I accepted that guys were highly attracted to looks a long time ago. I grew up with a gorgeous twin, guys always after her, me always overlooked, and I have gorgeous friends now.
However, these are things I keep in mind that keeps me from being as bitter/resentful as I used to be:
1) Looks matter. In both guys and girls. That can't (and shouldn't be) denied. How much emphasis is put on them depends on the individual. It's a shame that so much is put on them by some people. It matters, but it shouldn't be the defining factor. If it is, then in 40 years you're going to be sorely disappointed.
2) People have different preferences/what they're attracted to. While it seems that almost every guy likes that tall, thin, tan blonde with dimples when she smiles and beautiful eyes (I have a friend just like that), some guys also like other things in women. It can be frustrating that so much emphasis is put onto looks, especially if you don't fit the small category they seem to focus on (that goes for men and women alike), but that is what brings me to my last point...
3) Beauty is in the eye of the Creator. I have to accept that, even if it's not up to my standards or other standards, my Creator sees me as beautiful no matter what I look like. I, as well as other women and other men, are valuable in God's eyes simply because we are His and He formed us.
Those sound cliche, but honestly...it's been the only way I've been able to work towards accepting myself. No, I will never be a drop-dead gorgeous model who all the guys go after. But I must learn to be content in the way that I look and who I am in Christ or else I will disappointed every day of my life. I'm okay with a guy who wants to date me because he thinks I'm pretty. I
want him to think I'm pretty. However, I also want him to look at my heart and my character, as well, and in the end, while looks matter, those are the more important things.
I also believe that the whole "Guys are wired to be more visual" is a total cop-out, but that's probably more for a different thread.
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