Beauty really is in the eye of the beholder.
I think most people fall in love because of the way someone makes them feel about themselves. I heard a Christian psychologist once say that most couples are together due to availability. I believe that’s true, too. When someone makes themselves available to you, invests the time to show they care about you, and expresses their affection for you in words and actions, your heart is swayed in their direction. No matter what their appearance, an admirer can influence your heart by showing you love and attention.
By the same token, a person who is more interested in receiving love than in giving it is probably more focused on the physical attributes of a partner. Some may even discount a potential mate because they care more about how they’ll be judged by others. I think many men and women feel their self-worth would increase if they paraded around with a model type partner. They may assume the world will think them more desirable if their partner looks attractive.
Here’s something to consider, Jesus was not physically desirable. In fact, most of his followers weren’t much to write home about either. “Not many noble, not many wise…” And I’ll bet not many model types, either.
Physical attraction is not wrong. I think it’s human nature and God made us that way. But I don’t think people have to be near physical perfection to be beautiful. And I don’t think we should worry about how others will judge us for whom we choose to fall in love. I just think the more we focus on the outward, the further away we get from what really matters: lifelong compatibility. I think equally yoked means two people who are able to give and take in harmony and are suitably equipped to help each other endure this life with faith, hope and love.