What would you like in a mate?

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Ashton

Ashton

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resurrection33 said:
Perhaps this topic has already been covered, but I thought it was an interesting question. I’m not looking for a mate, but I suppose if I WERE looking for one, I would want her to be faithful and not much lazier than I am. It might help if she shared some of my interests. I would want someone who was at least a little tolerant of my faults, not someone who is too overbearing.
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I actually found this site through a combination of googling "Christian," "dating," "live," "webcam," "speed dates," etc. I thought it would be a cool way to get to know more women and see what was out there. I also thought it was a better idea than my previous searches for "wealthy, old hags seeking mediocre men." :D I've been single for a while now and don't think anyone's going to match my preferences any time soon. So I've just been having fun with it.

Fortunately I found this really cool site called www.christianchat.com which allows me to use my webcam and see other people, too. Unfortunately, I realized I don't want anyone seeing the inside of my house. :( But if someone were to ask me what I wanted in a woman:

1. Cute in personality & looks (doesn't have to be hot)
2. Down-to-earth expectations with idealistic aims
3. Logical
4. Torah-observant Believer in Jesus Christ
5. Fun
6. Funny
7. Mature
8. Never married or had relations with other men
9. Non-smoker & non-drinker

And that's pretty much it. The Torah-observant Believer pretty much limits it to 1 in 10,000 already. hahahaha But my mind's made up to not be with anyone who believes differently on this issue. If my relationship got serious enough with them to marry them, then I'd want our children raised in a way that would honor God. God knows my heart. My philosophy is that if I'm honoring him in my heart then I'm good to go. A lot of people say they are handing their relationship over to God, but what does that mean if you're not doing anything differently? To step out and trust him that he will send me to this woman who is 1 in 10,000+ or at least bring me happiness in the single life is an act of faith. I hope I will never depart from that choice, because all things are possible for him. When the odds are 1 to 10,000 or 1 to 10,000,000 it doesn't make any difference when you're talking about God.
 
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OreoSoleil

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That's an interesting question. hmmmm

I need him to study the Bible -- i love discussions -- I love music -- something I want to share together. He has to be in love with Jesus -- knowing the importance of honesty and accountability. Seeking God in everything he does and learning how to not be selfish -- I don't need perfection, but I see the desire to have God change him and his heart each day -- that is a must. Being active and not lazy -- that is a must. Eager to be part of my life and desring for me to part of his.

I know there is more -- but that is what I see now : )
 
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NodMyHeadLikeYeah

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I need a guy who doesnt talk alot. No, over analyzing things either. I want a guy, if i tell him something he doesnt ask me a THOUSAND and one questions about what im saying. Obviously someone that listens though. A big one, If i say i dont wanna talk about something.. Just leave it alone. No pressuring. Must respect the fact i like t.v. and i dont like to bothered or talked to while im watching it. Someone who isnt offended easily. Or if i ask whats wrong, doesnt say NOTHING, even though you knoooooooow there is something wrong!! Why do people do that! anyways.... funny, good looking, easy going, Cant stand men that are uptight. Must be firm in what he believes, none of this wishy washy stuff.

Rules of engagement for talking about if one or the other person has been offended

No crying.
Get to the point.
Dont be long winded
Stick to the facts, none of this bringing up what happened yesterday or last year.
 
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Frizzy

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I would love to find someone who would respect me, cherish me, help me to grow in my walk with Christ, be understanding,faithful and strong (not meaning physically but hey... i wouldnt mind that either!) and of course will love me to bits :)
I am pretty sure though that any differences can be worked out though when God is in it... If I narrow my mind in who God has planned for me, then I may miss him! I mean I am sure Hosea wasn't out looking for a local protitutes to marry! lol
 
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Kay_Kay

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He must be a Christian, intelligent and have a great sense of humor. Those are things I must have in a mate. Some things I would like? He has to be moderately good looking. I don't need an Adonis but I know I will have to be attracted to him physically. I'd prefer everything else a girl looks for in a guy- steady job, financial stability, hard-working, masculine, good sense of self...

I can't stand a man with a temper, sulks like a baby, or one that expects me to be his replacement mother.
 
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Matthew

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I just need the basics that make the foundation of a relationship that will function through all trials, thinigs like honesty/trust/forgiving heart/strength of character/emotionally open.

If we have those between us then all the rest is nothing that can't be dealt with, I would never have a list because so often the right thing isn't the obvious thing so to me it's just asking for trouble to let someone pass by just because they have a vice...I can deal with a few bad habits...might never find that personality again.
 
phil36

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someone who loves Christ first would be the most important attribute. I believe that is the most important. I think we sometimes fall into the trap of looking for perfection, there's no real such thing.

Someone who is interested in studying the bible together, of course you need your separate times aswell. I play the guitar, played in club bands all through my teens and twenties, just play for the church youth band now and again... I was well pleased to asked to play int the youth band until I realized there were no youth in our church who could really play lol. I don't really play much now, but I love listening to music. I've found a couple of good Gospel radio stations online.

I used to like Hill walking, would like to take that up. I think I am just waffling on here, but you get the idea.

The very most important attribute for me would be, that, they Love Christ first, even over me :( lol :)
 
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PinkButterfly40

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I am currently looking for a mate and some of the things I would like for him to have are... kindness, sense of humor, honesty, Loves the Lord, would like him to be smart,hard working, family oriented, like pets, and it would be nice if he would share some of my interests as well.

Some people have told me I'm to picky but I would my mate to be a non smoker and non drinker.

Somewhere out there I know there is that one man that God has set aside for me and when the time is right he will enter my life.
 
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Blueberry

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I just want to meet someone who accepts me for me, flaws and all.
 
loveschild

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I like blueberries answer. That goes for me too. I like someone who dresses nice. I like long hair sometimes. If they keep it nice.
 
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Jennifleur

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Wug said:
One who can talk to me. One that's cool to hang out with. One that likes to eat, since I like to cook. One that's geeky about something I don't hate. One that doesn't want cats. One with ranged skills (since I'm mostly close ranged, it would be usefull in battle). One who's not a significantly higher lvl than me. 0n3 7h47 <0u1d r34d 7h!5 53n73n<3 \/\/0u1d 83 n!<3. I'm alliance, and if she were horde, well, it probably wouldn't work out...

No, f'real though. Easy to talk to, and of the same spiritual maturity as myself. That's who I'd like.
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So, "one that can read this sentence would be nice"? Good luck, Wug. ;)
 
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shanaynay-deleted

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An admirable mate:

Faithful to the Lord
Genuinely attentive
Honest
Patient
Humble
Gentle
Healthy since of humor
Mentally stable
Financially responsible and predictable
Good communicator
Physically and emotionally compatible
 
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AllysonRose

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i want a man who loves God more then anything and is "so lost in God, i have to seek God to find him". I want someone who is mature and above evrything else, wants to be a youth pastor or do some kind of ministry with young people.
 
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Kuroko

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Some one who I consider to be a part of me from the beginning till the end, who's feelings I consider and who considers my feelings the same.

When we can both consider the other person as each others world and the person I can always feel free to tell the truth because she will want to know
how or why not just what. When I feel like I can fly I want her to be there soaring through the clouds with me and when we are navigating the rough seas of life we're fine knowing where ever we end up will be fine so long as we're together.

And a fishing boat...

(hehe I don't fish but I thought that would make some people laugh, above that is all true though :p)
 
eugenius

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Someone different from what I see.....
 
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Maddog

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Heh...seeing women post what they want in a man is sure fire way to make my self-esteem plummet.
 
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Kuroko

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I've said it already I think, but it's a good sign of the day and age where what we seem to be important are the things in the flesh.

I remember the weddings I went to when I was younger none of the wedding vows had any thing other than to love and cherish the other person, after all if you love them surely you would do every thing you can for them :)

P.S
I don't know about over in the states or NZ but weddings are getting fewer and further between over here, every one just settles for relationships these days
 
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shanaynay-deleted

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I have to add great foot rubs too. Not cheapo ones either... you know where they bruise the top of your foot after squeezing it so hard a couple times till you say ...owwe o k enough.

Kuroko said:
I've said it already I think, but it's a good sign of the day and age where what we seem to be important are the things in the flesh.

I remember the weddings I went to when I was younger none of the wedding vows had any thing other than to love and cherish the other person, after all if you love them surely you would do every thing you can for them :)

P.S
I don't know about over in the states or NZ but weddings are getting fewer and further between over here, every one just settles for relationships these days
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Kuroko

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Foot rubs!
Do girls ever feel more pampered then when they are getting their feet rubbed, I'm curious :p

It works the same for guys but any working guy knows it's all about a back massage, the trouble is those have to be done harder ^_^
 
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