?)

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Faithful_Fay

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Lonely in my definition is craving a connection with someone, wanting to form a bond or common experience.

Fortunately, it isn't an emotion I'm currently feeling. I'm a tad burnt out caring for folks so having yet another person that I'd feel responsible for is not something I'd look forward to. As selfish as it might sound, I'd much rather concentrate on me.
 
A_Friend_In_Christ

A_Friend_In_Christ

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When you want to be with friends or other people being "alone" and "occupying" yourself is not a solution unless you make up imaginary friends to be with. LOL.

Lonliness is real and it is not just in the mind. You can be in a room full of people and still feel totally alone. If you don't know anyone and you see other people having fun and having good conversations and laughing and you are sitting alone at a table you can feel extremely and painfully alone and you may want to leave that room in a hurry.

I would rather be with people that I don't know than to live on a deserted island all alone. People need human contact. At least I do. On an island all alone someone could say they have God, Jesus and all the 'angels". but when you need a hug or a handshake hugging the air just is not going to cut it.

Some people may like being alone. Maybe they are contented loners? i don't know. I want to be with nice Christian people and interact with them. I don't want to be isolated from people. It is no fun.

I want to be arround people that I appreciate and that can apprecite me as a fellow follower of Christ. Amen.
 
A_Friend_In_Christ

A_Friend_In_Christ

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I was lonely in high school and college, because I never felt like I fit in. I saw other people doing things together and I was never invited. That loneliness was real.

The elderly who have only a caretaker to visit with and their children live too far away or never come to see them can feel lonely. Another example of real loneliness.

On the weekends if all your church friends are with family or with their other friends having fun and you want to do something with them and they are all busy, this can be very lonely. Another lonely time that is very real.

Maybe the people who like being by themselves don't really like being sociable and being around people. They don't really care for friends or a "significant other". If they prefer the loneliness who are we to say anything? They can like being alone, but it does not mean that we have to.

I thank God for the gift of fellowship and friendship and maybe a special someone in the future. He wants us to have and enjoy people in our lives. Amen.
 
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ladylynn

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For me it does get lonely when I remember how things used to be and make the mistake of comparing then to now. I have been learning not to do that anymore. Life changes all the time and it is sort of an art to "be" where we are 'now'. Am getting much better at this. It's the shoulda-woulda-coulda thoughts that will cause me to feel lonely.

So although those days of the past with family were very good, they are not here 'now'. It is wise to be 'here' in the 'now'. If God has someone who is a good fit for me at my age that would be great; but it would be awful to seek out someone and try to fill a void if God was not the one doing the planning and directing. I would much rather be alone than with people who were not good for me or vs vs.

It always comes back to Jesus knows best what we need and going a head of Him is never a good thing to do. Let Him be the Good Shepherd Who leads to fulfilling the sheep. He knows the best places and He promises to take us there in life. Psalm 23 is a promise we can take seriously. :eek:
 
AsifinPassing

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This will sound a little random, but in reference to those having met other CCers... I've only met one irl, but had the opportunity to meet about another 5. Unfortunately, I was unable to make use of that opportunity at the time...
 
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skylove7

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AsifinPassing said:
Unfortunately, I was unable to make use of that opportunity at the time...
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This sentence...
It's adorable...because I'm just lol...
I never heard it like that!
Kind of like a polite sentence for an awkward moment.
HaHa
I haven't slept enough AsIfInPassing
I'm giggling at things
You know how that goes when sleepy but can't sleep
Lol
 
seoulsearch

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AsifinPassing said:
This will sound a little random, but in reference to those having met other CCers... I've only met one irl, but had the opportunity to meet about another 5. Unfortunately, I was unable to make use of that opportunity at the time...
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Hopefully next time, Asif. :D

I'm hoping there will be another meetup soon in the future. It really is a shame we're all so far away from each other because I do think many of us would, at the very least, make great friends, and that would definitely help ease the loneliness.
 
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