When is it the right time to get a partner?

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lncy

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Seriously, men are over rated.. are you sure you want one?

Jks :p

Chill out! Your 18! It takes a long time to find the right guy, the guy who respects you and calls you beautiful are the ones worth keeping. When a guy is able to appreciate you for your beautiful personality and not only your looks then go for it. In the mean time, have fun! Live your life :)
Amen Ella85!! :)

Troubledgirl, there's never a good time, or a right time, or the "perfect" time to find a partner. When it happens, it happens. And it usually happens when you're not actively looking for him/her. Also, having a really, really, really specific "type" may leave you less open to finding someone who truly compliments your character and personality.
 

troubledgirl

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But please, don't talk anything else about me here, and please don't post any of my accounts in other websites here. I beg you to respect my privacy. I don't want to get severely bullied like Jessi Slaughter or Amanda Todd.
 

troubledgirl

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Amen Ella85!! :)

Troubledgirl, there's never a good time, or a right time, or the "perfect" time to find a partner. When it happens, it happens. And it usually happens when you're not actively looking for him/her. Also, having a really, really, really specific "type" may leave you less open to finding someone who truly compliments your character and personality.
Okay, I see.

By the way, does God plan the right person only when I progressed in Christianity like 100% or can God plan the person already the same day I became saved or even before I became saved?
 
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Donkeyfish07

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God Bless you troubled girl, whoever you are I truly hope he does.

On a side note, this thread is truly fascinating from a psychological point of view.
 

lncy

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How much? I'll do it, I'm 5'4 and I bet ya she smiles and giggles.


Hey trouble, is your real name faith? Because your the substance of things I've hoped for :p
Ok....1st Christian pick up line I've ever heard......! ha
 
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Donkeyfish07

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Ok....1st Christian pick up line I've ever heard......! ha
I totally stole it from a guy here, I think it was Markum if I'm not mistaken. I always said I was gonna use it :p
 

lncy

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Okay, I see.

By the way, does God plan the right person only when I progressed in Christianity like 100% or can God plan the person already the same day I became saved or even before I became saved?
I don't have an answer for this troubledgirl. None of us knows His plan for us. Try not to be so focused on finding the perfect one at the perfect time. Like I said, it'll happen when it'll happen. The more you relax about it, the more likely it is to happen. I know this is probably wrecking your head right now, but the key thing here is to just not focus on it so much. Take your mind off it by doing something else for a while ok?
 
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When, really?

When each knows we all have limitations, imperfections and things others would not miss...

Don´t get too old being picky or selfish, like this:

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But please, don't talk anything else about me here, and please don't post any of my accounts in other websites here. I beg you to respect my privacy. I don't want to get severely bullied like Jessi Slaughter or Amanda Todd.
Why do you keep bringing this up? While people here have given some ridiculous responses to your uh... threads/posts, you're the one who's been providing any details about yourself. None of us are going to post your information elsewhere.
 

ChandlerFan

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Why do you keep bringing this up? While people here have given some ridiculous responses to your uh... threads/posts, you're the one who's been providing any details about yourself. None of us are going to post your information elsewhere.
It's okay, someone posted her info in another thread, so I think it's just kind of a compulsive fear now. But we all do promise not to post anything private about you, troubledgirl. None of us are quite that interested anyway I don't think ha.
 
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livinginfaith

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You never get it's more of a walk in faith
 

troubledgirl

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That's it. I had enough. Now because I heard that God knows "better" than me that what kind of man I want, I refuse to get in a romantic relationship or marriage with a human guy. I will just hallucinate a guy who is exactly my type and then I am okay. I refuse to fall in love with a human guy who is not my type. And I will never fall in love with a human guy who is not my type. I WANT THE BLACKLONGHAIR GUY, GOODNESS DANG IT. And then later I will contact a scientist and ask them if they can create an adult human with scientific methods instead of 2 people having intercourse to create the person. I will always reject guys who are not my type and probably I will not be friends with any guy either unless they are in a relationship or married, or they are gay. Because I HATE it when a guy who is not my type falls in love with me or develops a crush on me. Ew ew ew ew ew ew ew ew EEEEEEEEEWWWWWW. They like get clingy too and they will always be like "plzzzz becuzz I looovvveeee youuuu soooo muuuuccchhh". SLIMY! Goodness why are they also so delusional that they think that they will someday get me even though I tell them that they are not my type!. You know I am so HURT today. See how mean and aggressive I can get when I get really HURT? Now I am showing you PROOF that I will NEVER EVER be with someone who is not my type. Case closed.
 

ChandlerFan

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^ It's alright, you're doing them all a favor in the end, goodness dang it! (That's my new favorite phrase now.)
 
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That's it. I had enough. Now because I heard that God knows "better" than me that what kind of man I want, I refuse to get in a romantic relationship or marriage with a human guy. I will just hallucinate a guy who is exactly my type and then I am okay. I refuse to fall in love with a human guy who is not my type. And I will never fall in love with a human guy who is not my type. I WANT THE BLACKLONGHAIR GUY, GOODNESS DANG IT. And then later I will contact a scientist and ask them if they can create an adult human with scientific methods instead of 2 people having intercourse to create the person. I will always reject guys who are not my type and probably I will not be friends with any guy either unless they are in a relationship or married, or they are gay. Because I HATE it when a guy who is not my type falls in love with me or develops a crush on me. Ew ew ew ew ew ew ew ew EEEEEEEEEWWWWWW. They like get clingy too and they will always be like "plzzzz becuzz I looovvveeee youuuu soooo muuuuccchhh". SLIMY! Goodness why are they also so delusional that they think that they will someday get me even though I tell them that they are not my type!. You know I am so HURT today. See how mean and aggressive I can get when I get really HURT? Now I am showing you PROOF that I will NEVER EVER be with someone who is not my type. Case closed.
Good luck with that.
 

blue_ladybug

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That's it. I had enough. Now because I heard that God knows "better" than me that what kind of man I want, I refuse to get in a romantic relationship or marriage with a human guy. I will just hallucinate a guy who is exactly my type and then I am okay. I refuse to fall in love with a human guy who is not my type. And I will never fall in love with a human guy who is not my type. I WANT THE BLACKLONGHAIR GUY, GOODNESS DANG IT. And then later I will contact a scientist and ask them if they can create an adult human with scientific methods instead of 2 people having intercourse to create the person. I will always reject guys who are not my type and probably I will not be friends with any guy either unless they are in a relationship or married, or they are gay. Because I HATE it when a guy who is not my type falls in love with me or develops a crush on me. Ew ew ew ew ew ew ew ew EEEEEEEEEWWWWWW. They like get clingy too and they will always be like "plzzzz becuzz I looovvveeee youuuu soooo muuuuccchhh". SLIMY! Goodness why are they also so delusional that they think that they will someday get me even though I tell them that they are not my type!. You know I am so HURT today. See how mean and aggressive I can get when I get really HURT? Now I am showing you PROOF that I will NEVER EVER be with someone who is not my type. Case closed.
The only thing you're showing us proof of is how certifiably in need of professional and psychological help you are!!! You are delusional if you think a scientist is gonna create an artificial human for you to have sex with!! That is sick and twisted and you definitely have a warped mind!!! If anyone reading your posts were'nt positive on whether you were a troll or not, they will be 100% convinced now!!
You are playing a dangerous game, little girl, presuming that you know more than God. That is called arrogant, prideful blasphemy!! We keep telling you to pray about finding the one for you--God is more than capable of finding a suitable black-haired christian man for you. :) But think about this: what are you gonna do if he says "ohhhhhh but I lovveeeeee youuuuuuuuu sooooo muchhhh"!!!??


You never listen to or take advice from anyone. You just start trollish threads and expect us to keep helping you. You've been banned from other christian sites for this type of behavior, so keep exhibiting the crazy, negative, prideful behavior and attitude, and I guarantee sooner or later you will be banned from this site also.

You are selfish and spoiled, arrogant, prideful, and rude. You are stubborn, and you'll be darned if you're going to follow God's will!!! Nope, your determined to have it your way, so prepare to reap the consequences. You sound like a spoiled-rotten selfish brat in this post. You dont want our help or you'd listen to us. You just want attention, attention, and more attention and when you dont get it, or we dont tell you what you want to hear, you throw a hissy fit and that only serves to convince us even more that 1.) you're a drama queen troll and 2.) that you're not a very godly christian who loves and follows Jesus. In ALL of your threads, you talk about yourself, what YOU like, what YOU want to do. You dont ever talk about God or Jesus!! You talk of demons, and wizards, and you talk about how YOU want your life to be. I'm sorry, but our lives dont go according to OUR plans for them, they go according to GOD'S plan for us. The sooner you accept that, the better off you will be. Tell him what kind of man you want--he says ask and you shall receive. :) But you have to ASK God, not DEMAND him.
 

troubledgirl

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The only thing you're showing us proof of is how certifiably in need of professional and psychological help you are!!! You are delusional if you think a scientist is gonna create an artificial human for you to have sex with!! That is sick and twisted and you definitely have a warped mind!!! If anyone reading your posts were'nt positive on whether you were a troll or not, they will be 100% convinced now!!
You are playing a dangerous game, little girl, presuming that you know more than God. That is called arrogant, prideful blasphemy!! We keep telling you to pray about finding the one for you--God is more than capable of finding a suitable black-haired christian man for you. :) But think about this: what are you gonna do if he says "ohhhhhh but I lovveeeeee youuuuuuuuu sooooo muchhhh"!!!??


You never listen to or take advice from anyone. You just start trollish threads and expect us to keep helping you. You've been banned from other christian sites for this type of behavior, so keep exhibiting the crazy, negative, prideful behavior and attitude, and I guarantee sooner or later you will be banned from this site also.

You are selfish and spoiled, arrogant, prideful, and rude. You are stubborn, and you'll be darned if you're going to follow God's will!!! Nope, your determined to have it your way, so prepare to reap the consequences. You sound like a spoiled-rotten selfish brat in this post. You dont want our help or you'd listen to us. You just want attention, attention, and more attention and when you dont get it, or we dont tell you what you want to hear, you throw a hissy fit and that only serves to convince us even more that 1.) you're a drama queen troll and 2.) that you're not a very godly christian who loves and follows Jesus. In ALL of your threads, you talk about yourself, what YOU like, what YOU want to do. You dont ever talk about God or Jesus!! You talk of demons, and wizards, and you talk about how YOU want your life to be. I'm sorry, but our lives dont go according to OUR plans for them, they go according to GOD'S plan for us. The sooner you accept that, the better off you will be. Tell him what kind of man you want--he says ask and you shall receive. :) But you have to ASK God, not DEMAND him.
GOOD. And if a guy of my type will say "ooohhh I looooovvvveeee youuuu so much", then I will be really happy. And lol, now I think that my Holy Spirit side is crying about my aggressiveness. I DON'T FREAKING CARE! He hurt me first by showing everyday horrible situations of guys of my type being with some disgusting promiscuous looking Barbie queenbee girlfriends and then those situations always make me worry and then one day I go to my Calvary Chapel and I ask that why do I keep seeing that and then they say "I am sorry but God knows best what type of guy you like so it will never be a guy with black long hair" and then I come home crying. I don't want to be the only one who is hurt. I want the one who hurts me to be hurt too.
 

gypsygirl

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That's it. I had enough. Now because I heard that God knows "better" than me that what kind of man I want, I refuse to get in a romantic relationship or marriage with a human guy. I will just hallucinate a guy who is exactly my type and then I am okay. I refuse to fall in love with a human guy who is not my type. And I will never fall in love with a human guy who is not my type. I WANT THE BLACKLONGHAIR GUY, GOODNESS DANG IT. And then later I will contact a scientist and ask them if they can create an adult human with scientific methods instead of 2 people having intercourse to create the person. I will always reject guys who are not my type and probably I will not be friends with any guy either unless they are in a relationship or married, or they are gay. Because I HATE it when a guy who is not my type falls in love with me or develops a crush on me. Ew ew ew ew ew ew ew ew EEEEEEEEEWWWWWW. They like get clingy too and they will always be like "plzzzz becuzz I looovvveeee youuuu soooo muuuuccchhh". SLIMY! Goodness why are they also so delusional that they think that they will someday get me even though I tell them that they are not my type!. You know I am so HURT today. See how mean and aggressive I can get when I get really HURT? Now I am showing you PROOF that I will NEVER EVER be with someone who is not my type. Case closed.

praying for you, troubledgirl. i think you're focusing on this physical type to the extent that you are making it an idol, and it's become almost a quasi-fetish.

most of us all know what is physically attractive to us, but generally, it doesn't define the person (or create a deal-breaker situation). i've been wildly attracted to guys that were outside of my "physical" type, because at the end of the day, the shell isn't the man. it's just one piece of the big picture. and i will also point out that as i've matured, the emphasis on physical attraction has changed for me--not that i would ever be with someone i wasn't physically attracted to, but that it just shifts into wider range of what is "attractive". i think this is part of the maturing process.

did you ever think about the fact that your physical type could easily cut his hair, gain weight, or do a number of things that would fall outside of your "type"? people are so much more than their shell. we fall in love with all of it, not the wrapper.

you've earlier posted about some of your health challenges, and i would really encourage you to continue to follow up with your care provider(s) because i believe some of this hyperfocus may be related. i may be wrong, but it's just a hunch.

finally, please open yourself up to the fact that you have a lot more things to learn, to discuss, to focus on other than tall, dark haired, pasty guys. : )
 
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troubledgirl

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praying for you, troubledgirl. i think you're focusing on this physical type to the extent that you are making it an idol, and it's become almost a quasi-fetish, of sort.

most of us all know what is physically attractive to us, but generally, it doesn't define the person. i've been wildly attracted to guys that were outside of my "physical" type, because at the end of the day, the shell isn't the man. it's just a piece of the big picture.

you've earlier posted about some of your health challenges, and i would really encourage you to continue to follow up with your care provider(s) because i believe some of this hyperfocus may be related. i may be wrong, but it's just a hunch.

finally, please open yourself up to the fact that you have a lot more things to learn, to discuss, to focus on other than tall, dark haired, pasty guys. : )
Ugh gross. If you were in a relationship with guys who are not your type, then it means you were desperate.

And no. IT'S JUST THAT I CANNOT FALL IN LOVE WITH GUYS WHO ARE NOT MY TYPE!!!!!!! WHY THE HECK WOULD I BE WITH SOMEONE WHO IS NOT MY TYPE! I WILL NEVER BE WITH A FREAKING CARROT TOP WHO PLAYS PRANKS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
 

blue_ladybug

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Ugh gross. If you were in a relationship with guys who are not your type, then it means you were desperate.

And no. IT'S JUST THAT I CANNOT FALL IN LOVE WITH GUYS WHO ARE NOT MY TYPE!!!!!!! WHY THE HECK WOULD I BE WITH SOMEONE WHO IS NOT MY TYPE! I WILL NEVER BE WITH A FREAKING CARROT TOP WHO PLAYS PRANKS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
You're way too young and immature for ANYONE to be with you right now. You're judging ALL guys on what one or two guys may have done to you. Like we keep saying, ask God to help you find the right christian man for you. Tell God what you want him to look like. But dont judge all men based on a bad experience with just a few.
 
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