What Sources Do You Rely on to Learn About the Opposite Gender?
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The only source I trust is personal experience. Everything else is just hearsay....lol. Not that I will ever understand women, you can't understand something that doesn't make sense. I settle for trying to understand how the opposite sex feels.....that's as close to making sense out of a female as I'm ever likely to get. One thing I've learned is that women tend to make almost all decisions based on emotion, not logic.....the only logic involved is backwards rationalizing the way they feel. Men on the other hand, think logically most of the time, but definitely not when it comes to women. We can't base relationship decisions off of logic any more than a woman can.
When it comes to romance, logic goes bye bye.
That's my current stance anyway, that's not to say I haven't had more enlightened men share their secrets with me from time to time. lol
When it comes to romance, logic goes bye bye.
That's my current stance anyway, that's not to say I haven't had more enlightened men share their secrets with me from time to time. lol
A
My role model, my dad, wasn't. He was a good man and took care of the family, worked hard, didn't drink, didn't smoke, was faithful to one woman for 54 years before he died of cancer 2012, but in being realistic and very honest, he didn't teach me about a man. Think John Walton the father on The Waltons here. I didn't have that. My dad was always working, gone, busy.
My mom had issues of her own and wasn't able to objectively show me or teach me about men.
This lady learned from life's experiences and once I got into a bible believing, preaching and teaching church and saw how godly men treated their wives, that's when I learned about good men. Christ-like men. I also attended single's conferences and would listen to the various speakers share nuggets about relationships - good and bad.
Yes, I learned by books while in various required college courses (human relations, psychology, etc) but for me, show me and I get it. Don't just tell me because you might tell me and then do something different. Let your life be an example for me, to teach me.
And would like to add as one has already showed when they studied or read the bible and saw how God viewed a woman, they learned. Same here. I read in the scriptures how a man is to treat a woman, to care for her, to love her. I had that once in life. It is special, folks.
Good question.
My mom had issues of her own and wasn't able to objectively show me or teach me about men.
This lady learned from life's experiences and once I got into a bible believing, preaching and teaching church and saw how godly men treated their wives, that's when I learned about good men. Christ-like men. I also attended single's conferences and would listen to the various speakers share nuggets about relationships - good and bad.
Yes, I learned by books while in various required college courses (human relations, psychology, etc) but for me, show me and I get it. Don't just tell me because you might tell me and then do something different. Let your life be an example for me, to teach me.
And would like to add as one has already showed when they studied or read the bible and saw how God viewed a woman, they learned. Same here. I read in the scriptures how a man is to treat a woman, to care for her, to love her. I had that once in life. It is special, folks.
Good question.
T
Just a reflective thought. The way people think now confuses the whole gender issue.. and has been growing really since the 60's.
Men getting in touch with their feminine side, ladies having to be equal in both status and function as men.. gender distinction needs to be recognised first. We now have children growing up not actually knowing what it is to be male or female (apart from biological distinctions).
If referring to one couple both partners need to study each other and that takes a long time.... is the guy actually man 'ing' up are you still a boy not wanting to take on your responsibilities, do you offload all your burdens your wife.. remember your the guy you carry the burden for both of you..(Jesus is more than enough to help you). is the wife trying to be the dominant one.. and the list goes on (personally I think it should take us back to scripture)
And upon further reflection I have come to the conclusion I don't understand you ladies
Men getting in touch with their feminine side, ladies having to be equal in both status and function as men.. gender distinction needs to be recognised first. We now have children growing up not actually knowing what it is to be male or female (apart from biological distinctions).
If referring to one couple both partners need to study each other and that takes a long time.... is the guy actually man 'ing' up are you still a boy not wanting to take on your responsibilities, do you offload all your burdens your wife.. remember your the guy you carry the burden for both of you..(Jesus is more than enough to help you). is the wife trying to be the dominant one.. and the list goes on (personally I think it should take us back to scripture)
And upon further reflection I have come to the conclusion I don't understand you ladies
J
To be honest, I learn more about the opposite gender more by observation than by what they say. In that vein, I would have to say that watching how my stepdad/stepbrothers went about their lives taught me a great deal growing up. They were very protective and strict with me, and gave me a LOT of advice re: what to watch out for man-wise as well.
Most of my co-workers have always been men, so most of my friends have been as well. I've learned a lot about men from them too, good and bad.
As far as dating goes, I learn a lot from the guys here (and the ladies ), as things are a little different now than they were during my first dating period.
Most of my co-workers have always been men, so most of my friends have been as well. I've learned a lot about men from them too, good and bad.
As far as dating goes, I learn a lot from the guys here (and the ladies
), as things are a little different now than they were during my first dating period. It could me and my tendency to over-analyse things but I felt like that book was way too stereotypical. It put women into these pre-conceived boxes. Granted much of what it said was/is indeed true for many women, but I found it made some quite sweeping generalisations that I was less than impressed with. This is simply my own personal take on it though!
J
One of the cutest bits of relationship advice I've received lately came from my son. I was kidding around on my recent birthday about how my chances of remarrying just plummeted now that I'm officially over the hill. He said, "Mom, you are still a whole other level of pretty and a great cook. I wouldn't worry about it." He was so serious when he said it, trying to help me feel better. It was adorable.
I was kidding around on my recent birthday about how my chances of remarrying just plummeted now that I'm officially over the hill. He said, "Mom, you are still a whole other level of pretty and a great cook. I wouldn't worry about it." He was so serious when he said it, trying to help me feel better. It was adorable.
J
I'm sure some of the dads here can tell you that they have learned a lot about females from raising daughters and we moms have learned a lot about males from raising sons. My son has had his heart broken a time or two and he confides in me a lot. Most guys don't talk about their feelings much, but I have learned from being married and from my son that men do, indeed, feel just as deeply as ladies do. If you don't believe me, read a little Psalms, Proverbs, Song of Solomon, Lord Byron, Shakespeare, etc.
S
One of the cutest bits of relationship advice I've received lately came from my son. I was kidding around on my recent birthday about how my chances of remarrying just plummeted now that I'm officially over the hill. He said, "Mom, you are still a whole other level of pretty and a great cook. I wouldn't worry about it." He was so serious when he said it, trying to help me feel better. It was adorable.
I was kidding around on my recent birthday about how my chances of remarrying just plummeted now that I'm officially over the hill. He said, "Mom, you are still a whole other level of pretty and a great cook. I wouldn't worry about it." He was so serious when he said it, trying to help me feel better. It was adorable.
I'm just sayin', yo.
*runs off to buy a kilt*
I am married and have learned men are pretty simple, not stupid simple, but, just say what you mean, don't beat around the bush simple. I mean at least that how it is here. Every person is different and I'm sure there are men that are more sensitive and some that aren't.
I have a hard time getting my husband to tell me something if I think something is wrong. Then I hear, nothing is wrong that's why I'm not saying anything. I over analyze sometimes though. But that's just my relationship and I still sometimes am baffled by the opposite sex.
I have a hard time getting my husband to tell me something if I think something is wrong. Then I hear, nothing is wrong that's why I'm not saying anything. I over analyze sometimes though. But that's just my relationship and I still sometimes am baffled by the opposite sex.
