I think the idea itself of the purpose of feminism was fine but it was taken to the extreme and therein lies the issue. It was a good thing for women to not be seen as property, to be able to vote, to be able to work as more than a number in a typing pool or a seamstress in a factory, to have protection under the law from abusive men, to have the freedom to be paid a fair wage...then they dove off the deep end and threw in a whole lot of madness and crazyness...but the same could be said for a great many things in this world, yes?
I just say this: if a woman wants to and is able to be a SAHM or a SAHW, awesome! Kudos to you! If a woman wants to do either of these and can't for whatever financial reason exists, she is still a good wife and mother. This does not change her worth or value. If a women doesn't want these things, she is still a good wife and mother. I think that each situation in this circumstance is so unique that we must be aware of the burden we can place on someone unknowingly by focusing only on one and minimizing the other, be it the working mom or the SAHM...either way.