Unmarried and not happy about it

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BethanyNichole

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Single-christian-mom said:
I am 27 years old, never been married, but it has been my dream since I was a little girl. The closer I get to turning 30, the more depressing it gets that I am still unmarried and single. It's hard to go to family gatherings and being the only single adult in my family or always being the bridesmaid and never the bride. I am a hairstylist so I have even had to endure doing bride hair. I am to the point that I am bitter bc it's hard to be happy for others who are married when that is the thing I want the most. I feel like a child bc I am unmarried. I want to feel like a woman! I have prayed and prayed for many years that God sends me a husband. I stay so bitter and sad. Any advice or can anyone relate?
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I understand and I'm only 22.
 
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FireWire

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rachelsedge said:
1) This thread...rather, particular posts...are discouraging.

2) Where are all these women that want picture perfect men? 99% of the girls that I know (and I know quite a few) have never insisted on a man making a certain amount of money, looking a certain way, benching so much at the gym, or being Super-Jesus. 99%.

Guys must just be meeting the wrong girls. Those generalizations are getting kind of old. Do we all have struggles of how we view the opposite sex? Definitely. I know I do. But constantly declaring it and dwelling on it makes you sound bitter and unwilling to view someone differently, which I can tell you is a turnoff to want to start any form of relationship.
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Well be that as it may I'm going to say and you may or may not be offended that because it is your observation doesn't make it wrong that this is how some men think and have indeed been made to think based on experience and observations. I know from my own experience if you're not good looking enough for starters that's an instant disqualification so the rest really wouldn't matter anyway. Yes I've been told point blank, many times, like a gun to the head that well, you're ugly. If a guy can get through that critique point then it eventually gets down to financials and is he physically in shape.

This is just the initial phases. Then it moves on to trust and being able to live with a person. What a hard road it is to marriage or seems to be for some.
However men and women are still getting together regardless. Guys like me are just the leftovers that nobody wanted.

This is not bitterness. It's from experience and careful observation. I love being single and wouldn't actually trade it for anything. The way I've been treated is just circumstantial.
 
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