What do you think your biggest flaw is?

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Going_Nowhere

Going_Nowhere

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I think my biggest flaw (or one of my biggest flaws) is that I'm too sensitive and self-conscious. You know how some people say you should be careful of what you say to someone cause words can really hurt them? Well, that's definitely true in my case. I often get my feelings hurt very easily. And take things too personally. It's a big flaw of mine.


You see, I don't take insults or ridicule very well. Which kind of sucks cause I seem to be an easy target for such things, but anyway....


It also makes it more difficult to forgive someone who has hurt me. Or maybe that's just me wanting to be stubborn and hold a grudge. Because it's easier to stay mad at someone rather than forgive them. Or at least that's true in my case.


Keep in mind....I don't like to admit this. I'm kind of ashamed by it, to be honest. There's this stereotype that men are suppose to be strong and roll with the punches. And as I understand it, it's not considered masculine for a man to be sensitive like I am.


I wish I had thicker skin. I wish there was nothing people could say or do to me that would bother or upset me. Or bother and upset me on such a deep level. I would be much better off if I wasn't as sensitive as I am.


So....that's my answer. What's yours? :)
 
love_comes_softly

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Going_Nowhere said:
I think my biggest flaw (or one of my biggest flaws) is that I'm too sensitive and self-conscious. You know how some people say you should be careful of what you say to someone cause words can really hurt them? Well, that's definitely true in my case. I often get my feelings hurt very easily. And take things too personally. It's a big flaw of mine.


You see, I don't take insults or ridicule very well. Which kind of sucks cause I seem to be an easy target for such things, but anyway....


It also makes it more difficult to forgive someone who has hurt me. Or maybe that's just me wanting to be stubborn and hold a grudge. Because it's easier to stay mad at someone rather than forgive them. Or at least that's true in my case.


Keep in mind....I don't like to admit this. I'm kind of ashamed by it, to be honest. There's this stereotype that men are suppose to be strong and roll with the punches. And as I understand it, it's not considered masculine for a man to be sensitive like I am.


I wish I had thicker skin. I wish there was nothing people could say or do to me that would bother or upset me. Or bother and upset me on such a deep level. I would be much better off if I wasn't as sensitive as I am.


So....that's my answer. What's yours? :)
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There is nothing wrong with being sensitive, not even for guys. In some ways it could even be a good quality. Perhaps it allows you to feel more for others. I pray that the Lord help you in regards to how you receive things from others. From experience, letting go of what people have said/done is more freeing for the forgiver.

This is a great topic by the way. I think it’s a great idea to self reflect.

I think my biggest flaw as of late is that I’m an over-thinker or second-guesser.

Thanks for sharing!
 
Mel85

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Well since I’m not perfect and have many flaws, one in particular is that I can be OCD about certain things for example the layout of something on a screen to colour coordination of what something should look like. This kind of flaw can sometimes be good but not at all the time, especially if I clash with someone else 😅
 
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I'm too blunt and sometimes speak before I think!
 
Belka

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@Going_Nowhere If your skin is too thin, perhaps you could try to put on Jesus's skin, and let yourself be so renewed in your mind about what HE thinks of you and how much HE loves you, that what others think or say about you becomes irrelevant... : )

I really encourage you and everyone else to watch this sermon (and any other by Dan Mohler, he's amazing):


Don't remain complacent. Seek more of Him in order to be truly transformed. You don't have to live in that place of hurt and pain and unforgiveness. God can - and wants to - set you free from all that. : )

As for my biggest flaw, I think it'd be indecisiveness.

God bless you all!
 
Lanolin

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Armour of God will protect those with thin skin...put up your shield of faith...

my big flaw...have to think about that one...I have way too many according to my mum so she could easily give you a loong list if you ask her. 'you always' 'you never' blah blah blah...


Thing is Ive stopped listening to criticism and just listen to what God tells me. sometimes Satan is sent to buffet us, to be a thorn in our side. Paul had this to stop him from being too proud. I think everyone can get prideful now and again, including me, its seems to be a quality that the world values, but God hates it.

so sometimes its good to be humiliated every now and again I suppose lol
 
ArtsieSteph

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Oh man that is a good and also tough question 🤣 I think mine is being insecure and for some reason I have issues with taking care of myself. Kinda maintenance in general.

Insecurity wise it’s trusting folks and fear of being abandoned, which obviously relates to a bunch of things.

Sadly I have a nice issue with self care. I have self loathing issues (I guess that’s what you’d call it) and so I often times just don’t take care of myself. It’s not on purpose or conscious I just...don’t. I don’t know.
 
G00WZ

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Biggest flaw was i wasn't allowed to have emotions growing up. As a consequence i put logic before emotion, and i find it somewhat difficult to relate to people who are overly emotional because i have always experienced it as a private matter.. I woke up this morning to find that my 18 year old dog had strangled himself to death in his blanket.. . Instead of grieving first, i immediately dug his grave and buried him before it started to rain again. Rather than tell my neighbors what happened i chose to just mingle my tears with the rain so they couldn't see that i was crying. When i grieve, cry, or take losses i do it alone because when other people get involved they tend to make it worse.I don't like being coddled, held,touched or consoled especially When im down. The best thing a person can do is to leave me alone so that i can come out of my ego and see the bigger picture.

This kind of mindset can be hard to understand especially for people who are empaths, because i will legit push them away when i am in my feelings. They are already in theirs and they are trying to relate with mine while i am trying to come up out of them and move on.
I wouldn't consider that much of a flaw though. Maybe other people might find it as a flaw, and or try to get me to change, but it's just how it is.
 
Mel85

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G00WZ said:
Biggest flaw was i wasn't allowed to have emotions growing up. As a consequence i put logic before emotion, and i find it somewhat difficult to relate to people who are overly emotional because i have always experienced it as a private matter.. I woke up this morning to find that my 18 year old dog had strangled himself to death in his blanket.. . Instead of grieving first, i immediately dug his grave and buried him before it started to rain again. Rather than tell my neighbors what happened i chose to just mingle my tears with the rain so they couldn't see that i was crying. When i grieve, cry, or take losses i do it alone because when other people get involved they tend to make it worse.I don't like being coddled, held,touched or consoled especially When im down. The best thing a person can do is to leave me alone so that i can come out of my ego and see the bigger picture.

This kind of mindset can be hard to understand especially for people who are empaths, because i will legit push them away when i am in my feelings. They are already in theirs and they are trying to relate with mine while i am trying to come up out of them and move on.
I wouldn't consider that much of a flaw though. Maybe other people might find it as a flaw, and or try to get me to change, but it's just how it is.
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Im so sorry to hear about your dog 😢💜
 
Vagabond

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When I find one I'll be sure to let you guys know... Jk
 
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Helpfulness. I’ll see a problem and offer my assistance or input without considering (read: failing to ask Him) the consequences of my involvement. Sometimes He pulls me back, requests my silence, or allows me to go forward. When I’m feeling overwhelmed He’ll remind me I took it on without His prompting. We’ve had many iterations from serving to friendships. I’ve finally gotten the message.

The deeper lesson wasn’t simply seeking His input. But the realities of gifting and covering. Sometimes I was subject to spiritual attacks while embroiled in battle for another. I didn’t need a second helping on my plate. Or the emotional demands were wearying because I’m not equipped to handle them with constancy the way another could. I don’t have the burden or tools to help me out.

Because He’s provided for all our needs through the dispense of His gifts and presence in the body. He wanted me to learn to focus on the task at hand. So I wouldn’t get distracted or run out of steam from taking too much on. These are popular tactics the enemy uses to diminish our effectiveness.

Over time I’ve seen the wisdom of this approach. It strengthens my steps and keeps my mind set. It can be bothersome for some for the things I won’t take on. But I’ve learned to seek His input before I agree. And when I fail to do so, I always regret it.
 
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Kojikun

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I have so many flaws it would take to long to list. 😬
 
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