Traditional Family: Husband works and Wife is a stay at home mom.

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Do you want a tradional family somday?


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Tintin

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Fair enough, but the part time/alternating parenting idea is a terrible one, if you wish to grow together in your marriage. Sorry.
 
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Kia123

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Ugh... i'd hate to be on a schedule like that in a marriage. What's the point in being married if your life has more to do with being a baby sitter than a spouse? I couldn't handle that.
Haha its not that horrible :p just only for the really organised people.... i couldnt do that but i think its an interesting idea.
 
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Ugly

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Haha its not that horrible :p just only for the really organised people.... i couldnt do that but i think its an interesting idea.
The level of horrible will vary though. Depending on the person. For me, personally, it would be horrible.
 
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Jullianna

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That can be done any place and any time if the parents choose to do it and work together. Before my daughter was born, my ex and I decided that she would stay home. After a while, my ex wanted to go back to work so I changed jobs and shifts so that she could work but my daughter was never in daycare.

It didn't allow any personal time for my ex and I though. Which in hindsight, was a blessing. :)
This is what my husband and I did, worked at different times so one of us could always be with our son. There was sometimes a day or two during a month when he was with his grandmother (one of the most amazing Christians I've ever known in my life), but never in daycare.
 

Gary

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This is what my husband and I did, worked at different times so one of us could always be with our son. There was sometimes a day or two during a month when he was with his grandmother (one of the most amazing Christians I've ever known in my life), but never in daycare.
I'm not a fan of daycare unless it's a last resort!
 
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Ugh... i'd hate to be on a schedule like that in a marriage. What's the point in being married if your life has more to do with being a baby sitter than a spouse? I couldn't handle that.
Tsk tsk Ugly. It's not "babysitting" when they are your own kids. :rolleyes:
 

Calmador

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Jun 23, 2011
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Im looking for a marriage partnership. One where both contribute equally. I mean my parents both worked and I was fine. I just don't see why in this day and age a couple would choose to handicap their family with one income, unless that one person was bringing in insane amounts of cash. I mean my parents roughly made 400,000+ and then 54,000 a year. Did we need that second income? Probably not, did it make life better having it? Yes it did. Why not both work and provide the best possible for your children?
I'd say you don't know what you missed out on... I'll quote myself...

"I'll try to make a line...

I think there's a big difference between a woman who focuses on her career and forgets her family. She doesn't cook or do laundry.. she doesn't look after her family's needs when it comes to clothing, health and perhaps even income if she doesn't spend her earned money from her career on her family.

Contrast with a mom who would do all those little things for her family...cooks, cleans, nurtures, nurses, clothes her family and even works part-time to help her family financially.

I'd stand on my head for a woman like that... my mom was like that and it really showed that she cared. I think Love is clearly expressed in things like that... a mom helping her children put on clothing, spoon feeding them, cooking for them, cleaning, disciplining them, playing with them... giving them showers, hugging them... wow

Hell, just thinking about it... Mom, has a more important role in parenting. And looking at scripture, the stay at home mom fits the shoes of the proverbs 31 woman. "

There isn't enough money to buy the love and care of a stay at home mom. Picture this... my mom would remind EVERY morning to drink atleast one glass of milk. It was practically sin not to drink a glass of milk. I guess milk does provide some nutritional value and I remember this and I think wow really cared about. She also used to make me home made breakfast, tie my shoes, and I even remember her bathing me as a little kid. She played with me.. hugged me. And she'd iron my clothes and kept the home clean and neat. When I got hurt... she'd put band aids on me and hugs and kisses and her genuine concern were an automatic thing. She used to sing this one song in her native language... Pacha Kuneecha Pacha Kaneese Pacha Kuneecha... and she'd make me dance as a little kid. And I loved it. lol I owe my mom my life...

I want that for my kids and money can't buy that.
 
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Jullianna

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I'm not a fan of daycare unless it's a last resort!
Agreed, but I don't want to come down on people who have no other alternative. It must be VERY difficult for them. It would have been for me.
 

Calmador

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Jun 23, 2011
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That's funny, because I can't help but be repulsed by people who are repulsed by ladies who don't want to be stay-at-home-moms.

By all means, do not marry someone who does not share your goals. But a lady who does not want to be married... is repulsive to you? Someone who wants to marry but not have kids? That's repulsive?

The bible is quite clear that there is nothing wrong with remaining single. So, if God is not repulsed by it, then why are you?
You know what I meant. I wasn't talking about single people.. or those who want to remain single.
 

Nautilus

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I'd say you don't know what you missed out on... I'll quote myself...

"I'll try to make a line...

I think there's a big difference between a woman who focuses on her career and forgets her family. She doesn't cook or do laundry.. she doesn't look after her family's needs when it comes to clothing, health and perhaps even income if she doesn't spend her earned money from her career on her family.

Contrast with a mom who would do all those little things for her family...cooks, cleans, nurtures, nurses, clothes her family and even works part-time to help her family financially.

I'd stand on my head for a woman like that... my mom was like that and it really showed that she cared. I think Love is clearly expressed in things like that... a mom helping her children put on clothing, spoon feeding them, cooking for them, cleaning, disciplining them, playing with them... giving them showers, hugging them... wow

Hell, just thinking about it... Mom, has a more important role in parenting. And looking at scripture, the stay at home mom fits the shoes of the proverbs 31 woman. "

There isn't enough money to buy the love and care of a stay at home mom. Picture this... my mom would remind EVERY morning to drink atleast one glass of milk. It was practically sin not to drink a glass of milk. I guess milk does provide some nutritional value and I remember this and I think wow really cared about. She also used to make me home made breakfast, tie my shoes, and I even remember her bathing me as a little kid. She played with me.. hugged me. And she'd iron my clothes and kept the home clean and neat. When I got hurt... she'd put band aids on me and hugs and kisses and her genuine concern were an automatic thing. She used to sing this one song in her native language... Pacha Kuneecha Pacha Kaneese Pacha Kuneecha... and she'd make me dance as a little kid. And I loved it. lol I owe my mom my life...

I want that for my kids and money can't buy that.
i guess you missed the part about my mom teaching at the school we attended in elementary school. We probably saw her more than kids with stay at home moms did, since we rode to school and home with her, saw her like at lunch, meanwhile other kids went 6-8 hours not seeing their stay-at-home moms. So Im not quite sure what youre insinuating I missed out on. She still did all the cooking too. The cleaning well that was swisher maids.

Not to mention i was feeding, clothing, and bathing myself by three. Which I also mentioned my mom stayed home till i was about 9. BUt yeah, so I guess i got the best of both?
 
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PopClick

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You know what I meant. I wasn't talking about single people.. or those who want to remain single.
Actually, I did not know what you meant, I only knew what you said. And I still think that "repulsed" is too strong of a word to use.

What if I started a poll that asked whether people liked dogs or cats better, and I made it a public poll. And I encouraged people to post whether they liked dogs or cats better, and why. And then, after some people had already voted and posted their preferences, I stated that I couldn't help but be somewhat repulsed by those who liked dogs better.

See what I mean? 0.o
 

Calmador

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Jun 23, 2011
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Actually, I did not know what you meant, I only knew what you said. And I still think that "repulsed" is too strong of a word to use.

What if I started a poll that asked whether people liked dogs or cats better, and I made it a public poll. And I encouraged people to post whether they liked dogs or cats better, and why. And then, after some people had already voted and posted their preferences, I stated that I couldn't help but be somewhat repulsed by those who liked dogs better.

See what I mean? 0.o
Yeah, it wasn't considerate of me...next time.
 
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DragonSlayer

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You can find pornography and homosexuality and adultery and fornication in churches where it is being accepted as the norm and overlooked. You find this pretty much everywhere. It is the parents job to teach their children the truth. So, yes, send them to schools but arm them with the truth, which goes back to my original response. Truthfully, to avoid all this, you'd have to become a hermit and live far away from society. But, we all know that didn't help Lot and his daughters.
I disagree. Indeed, it's because Lot made the unthinkable mistake to live for many years in the city of Sodom and to get married with a sodomite woman, that the nameless abomination happened between Lot and his sodomite daughters.

At the end of time, all true Christians would have to hide in desert places and to live as hermits to not get horribly tortured and slaughtered by the false christians and their leader the Antichrist !
 
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Sonpointer

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I've never been in that kind of relationship, in my marriage or growing up. But I think it's a great option for raising children. So count my vote as yes.