I am the one who decided that her son would have as normal and stable a life as possible and that that didn't include his mom dating. It was the right decision for me. I've spent time with friends, family, church. I have taken acting classes, traveled and developed as an artist. I have found my strength is living a life where I choose my actions rather than being reactive. It is peaceful and strong. It can be emotionally lonely as most of my single female friends now have men/husbands. I am not closed to meeting someone special but I am not hunting someone to fill a certain role in my life. My son has finished school so that opens up more options for my personal life.
One of the pluses of being single is that it allows me to push myself rather than make excuses for not trying. It is on me now and I am OK with what is to come.