What do women want? Guys only!

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jsr1221

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It is true some women are attracted to "bad boys", I don't know why that it, maybe they like the unpredictability or maybe they see it as a challenge to think they can tame him. Maybe it's just excitement they are chasing? Personally I'm more attracted to someone who is kind, someone with a good heart. It's impossible to generalise. Like men, women are individuals.
Those on top of things like father issues, " bored" with the "good girl" life. Etc. Etc. Etc. There lies a common theme.
 
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It is true some women are attracted to "bad boys", I don't know why that it, maybe they like the unpredictability or maybe they see it as a challenge to think they can tame him. Maybe it's just excitement they are chasing? Personally I'm more attracted to someone who is kind, someone with a good heart. It's impossible to generalise. Like men, women are individuals.
I personally think women choose a bad boy for the same reasons that a man chooses a bad girl! They want to be bad! Its kinda difficult to feel good about sinning when your mate is constantly showing you your heart through scripture :)
A bad girl doesnt want to be good so she chooses a man who will be bad with her and visa versa lol
 

maxwel

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Well..
this thread has been going on for months.

That would seem to indicate we have absolutely no idea what women want.

: )
 

mailmandan

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Just when a man thinks he has women figured out the season's already changing. ;)
 
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ServantStrike

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It has come to my attention that some women (not all) want a man that can kill things. The size of the thing depends on the woman, some want a man who kills spiders, some want a man who kills small rodents, and others want a man who hunts elephants.

Most every woman wants a man to be a vicious killer.

Next time you're on a date and you bring flowers tell her "here, I killed these for you."
 

melita916

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I'm gonna need him to kill spiders. Yup.
 

Agricola

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My ex hated spiders, she freaked out and would act is if they were going to kill her just by being in same room. I used to tell her I had got rid of them, but I just moved them to a dark corner. Just after I started doing this the woodlouse infestation stopped, no idea how they were getting in, but one day pulled back the chest of drawers and found a tennis ball size of dead woodlice all nicely wrapped up.
 
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OK here's my shortlist of what women really want...

- strong
- handsome
- intelligent
- normal
- sensitive
- understanding
- patient
- polite
- financially independent
- romantic
- no smelly feet
 
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missfairy

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I agree, but I think to be a leader one should have some understanding of those one would lead. And often men just don't understand how women think and whats important to them.
Fortunately you don't have to hold the heavy weight of needing to discover what EVERY woman thinks, feels, wants, or so on. You just have to understand one, and when you are given the opportunity to learn from her what she thinks and feels and wants, as she will learn from you what you think feel and want. Try not to over-think this :) God will guide each of your hearts on the best manner in which to learn these things when the time comes.
 
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missfairy

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A man that can lead. This means morally this man can make good moral decisions. This means the practice of good judgement, patience, discernment, love, mercy... etc. This makes him a good leader and trust worthy.

Closely related to this... she also wants a man that can stand up for her and those beliefs. A man that can protect. Think of David facing Goliath. Men, I'd say... were created to protect their community. This is, I believe, part of manhood.

On a more social level, when someone is rude... lies... or acts like a jack ass...I also think men (the ideal kind of men anyways) should verbally protect and stand up as-well.

Next, I also think its part of manhood to be hard workers and provide for family.

I also think women have emotional needs to be fullfilled. They want to feel good. That's why they like funny guys.... then again who doesn't? Still, I think they need to feel good somehow... maybe this can be fullfilled via humor, romance, or maybe just her just feeling "safe"with you.

I also think women are attracted to a man who shows consistency. It makes them feel like you'd be reliable and that you'd be "safe."

That's what I think so far... watcha peoples think?
YES Spot on with this in my opinion. But also the very most important thing (my own opinion again) Is his love and desire to seek after Jesus! But then all of these things you mention come after that! :D
 
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Fortunately you don't have to hold the heavy weight of needing to discover what EVERY woman thinks, feels, wants, or so on. You just have to understand one, and when you are given the opportunity to learn from her what she thinks and feels and wants, as she will learn from you what you think feel and want. Try not to over-think this :) God will guide each of your hearts on the best manner in which to learn these things when the time comes.
In my experience, women want Slushees.
 
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Mitspa

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Fortunately you don't have to hold the heavy weight of needing to discover what EVERY woman thinks, feels, wants, or so on. You just have to understand one, and when you are given the opportunity to learn from her what she thinks and feels and wants, as she will learn from you what you think feel and want. Try not to over-think this :) God will guide each of your hearts on the best manner in which to learn these things when the time comes.
No one is trying to overthink anything (not often accused of that?) ...it was supposed to be a thread for some light conversation among the guys...but that was not allowed . As far as what I should discover? I have not yet discovered that :)
 

melita916

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Well, as long as the spiders are taken elsewhere so I don't see them, I'm ok lol
 
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My son tries to rescue spiders and bugs and snakes. I'm like, "KILL that horrid hairy 8-legged monstrosity!!" And he's like, "C'mon giant hairy spider, I'll help you out."



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This is why kids are awesome. No preconceptions.

A friend was telling me yesterday that her kid sat down to dinner and asked what the pork was on the plate, and when his mother told him he started to cry. So he's now stopped eating any meat and has resolved to "go and help the piggies" at the petting zoo.
 
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missfairy

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This is why kids are awesome. No preconceptions.

A friend was telling me yesterday that her kid sat down to dinner and asked what the pork was on the plate, and when his mother told him he started to cry. So he's now stopped eating any meat and has resolved to "go and help the piggies" at the petting zoo.
I did a similar thing for a while when I was young. I was shocked to discover that we eat animals. But eventually I learned that God provided these animals on the earth for us to eat from. This helps some, but I still feel badly sometimes.
 
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I did a similar thing for a while when I was young. I was shocked to discover that we eat animals. But eventually I learned that God provided these animals on the earth for us to eat from. This helps some, but I still feel badly sometimes.
If I consciously think about where the meat comes from, I'll feel bad. Then I'll suppress the ill-feelings and feel worse for cheating myself. It says a lot about us that we have to put up mental blockades just to get through a steak. Says more that it still doesn't stop us.

Be nice if we all thought about it as simply as kids do, again.
 

Agricola

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OK here's my shortlist of what women really want...

- strong
- handsome
- intelligent
- normal
- sensitive
- understanding
- patient
- polite
- financially independent
- romantic
- no smelly feet
You have it all wrong, you can save the lists by just putting down JESUS.