When Does "Earnest Pursuit" Become Stalking?

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What Qualifies as "Stalking"?

  • Calling once a week.

    Votes: 0 0.0%

  • Calling once a day.

    Votes: 2 15.4%

  • Calling once an hour (does 33 minutes count as a full hour?)

    Votes: 12 92.3%

  • Looking someone up on Google.

    Votes: 3 23.1%

  • Looking someone up online... and building a "fact sheet" about them (i.e., "list of childhood pets..

    Votes: 6 46.2%

  • Asking them to tell you about themselves, A to Z (or infinity).

    Votes: 4 30.8%

  • Looking then up on Facebook or other social site.

    Votes: 0 0.0%

  • Leaving messages on their site once a week.

    Votes: 2 15.4%

  • Leaving messages on their site daily.

    Votes: 7 53.8%

  • But what if I want to make comments on their wall every 15 minutes or so?

    Votes: 9 69.2%

  • Texting once a day.

    Votes: 2 15.4%

  • Texting every time I have a chance, even when I'm in the bathroom.

    Votes: 9 69.2%

  • Writing threads about or to the person on Christian Chat...

    Votes: 6 46.2%

  • Introducing myself to the person of interest's friends.

    Votes: 4 30.8%

  • Trying to become friends with the person of interest's friends.

    Votes: 4 30.8%

  • Showing up at the person's place of work or social activities.

    Votes: 10 76.9%

  • Volunteering for the same projects as that person.

    Votes: 4 30.8%

  • Introducing myself to the person of interest's family.

    Votes: 6 46.2%

  • Trying to hang out with the person of interest's family.

    Votes: 5 38.5%

  • Taking a class because the person of interest is in it.

    Votes: 6 46.2%

  • I would talk to the person about what would be acceptable to both of us.

    Votes: 2 15.4%

  • If it's the right person, I wouldn't mind all the attention.

    Votes: 3 23.1%

  • If it's the wrong person, I would ignore them until they stopped.

    Votes: 4 30.8%

  • I would pray and ask God what to do. O

    Votes: 4 30.8%

  • Other--I want to share a story or opinion in my post.

    Votes: 1 7.7%
  • Total voters
    13
seoulsearch

seoulsearch

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Jullianna said:
seoulsearch's perfect stalker!!! :D
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HA HA HA, Jullianna!!!

Actually... I probably wouldn't mind being stalked by Animal. He's a lot more civil and has better manners than any of the guys I've ran into lately, that's for sure.

And... at least Brad Pitt isn't 65 years old... though I would prefer for Christian Bale to stalk me, but hey... :) Oh... and all that fur, has definitely got to go.

I demand that all my stalkers be clean-shaven! :p
 
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truffleshuffle

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#42
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NodMyHeadLikeYeah said:
I stalk truffleshuffle. She says its the best thing thats ever happened to her....... EVER.... ;)
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This is a lie. I stalk Nod, and to make herself feel less creeped out, she pretends that she is the one stalking me. I mean. just tonight when she saw me crouching in her shrubbery watching her stuff cookies into her face through the window, she peeked out and said, "Don't be creeped out! Its just me! I like to watch you crouch."
 
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NodMyHeadLikeYeah

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truffleshuffle said:
This is a lie. I stalk Nod, and to make herself feel less creeped out, she pretends that she is the one stalking me. I mean. just tonight when she saw me crouching in her shrubbery watching her stuff cookies into her face through the window, she peeked out and said, "Don't be creeped out! Its just me! I like to watch you crouch."
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I wont lie!! That is indeed what actually happened! Like right now.. im watching her suspended from my ceiling taking pictures of me as i type this.... .. Have i ever told you how much i like to see you hanging in mid air by a rope made up of love and my hair??
 
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NukePooch

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#44
#44
NodMyHeadLikeYeah said:
I wont lie!! That is indeed what actually happened! Like right now.. im watching her suspended from my ceiling taking pictures of me as i type this.... .. Have i ever told you how much i like to see you hanging in mid air by a rope made up of love and my hair??
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That's your back hair, right?
 
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NukePooch

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Jullianna said:
seoulsearch's perfect stalker!!! :D
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seoulsearch said:
HA HA HA, Jullianna!!!

Actually... I probably wouldn't mind being stalked by Animal. He's a lot more civil and has better manners than any of the guys I've ran into lately, that's for sure.

And... at least Brad Pitt isn't 65 years old... though I would prefer for Christian Bale to stalk me, but hey... :) Oh... and all that fur, has definitely got to go.

I demand that all my stalkers be clean-shaven! :p
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I guess I'm out of the running.
 

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seoulsearch

seoulsearch

OutWrite Trouble
#46
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ARGH!!!

I think I'm being stalked by... facial hair... (though on Animal, it's quite lovable... maybe I'm just more draw to Animal's facial hair because it's red... or maybe I'm just partial/sweet on Muppets... Yeah. Probably the last one.)

Sorry guys!! I think I'd rather be seen in public with Animal hanging on my leg than Brad or Nuke. :D Nuttin' but love for y'all!!! :p
 
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NukePooch

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seoulsearch said:
ARGH!!!

I think I'm being stalked by... facial hair... (though on Animal, it's quite lovable... maybe I'm just more draw to Animal's facial hair because it's red... or maybe I'm just partial/sweet on Muppets... Yeah. Probably the last one.)

Sorry guys!! I think I'd rather be seen in public with Animal hanging on my leg than Brad or Nuke. :D Nuttin' but love for y'all!!! :p
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Hmmm...well, my beard is almost as red as Animal's...We're not that different, though he's a lot better at eating the drums.
 
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thimsrebma

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#50
#50
NodMyHeadLikeYeah said:
I wont lie!! That is indeed what actually happened! Like right now.. im watching her suspended from my ceiling taking pictures of me as i type this.... .. Have i ever told you how much i like to see you hanging in mid air by a rope made up of love and my hair??
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truffleshuffle said:
This is a lie. I stalk Nod, and to make herself feel less creeped out, she pretends that she is the one stalking me. I mean. just tonight when she saw me crouching in her shrubbery watching her stuff cookies into her face through the window, she peeked out and said, "Don't be creeped out! Its just me! I like to watch you crouch."
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That entire conversation right there is extremely creepy. And is making me very uncomfortable.

Like, totally seriously you guys. I am scared to go to sleep.
 
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GreenNnice

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#51
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I want to be serious on this subject. Ernest pursuit and stalking from a guy's perspective is MUCH different from a gal's take. Guys often relentlessly pursue a girl because she' s shown hints she likes me. There is no She likes Me Not about it, lol. Seriously, ladies, you should seriously pray to God for understanding of a guy you like and then he does something 'guy' that weirds you out. Because....that guy may seem strange pursuing you earnestly, a stalked, but there is no science or formula for seriously showing a gal he likes her than pursuing her. And I don't want to get spiritually offf base here, keep God in the lead of ALL your judgments and you will be protected but allow that's said here is don't write prtr God's one for you because your afraid he's showing more stalking signs than othr signs cuz guys can get nervous mess, mess up, etc. and the early freaking by you may be throwing away God's one for you. Don't discredit your girlfriend's input but realize they could be jealous of this weirdvhotly pursuing guy or just not see his pursuance way like you. Be your own, girl, ladies, is all I'm saying. Do not jump the gun or, worse yet, let it go off in your mind, unto you know your target is really after you ....in the wrong way. His way of pursuing you could be exactly how God wants a guy to best pursue you or you him like Renew Zelllweger pursued that guy in her underpants in Bridget JONES DIARY MOVIE. :)
 
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NodMyHeadLikeYeah

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I dunno but i'd sure like to find out
 
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Ugly

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#53
There is no specific answer. Its mostly fairly subjective. Its going to be more in how you interpret their behavior based off of your own ideals & boundaries. With the obvious exceptions being the more extreme types of behaviors, controlling, abusive, threatening etc. Also how they respond if they do cross certain personal lines & you communicate this to them.
Another good consideration is to have some level headed friends, or friend, that you can express certain behaviors to & see what their take on the individual is. Sometimes an outsider has a better perspective by not having an emotional tie to skew their viewpoint.
 
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