Who else here is over 30 and a virgin?

[UCA4J]

I turn 33 later this year and I'm still a virgin. Don't laugh....even though I know you want to.


I feel like it's a rare thing for a person my age to still be a virgin. And that's probably because it is....especially in this day and age. It seems today that even many Christians have sex out of wedlock.


But I don't think there's anything wrong with being over 30 and a virgin....despite how society might view you for it. If you get to be a certain age and you still have your V-card, some people might view you as a strange or inadequate person. But I say....why should I care what some people will think when it comes to that?


On the other hand, there ARE certain people out there (Christians included) that want to wait until they're married. Or at least want to wait until they've found someone special. And I say....kudos to those people. IMO, that's an admirable goal in today's world.


So who else here is in the same boat?

my parents were 26 when they married.
Most of my immediate relatives were around the same age when they married.
Few cousins were over 30 when they married.
I say that, cos I'm nearing 40, and am very, very, very single.
Did I say "very"?
Anyway, according to my ancestry, I'm gonna be one of the oldest males in my family, when I do marry.
My parents have queried me a few times about it.
Few people have actually regularly asked me.
I just tell people "you'll know after I do", about who my wife is.

 

[Johari]

I don't feel like laughing. Sure it may be rare at your age in your area but that doesn't mean people will harshly judge you. Some people will assume it's by choice and some will assume you never had the opportunity depending on your looks and/or personality.

If your sexual status makes friends exclude you or dates run away maybe it's best not to disclose that info early on. If it's after you've known them for a good amount of time well then let them go.

 

[UCA4J]

I don't feel like laughing. Sure it may be rare at your age in your area but that doesn't mean people will harshly judge you. Some people will assume it's by choice and some will assume you never had the opportunity depending on your looks and/or personality.

If your sexual status makes friends exclude you or dates run away maybe it's best not to disclose that info early on. If it's after you've known them for a good amount of time well then let them go.

people have asked me, cos I have discussed but with them, but they don't continually do so, to the point of setting me up with any single women.
It's pretty much a non issue for folks I know.

 

[Eph519]

If you’re a Christian, it’s definitely admirable to only be active with your spouse. The way it should be.

 

[Johari]

people have asked me, cos I have discussed but with them, but they don't continually do so, to the point of setting me up with any single women.
It's pretty much a non issue for folks I know.

I was referring to the OP...but it's good to hear your area isn't so judgmental.
I still don't see why then you're so set on finding Frenchie when there are other other who could possibly be Mrs. UCA4J.

 

[UCA4J]

I was referring to the OP...but it's good to hear your area isn't so judgmental.
I still don't see why then you're so set on finding Frenchie when there are other other who could possibly be Mrs. UCA4J.

she went out of her way, to contact me.