I'm looking for the right guy, so personally I am prepared to move/connect online first etc. I was wondering if anyone here could share their experiences with dating and how you met the person? I guess this is moreso directed toward the ladies but men are welcome to let me know their experience also. Thanks!
Dating for me has sucked. Meeting members of the opposite sex for the purposes of dating and eventual (possible) marriage has been almost thoroughly denied me... with one, comparatively brief exception in my life.
On March 1, 1998, a Sunday night. I met Dolly through a mutual acquaintance on AOL's IM feature. We chatted for 45 minutes. I asked if she'd like to talk on the phone, she gave me her number. We talked another 45 minutes. I was in NYC at the time, she in L.A. She had two kids. After hearing her voice, the sexiest I've ever heard, and learning that she was a big Godzilla fan, I reasoned that this deserved further pursuit, regardless of anything else. I'll get to know her kids.
We met 3 months later. Within 6 months I was thinking her a keeper. In 2001 I moved to L.A. In 2004, we married.
No regrets, except that we waited too long to get married, and she neglected her diabetic condition and died in 2009.
I am happy to say though that she seemed to get her life right with God during our relationship and, at her request, she was immersed in 2005. I performed it with our pastor's oversight. What an honor.
You didn't ask for all that, but for me the online thing worked -- once. I had one sinful involvement almost 6 years ago with someone I met online (not at all bragging or callous to it, just outlining my history). Made a few platonic friendships, and after 12 years or so online as a single man, that's all I've accomplished.
I would say that God's blocking me from meeting someone and I have a theory as to why. But, too often I hear the same stories from people trying to meet someone virtually, first. I do not believe that the majority of people online are seeking after reality. They're online because it's easier to blow someone off, easier to just delete a connection that ceases to please them, and because being "close" online is more manageable and less scary than reality is. Pathetic, but that's where we seem to be.
I'm not saying you cannot or will not meet anyone via a dating or a chat site. I know people for whom this has worked. I just know a lot for whom it hasn't, and in my experience, it's because most -- not all, but most -- people online are there because they're not really prepared for reality.
You may be better off joining meetup groups (meetup.com) or finding a church with a large singles population, in my opinion.