the Ugly appreciation thread (no joke)

[Powemm]

Mark 13:14
“When you see ‘the abomination that causes desolation’ standing where it does not belong—let the reader understand—then let those who are in Judea flee to the mountains.

 

[Markum1972]

Lately it's been comparably tame.

My perception is probably way off, I've been here three years and it feels like two, but about a year ago it used to be a lot worse. It's still very Cliqueish.

I am new here. Didn't get that impression. Took the time to get to know others and felt as though most everyone did the same for me.

 

[arwen83]

I didn't know that there were cliques...does that mean I am in one? *wide-eyed- gasp* Finally I belong, I belong!!

 

[Relena7]

Yes, there will always be cliques or the tendancy to form cliques. I'm not asking for preferential treatment, or even to be liked. What I am saying, is that though I am not endorsing this line: "So you and your little follower Souel can just go off and be together and leave me alone." there is some truth to it. The Singles Forum is dominated by a group of mutual back patters and any dissident quickly ends up the enemy of a multitude. I've mostly watched it from a distance, and I don't much care for it.

Fair enough.


EDIT: I think that the whole clique/mutual back patting stuff is unneccesarily divisive.

You have just described a supportive community that enjoys peace and likes to get rid of trolls. I personally really like having a little corner of the forum where trolls don't feel as welcome.

Clique is such an unnecessary word. What it really means is, that there is something for everyone. And we don't all have to force ourselves to be someone we're not if we all want to get along. Rather we find mini groups that we can tolerate in small doses instead of one massive group where we always perceive personal attacks.

 

[jimmydiggs]

I didn't know that there were cliques...does that mean I am in one? *wide-eyed- gasp* Finally I belong, I belong!!

So the mockery begins. I shall bow out.




Thank you for your time and patience, but I do not wish to continue with this thread.

 

[Powemm]

"Beyond all these things put on love, which is the perfect bond of unity."
Colossians 3:14 NASB

 

[Powemm]

Deuteronomy 10:12
[ Fear the Lord ] And now, Israel, what does the Lord your God ask of you but to fear the Lord your God, to walk in obedience to him, to love him, to serve the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul,
Deuteronomy 10:15
Yet the Lord set his affection on your ancestors and loved them, and he chose you, their descendants, above all the nations—as it is today.
Deuteronomy 10:18
He defends the cause of the fatherless and the widow, and loves the foreigner residing among you, giving them food and clothing.
Deuteronomy 10:19
And you are to love those who are foreigners, for you yourselves were foreigners in Egypt.
Deuteronomy 11:1
[ Love and Obey the Lord ] Love the Lord your God and keep his requirements, his decrees, his laws and his commands always.

 

[Jullianna]

If by "cliques" people mean some folks who have known one another for several years, have seen one another through a LOT and have prayed for/encouraged one another, then, yes, this forum can be a bit "cliquish". And I am so very thankful for it.

I don't know anything about any event of discord that may or may not have prompted this thread and I don't want to. As a member of such a clique, I absolutely offer my sincere love and appreciation for Ugly. His direct nature has encouraged me and given me pause more than once...and a swat on the hiney I needed a time or two as well. He often says things I want to say, but can't find the right words. I genuinely appreciate that and think it is absolutely needed many times.

 

[error]

You could just send him a private message and explain yourself. No needs to have a thread like that. That is what I think.

 

[zaoman32]

You could just send him a private message and explain yourself. No needs to have a thread like that. That is what I think.

My thoughts exactly.

 

[zeroturbulence]

A thread like what?

I started this thread so people can show appreciation for Ugly because he said he felt like leaving CC due to the statement that I liked/agreed with in that old thread.

If anyone doesn't like it they don't have to post in here.

 

[violakat]

Cliques? What?

I dunno. I just busted up in here like I own the place.

Cris, Several of us, when we first joined, had a really hard time trying to get involved with the forums. In fact, I and another person nearly left a year ago or two ago, simply because we just were having a hard time fitting in. We both ended up staying. I, because I honestly didn't think people cared about anything that I posted. And it wasn't until Nichole told me something, I forgot what, that I realized maybe I wasn't being ignored after all. Or at least, not by everyone.

Now back to Ugly, you know exactly what I think of you, so you know when I say this it's true. You're awesome dude. And PM, cause you're never on when I do actually come in. (Although, I guess the PMing thing works both ways.)

 

[iTOREtheSKY]

I think this thread should just be closed...subject dropped. They are both grown men,if they have anything to work out they can PM one another. Just sayin...lol

 

[Powemm]

St ugly? Zero?
you are two "upstanding"men and setting the example to young men coming up into this thread...
I haven't personally spoken privately with either of you ..
but I'd like to share something from
Me to you..not that anything I say matters a whole two cents.. But I want you both to know something ...
I came to cc for one reason and one reason only... I was looking for answers to what I now know are visions from God.. On my search of those answers God revealed something I have never seen or come to know in my life..
and that is how to feel " free" without any chains in the presence of men .. not women , men..
my heart was hardened to the point I didn't want one speaking to me, nor did I want a friendship with one . The possibility of getting into a relationship with another one was so far from My mind that I believed I would be alone forever ...
when I came into these forums .. I saw two things .... at ugly your "actions" caught my eye .... I witnessed for the first time a
Man step up to protect the integrity of these forums ... let me tell you what that does for a woman who had her sternum broke, her hair ripped out, bruises all over her body, broken teeth, spit on, a gun cocked and loaded and having it pressed into your eye socket, the back of your head and in your back while being strangled ... it brings hope that someone is willing to step up and protect what God says is precious . I wish you knew what the words " you're children are never going to see their mother again " feels like ... I dont want any empathy or pitty and not even a single I'm sorry for any of these words I'm writing...I dont even want a comment back on it or an "I like" to be hit on it .. In fact I don't want anything said ..
But for someone like me coming from where I've been .. Your integrity in itself reaches out and hugs my heart every time I see you do it..
Zero?
for the first time in my life ..and I'm looking way back.... besides my mother and brothers .. I saw someone who didn't know me from squat, make their presence known in a forum thread I was scared to death to even post .. you never spoke to me directly but you did post scripture to let me know what gods word said in the situation I was in ... do you know what just seeing a name "steadily present" through the whole thing was like? well let me tell you .. it was like Jesus was right by my side ... Just as I know Him in my heart..
I dont know what's going on here and frankly I don't care .. Not my deal..
But I'd sure like to tell you both you are a stronger force and presence in these forums together and united, then you are apart.. and for a woman such as myself healed by God.. there may come some girls or women through these forums going through far worse things then I have endured .... doing what both of you do.. Is evidence of the hope Christ has promised to us.. Yet have never seen... You wear those robes and be who God has made you "both" to be and stand your posts ...
it was a light in a darkness for me ... and one of the very reasons of many I have been able to develope some friendships ... They were identifying characteristics of what "safe" looks like in the flesh .
I felt moved to share this .. you both mean something in the kingdom .. and I certainly won't forget what either of you have meant to me ...
I hate public displays and all that bs ... I'm sorry I had to step up and say something... thanks

 

[TheAristocat]

That's not what this is, Ugly. I didn't ask Kim to post anything in here and I made sure not to reply to it because I didn't want this to be about me. If you really think that is what this is about then I am sorry I made this thread. Do you think it was easy for me to make this for you? Believe me I gave it some thought and now I am sorry I did.

I don't know what you mean by saying you know what I think of you. I only pointed to what truly happened between me you and that girl in that thread. If you think I'm just making things up to make myself look good or if I am somehow bending the truth to make you look like the bad guy or whatever then cal me on it. Tell me what I said that was wrong or made up.

I see now that you are just either in too much pain to see things clearly or you truly aren't worth the effort of trying to reach out to. I actually prayed for you when you were in the hospital. I've liked several of your posts. I've never even argued with you. If you still think this thread is a joke, then the joke is on you because I made this thread in complete sincerity.

Better send a private message. He's outta here

 

[seoulsearch]

No this is a joke. I saw what you said in the other thread. I know what you really think. And i can see how Seul came into this thread that's supposed to be saying good things about (psh) and ignores me and talks about you. This is the crap on here i'm talking about.
And no, i don't want a thread like this. Especially not made by someone trying to look like the 'good guy' in all this. So you and your little follower Souel can just go off and be together and leave me alone.

Ug,

You are allowed your own opinion. I know that in another thread I wrote, you had a lot of criticism for it but had also said you didn't even read the first post, so I'm not sure what the qualification was for the criticism. But yes, we're all allowed to think and write as we wish.

I went to school with a guy who had been through so much, even when someone tried to be kind to him, he lashed out.

I'm sorry for what you've been through that causes the pain in your heart to lash out. But you can choose to let God heal it as well.

And yes, I'm a Zero Follower. And Proud Of It.

Thank you. He's my friend, and someone I turned to when someone I love had a life-threatening-illness. Zero encouraged me, prayed for me, and has always been a kind and friend. I tend to be attracted to people like that, and offer no apologies for choosing true friends God gives me.

 

[seoulsearch]

I guess I'm also a bit bad in that if something is already public, I tend to deal with it on a public level--something I learned from a pastor I once met--he used to say that if an issue was out in the open, then he would deal with it openly so people could see what was going on and not whisper about it, but, that's just my opinion. I'm certainly not saying I'm right at all.

But for my own way of going about things, if something is being dealt with and it's already been put "out there", "out there" is where I'll confront it.

 

[seoulsearch]

Sorry for the triple posting

But, when you first came to the forum, Ug, I wrote you and told you I enjoyed your posts and said that you seemed like a very compassionate person.

I prayed for you as well while you were in the hospital, too. What you choose to do with the fact that people care about you is your own right.

Take care and God bless.

 

[dashadow]

Instead of being followers of one another, we should be following Christ. But if you expect every so-called Christian to do that, you'll be very disappointed. The back patting and ganging up is not going to stop. Sometimes we have to agree to disagree and move on. Only God knows peoples true motives.

 

[zeroturbulence]

Instead of being followers of one another, we should be following Christ. But if you expect every so-called Christian to do that, you'll be very disappointed. The back patting and ganging up is not going to stop. Sometimes we have to agree to disagree and move on. Only God knows peoples true motives.

Sheesh come on man, you really think she meant that she is a follower of me? Give me a break. She just meant that she's my FRIEND.

This thread needs to be closed.